How to get back out there after a 4 year toxic relationship? [25M]

Date my ex for almost 4 years. There were a lot of red flags I should have seen, but I'll skip that and just say at least I ended it instead of marrying her.

It's been a couple of months and I'm itching to get back out there because I feel like I'm wasting my prime. Physically I'm in fantastic shape. 5'10" (yeah I know... short) but I'm cut, athletic, and have great muscle definition. Career, got it made as a very successful engineer that's also very social. Mentality? Fucked. I was degraded for 4 years for being bad in bed.

Reasons I was told I'm bad in bed:

  • Didn't make her cum often. I would go down on her for a long time in any session that either of us were remotely feeling it. She'd get plenty close, but she LOVED PIV so she'd cut it off to get fucked.

  • She admittedly had an amazing vagina. Like. Tight as shit every time ever. I came fast, we did lots to train that out but the only real solution was to make me cum before. This was not an issue with any previous partner.

  • Her sex drive was so much higher than mine. I love sex, but once a day or 10 times per week is enough for me. She could run 30 times per week happily. I couldn't keep up.

  • Anytime we drank she wanted super aggressive sex. Like, she started fights in hopes I'd hit her. I never would and that would make her more mad. Might be some people's thing but not even slightly mine, I can spank or play around, but I have no feeling to beat the shit out of a girl when I'm mad just for her to turn around and get off on it.

  • I have a really girthy dick of average length. She loved that because her cervix was super sensitive so I never punched it but I filled her up. She would still get in pissy moods and go off on me for not having a bigger dick.

I don't really know where I'm going with this other than I have zero sexual confidence AT ALL. I have great charisma, I have no problem getting attention from girls when talking in person... but confidence to take it from that point to anything further is non-existant. Therefore tinder and the likes are useless. I might as well be friend zoned before talking.

Any and all tips would be appreciated. Happy to discuss if you want to know more about me to help. Thanks kind strangers.



Submitted October 20, 2021 at 12:47AM

Date my ex for almost 4 years. There were a lot of red flags I should have seen, but I'll skip that and just say at least I ended it instead of marrying her.It's been a couple of months and I'm itching to get back out there because I feel like I'm wasting my prime. Physically I'm in fantastic shape. 5'10" (yeah I know... short) but I'm cut, athletic, and have great muscle definition. Career, got it made as a very successful engineer that's also very social. Mentality? Fucked. I was degraded for 4 years for being bad in bed.Reasons I was told I'm bad in bed:Didn't make her cum often. I would go down on her for a long time in any session that either of us were remotely feeling it. She'd get plenty close, but she LOVED PIV so she'd cut it off to get fucked.She admittedly had an amazing vagina. Like. Tight as shit every time ever. I came fast, we did lots to train that out but the only real solution was to make me cum before. This was not an issue with any previous partner.Her sex drive was so much higher than mine. I love sex, but once a day or 10 times per week is enough for me. She could run 30 times per week happily. I couldn't keep up.Anytime we drank she wanted super aggressive sex. Like, she started fights in hopes I'd hit her. I never would and that would make her more mad. Might be some people's thing but not even slightly mine, I can spank or play around, but I have no feeling to beat the shit out of a girl when I'm mad just for her to turn around and get off on it.I have a really girthy dick of average length. She loved that because her cervix was super sensitive so I never punched it but I filled her up. She would still get in pissy moods and go off on me for not having a bigger dick.I don't really know where I'm going with this other than I have zero sexual confidence AT ALL. I have great charisma, I have no problem getting attention from girls when talking in person... but confidence to take it from that point to anything further is non-existant. Therefore tinder and the likes are useless. I might as well be friend zoned before talking.Any and all tips would be appreciated. Happy to discuss if you want to know more about me to help. Thanks kind strangers.
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