With my current partner, I have given him an out and said "I know I can't give you everything you want and if you want to seek that with another person, I'm giving you permission" to which he denied. He takes care of himself and we occasionally (couple times a year) will have sex but only when I want to (and he does too obv) and initiate it. October 20, 2021 at 12:28AM

I feel this way too. Not sure why. October 20, 2021 at 12:28AM

I don't but I'm uncomfortable with most touches from most people. I'll hug my mother, grandmother and sister easily, but that's about it October 20, 2021 at 12:22AM

I answered kinda because although it wasn't sex, it was letting him touch me sexually even though I didn't want that and it made me uncomfortable. I felt like I had to let him do it, that I don't get a say in it and I need to to it to make him happy. That guy is blocked everywhere don't worry he's not talking to me anytime soon :) October 20, 2021 at 12:22AM

I was never really good at these type of things ans I want to make my girlfriend feel good in every type of way. Is there anything I can do to be more of the dominant type? I'm an amateur with these type of things. I'm dominant but not in the way the type of dominant she wants. I just want to use words and actions to make it a lot better for her. Submitted October 20, 2021 at 12:34AM I was never really good at these type of things ans I want to make my girlfriend feel good in every type of way. Is there anything I can do to be more of the dominant type? I'm an amateur with these type of things. I'm dominant but not in the way the type of dominant she wants. I just want to use words and actions to make it a lot better for her.

I (35F) am in a relationship with a truly lovely man (40M). We communicate very well about everything including having hard conversations and working forwards on our future. Our sex life has grown and we are active and happy with this. We are open to exploring what each other wants and we have pushed boundaries in the past and have plans to keep pushing boundaries in the future. We are working on some issues with our different needs but that's not a bad thing because we talk about it. We use each other's phone at different times for convenience to make calls or share interesting things or whatever. So from this I know that my bf looks at women online. I mean on reddit and IG and twitter. I already know he did and I am not uncomfortable with him looking online or in real life. What I don't understand is him making comments. He doesn't comment much and it's not really inappropriate in that he just says if he thinks that particular woman is hot. But I don't unde...

Basically I've been good with my nuvaring for the last 6 months- just had my "off" week during my period which would call for me to insert a new ring yesterday (I didn't) and still haven't (need to refill my prescription.... really want to see my boyfriend tonight though and don't want to use a condom... I know pulling out is the worst "contraception" being that it doesn't work... buttttt do any of u with knowledge involving b.c know if just 2 days off since my b.c free week makes it too risky ??? ​ Thanks! Submitted October 20, 2021 at 12:44AM Basically I've been good with my nuvaring for the last 6 months- just had my "off" week during my period which would call for me to insert a new ring yesterday (I didn't) and still haven't (need to refill my prescription.... really want to see my boyfriend tonight though and don't want to use a condom... I know pulling out is the worst "contraception" being that...

Date my ex for almost 4 years. There were a lot of red flags I should have seen, but I'll skip that and just say at least I ended it instead of marrying her. It's been a couple of months and I'm itching to get back out there because I feel like I'm wasting my prime. Physically I'm in fantastic shape. 5'10" (yeah I know... short) but I'm cut, athletic, and have great muscle definition. Career, got it made as a very successful engineer that's also very social. Mentality? Fucked. I was degraded for 4 years for being bad in bed. Reasons I was told I'm bad in bed: Didn't make her cum often. I would go down on her for a long time in any session that either of us were remotely feeling it. She'd get plenty close, but she LOVED PIV so she'd cut it off to get fucked. She admittedly had an amazing vagina. Like. Tight as shit every time ever. I came fast, we did lots to train that out but the only real solution was to make me cum before...

Hey guys and girls, this might sound like a strange question but there’s a few things I need help with… So I’ve been hooking up with this girl and we’ve used hands and mouths and that’s fine it’s worked as I imagined it would after the initial anxiety around it(she’s a lot more experienced). When we have gone for penetrative sexual intercourse is it different than how we grow up believing it will be? I seemed to really struggle with like the rhythm of the whole thing and it didn’t feel quite like I imagined although I did enjoy the intimacy of the situation (she said it was nice even though I couldn’t finish)…is it not the same as what I’ve grown up learning or thinking about sex or is it something that comes when you are more comfortable with each other … I struggle with overthinking stuff anyway but I particularly found missionary and getting into the same rhythm so to speak difficult As an added point when we like dry hump that feels great but then I don’t know whether sex act...

I don't understand why I repel men so much. I'm 28F. The father of my baby ghosted me last year when I decided to keep the baby. I finally went on another first date like a month ago. He clearly had a great time and showed great interest. Then just... didn't and stopped texting me and wouldn't see me again. Now yesterday I had an ex reach out and say he wants to get back together and how we were gonna talk about it today and it was gonna be awesome. Guess what. Crickets from him and my messages didn't deliver. I really don't get what I'm doing wrong. Im really not ugly but I hardly ever get approached or asked out by men in real life unless it's a catcall for sex. My personality is good, I think, I'm not toxic, I'm not clingy. I really don't get it. Submitted October 20, 2021 at 12:02AM I don't understand why I repel men so much. I'm 28F. The father of my baby ghosted me last year when I decided to keep the baby. I finally wen...

