How do I[25F] get my boyfriend[26M] of 2 years to get into the mood more?

Some background, when we first got together we would do everything. Kissing, sensual touching, sex, oral, etc. He would just start touching me and one thing lead to another and we would have the best sex. But it only lasted 5-6 months. Then it's like he got tired of me.

He took a break from me last year and we stayed in different places. He would come over to have great sex with me and then leave. But now that we are offical again its back to next to nothing.

We have sex maybe once a week if in super lucky but usually ends up being around 2-3 a month. This is incredibly low for me. And its usually me begging for him to have sex with me. I cant remember the last time we just started kissing and then lead it into sex. It makes me feel unattractive.

I dont know if hes suffering with anything but last time I asked he said it was because he sees me to much and it's not really exciting or like hes been missing me. It makes me feel shitty. Like I wish I could disappear for a week and maybe I wont have to ask for it? And then not to long ago i walked in on him masterbating and it makes me question if I'm just not pretty anymore?

He also said he wishes I wasnt so horny now and wishes I was like how I was a few years ago before I got with him. I was with an abusive guy and didnt enjoy sex and hated it but when I got with him I really learned how to enjoy it and love it. It's all new to me... so it hurt when he said this.

My new birth control I'm taking isnt helping because it's making me constantly horny and i dont really like the thought of a toy or anything. I hate having to take birth control and risk gaining a lot of weight(combined with my autoimmune its hard to lose weight already) plus other issues for only twice a month.

Any suggestions?

TL;DR My boyfriend doesnt seem to enjoy sex and I'm always begging for it. How do I fix this?



Submitted April 05, 2019 at 08:59PM

Some background, when we first got together we would do everything. Kissing, sensual touching, sex, oral, etc. He would just start touching me and one thing lead to another and we would have the best sex. But it only lasted 5-6 months. Then it's like he got tired of me.He took a break from me last year and we stayed in different places. He would come over to have great sex with me and then leave. But now that we are offical again its back to next to nothing.We have sex maybe once a week if in super lucky but usually ends up being around 2-3 a month. This is incredibly low for me. And its usually me begging for him to have sex with me. I cant remember the last time we just started kissing and then lead it into sex. It makes me feel unattractive.I dont know if hes suffering with anything but last time I asked he said it was because he sees me to much and it's not really exciting or like hes been missing me. It makes me feel shitty. Like I wish I could disappear for a week and maybe I wont have to ask for it? And then not to long ago i walked in on him masterbating and it makes me question if I'm just not pretty anymore?He also said he wishes I wasnt so horny now and wishes I was like how I was a few years ago before I got with him. I was with an abusive guy and didnt enjoy sex and hated it but when I got with him I really learned how to enjoy it and love it. It's all new to me... so it hurt when he said this.My new birth control I'm taking isnt helping because it's making me constantly horny and i dont really like the thought of a toy or anything. I hate having to take birth control and risk gaining a lot of weight(combined with my autoimmune its hard to lose weight already) plus other issues for only twice a month.Any suggestions?TL;DR My boyfriend doesnt seem to enjoy sex and I'm always begging for it. How do I fix this?
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