Bf (28M) and I (24F) can't agree on child's circumcision

TL;DR BF and I can't agree on future son's circumcision.

Title explanatory. We have been together almost 8 years and plan on having children in the future, like faaaar future. I brought it up the other day and said that I would not be circumcising my son. He disagreed and said that he wants to have it done. He is circumcised. I told him that it is not medically necessary, its not our choice to cut skin off of a tiny human that can't consent, he might be upset about it when he grows up, and that its a stigma only in America (basically) about uncircumcised dicks being unclean/more prone to disease, etc. He countered with that he wants them to be the same and that he wouldn't know how to teach him to clean it or what to do about it, didn't want him to be made fun of or rejected later in life by future partners, didn't want him to deal with "dick cheese". I said that its extremely painful to the babies and that they scream and I disagree with EVERY aspect about it. "Oh he won't remember, I don't, and I am glad that my parents had it done".

He said sorry, I want it to be done. I feel conflicted because I am not a man and don't really know about it. I think that if I show him a video and we keep having discussions on it, show some articles? Maybe I can help him make an informed decision. It seems like a lot of people have no clue about the practice and believe a lot of myths/untruths.

Please don't say: dump/breakup/etc. It may come to that at a later date, but not before I try to be a mature adult and have honest open discussions. Does anyone have any advice? Has anyone else been through this before?

Submitted April 05, 2019 at 07:56PM

TL;DR BF and I can't agree on future son's circumcision.Title explanatory. We have been together almost 8 years and plan on having children in the future, like faaaar future. I brought it up the other day and said that I would not be circumcising my son. He disagreed and said that he wants to have it done. He is circumcised. I told him that it is not medically necessary, its not our choice to cut skin off of a tiny human that can't consent, he might be upset about it when he grows up, and that its a stigma only in America (basically) about uncircumcised dicks being unclean/more prone to disease, etc. He countered with that he wants them to be the same and that he wouldn't know how to teach him to clean it or what to do about it, didn't want him to be made fun of or rejected later in life by future partners, didn't want him to deal with "dick cheese". I said that its extremely painful to the babies and that they scream and I disagree with EVERY aspect about it. "Oh he won't remember, I don't, and I am glad that my parents had it done".He said sorry, I want it to be done. I feel conflicted because I am not a man and don't really know about it. I think that if I show him a video and we keep having discussions on it, show some articles? Maybe I can help him make an informed decision. It seems like a lot of people have no clue about the practice and believe a lot of myths/untruths.Please don't say: dump/breakup/etc. It may come to that at a later date, but not before I try to be a mature adult and have honest open discussions. Does anyone have any advice? Has anyone else been through this before?