I (48M) really hate when people use filters or the old pics, but especially dislike when they ad little hearts and other “face stickers” like the sparkles. I know it’s not a reasonable thing, makes no sense, but I really am turned off by the puppy nose and ears. I don’t know why, I know I’m lame, but I swipe left. Anybody else have a reaction like this? Am I on an island here? Submitted October 20, 2021 at 12:05AM I (48M) really hate when people use filters or the old pics, but especially dislike when they ad little hearts and other “face stickers” like the sparkles. I know it’s not a reasonable thing, makes no sense, but I really am turned off by the puppy nose and ears. I don’t know why, I know I’m lame, but I swipe left.Anybody else have a reaction like this? Am I on an island here?

The reason why I’m (21 F) asking is because there’s this man(25M) I’ve been seeing for the last month or so. We do not talk at all in between the times we hang out. Like at all. 90% of the time he reaches out to me to hang out and we have such a great time when we are together in person. Like best emotional and physical chemistry ever. However, the frequency of when we see each other is odd since we don’t talk in between and then when we do see each other it’s like once a week. Is this normal? I ask because I’m personally used to constant communication & seeing the person I’m interested in multiple times a week. I don’t mind the time gaps because when I’m with him we “make up” for that time spent apart & catch up. I’m just genuinely curious if this is something that is common. Submitted October 20, 2021 at 12:11AM The reason why I’m (21 F) asking is because there’s this man(25M) I’ve been seeing for the last month or so. We do not talk at all in between the times we han...

hey reddit, i (24f) started a new job recently as an activity coordinator/receptionist at a retirement home. prior, i’ve worked in mostly women oriented fields (plus recently got out of a 4 year relationship about 8/9m ago). a new guy started working as a cook in the retirement and introduced himself to me. to set the tone, he’s tall, athletic, handsome, dark eyed. like really suave dude. i would get really nervous around him and couldn’t tell if he’d pick up on it but he’d flirt with me and say cutesy things to me that i wouldn’t really either respond to or respond to probably awkwardly. i don’t do well with flirting without having built some type of rapport prior which is why i’m struggling now. he asked me to hang with him once on one of our half hour lunch breaks which ended up being really awkward for me, so to make up for it, i asked him if he’d like to get drinks later and gave him my number. long story short, we never got together and i would tease him about it occasionally...

I (16M) have liked this girl (16F) for a while now and I have been thinking of asking her out but she has pronouns in her bio and I have no idea if she is a girl or boy or whether she likes girls or boys the pronouns are (they/he/she) what does this mean Submitted October 20, 2021 at 12:14AM I (16M) have liked this girl (16F) for a while now and I have been thinking of asking her out but she has pronouns in her bio and I have no idea if she is a girl or boy or whether she likes girls or boys the pronouns are (they/he/she) what does this mean

Never had a partner 😔 October 19, 2021 at 11:16PM

Idk. My fiance is the only one who ever touches me, pretty much ever. Sometimes it's ok, sometimes it's awkward. I don't like when family touches me, either. And that goes for everyone else. Idk what caused it; I used to be very affectionate and touchy-feely. I'm very confused by it. October 19, 2021 at 11:15PM

If any waterbuffalo was going to be the one for me, that one would probably be it. October 19, 2021 at 11:11PM

I have mixed feelings about massages; I like them from people I’m close to like family or friends. I hate them from strangers—I don’t like to be touched by strangers as all. I think that’s more bc I’m autistic than asexual tho. But also, I’m really sensitive and deep massages, even ones that my dad does on my shoulders in passing, like those brief shoulder rubs in greeting as you walk through a room, can send pain shooting across my shoulders. I can tell that it’s not hard enough to hurt “normally,” I’m just sensitive and bruise easily. The one time I had a real massage I was incredibly anxious due to not only be touching by a stranger (even another woman) but by having to undress for it. I was incredibly tense the entire time and couldn’t relax. Part of it was being in a vulnerable, undressed state and the other was being touched by a stranger. Not for me. October 19, 2021 at 11:10PM

If you were in a comfortable environment with someone you know particularly well, it is possible that trust issues might no longer apply. And, if they are the source of your dislike of touch, then that might not apply either. Obviously, deep rooted issues like those aren't going to just up and go away and it would take a lot to overcome them but, if your dislike of touch is a knock-on effect and not something inherent then the possibility should, logically, exist. As for whether that's something you'd want to explore, though, that's entirely up to you. October 19, 2021 at 11:10PM

:(( That's absolutely awful October 19, 2021 at 11:04PM