I’m 31, aro-ace, and never intend to get married (or even date). Relationships and marriage just aren’t for everyone. I come from a conservative culture as well (Chinese), and I’ve had family members give me the side eye at times, but who cares? It’s your life, not theirs. Pay no mind to the pressure your mother tries to throw on you. Like water off a duck’s back September 29, 2021 at 11:28PM

Dear 'defenders' and 'advocates': FUCK. OFF. Seriously tho, what kind of troll logic is this? You're opressing me by not wanting to fuck me? Like, what?! This has to be some kind of right-wing shenanigans, people can't possibly be that stupid. September 29, 2021 at 11:27PM

For me when I was a little girl I used to hump things and discovered something felt good. I then had a huge crush on a actor but in real life he was engaged so I got my heartbroken and I decided to make my own boyfriend up basing him off the actors face and body. So I didn't think anything was off with me until I had sex and experimented with different guys with sex. Nothing worked and I was often met with haven't had good sex yet but I did. I mean "good sex" is o different opinions anyway. I was never aroused during any of my sexual encounter's. But I've realized I have a connection to aegosexuality. I've at times struggled with having feeling's of negativity towards sex because it's a frustrating having a sex drive and not being able to get physical pleasure from partnered sex. For the most part I think sex is a beautiful thing, its mainly when I start hating myself for who I am is when I say things or think things sexual give me bad feelings. I...

I used to be hyper sexual as a younger teenager, but as I got older I realized that I wasn't attracted to anyone irl sexually and only had sexual fantasies about fictional characters. September 29, 2021 at 11:22PM

When people showed me pictures gushing over how hot someone was and I just thought they looked... okay I guess September 29, 2021 at 11:22PM

Here’s kind of an update. I haven’t talked to any of the girls since that Monday, over a week ago. By the end of last week, my roommate and I have concluded that it is a slight possibility that it might happen. That Monday night I meant to text a group of friends back home the news. But, I texted my frat chat accidentally. (Well all I texted was “I got BIG news). When, I realized that I texted the wrong chat, it was too late. I did text the group chat that I meant to text after I was texting my frat chat. I told them I accidentally texted the wrong group chat and meant to text a group chat of friends from back home. They all wanted to know. By Tuesday, they were able to convince me to tell them the news after Chapter that Friday. So, I told them the news after chapter that Friday and showed them pictures of the girls. All of this caused them to loose their shit and they had MANY questions for me. They was shocked that the girls wanted to do it (I consider myself a 4, maybe 3 and the...

Well, this has quite a few layers into this. I feel like I need to question if I am attracted to my boyfriend. I have been masturbating by humping blankets since I am a teenager. I have tried using my hands and some other things as well but it didn't really work. I didn't think about it much since I thought I'll never be in a sexual relationship with anyone. I also don't watch porn or imagine myself having sex during masturbation but only other people. 4 months ago I have fallen in love and started a romantic relationship with my boyfriend. Appearently, he never had any romantic nor sexual relationship with anyone before, either. We have been doing sexual things together for 2 months. I haven't gotten any orgasm during our activities. At first, that really affected him and I felt terrible for not getting off. We have talked about the whole situation of me not getting an orgasm unless I am humping a blanket and he told me that he doesn't want to do anything se...

i have a vibrator and tried to masturbate but i really dont know i just dont think it’s for me- it turns me on a lot more having a partner with me than just being alone. my current partner is amazing. he loves to please me and it’s his goal to make me cum. i found what almost gets me there is when we’re having penetrative sex and i have my vibrator on my clit and he kinda lays on me to apply pressure and it feels fucking amazing. every time we have sex i feel so close but i dont cum. i remember reading “if you dont know whether you’ve had an orgasm or not, you probably haven’t” so i know i havent. i really dont know, i feel like i just get super fucking sensitive and then i just cant get there. i know the sensitivity is when im about to cum but i just havent yet. i just feel like when i get super sensitive it just gets too much for me or the vibrator moves out of place and the feeling goes away for me. i communicate with my partner what i like and he does it. it’s honestly just super...

Hey all, got a question about refractory time in men. I’ve been with my girlfriend for a few months now and everything is great. Sex is good too, for the most part. The biggest issue for me is I have trouble getting and maintaining an erection SOMETIMES - not all the time. I’m 25 by the way. For example, this past weekend we had sex about five times and I had no issues what-so-ever. Usually, I can only see her on the weekends and everything’s great. However, she had a couple days off work starting Monday and she stayed with me. Monday took a while to get going - she helped me get there after playing with it for 10 minutes and I came only after a couple. Yesterday and today were different stories. Yesterday I couldn’t maintain an erection so she finished me with oral. Today I could hardly get it up, so she just used her mouth to get me there. After about 10 minutes of that I got hard and instantly came. It happened suddenly. Any ideas? I’m really lost. I’ve been to the doctor recen...

I’ve (24F) been sexually active since I was a teenager and one constant problem I seem to have is that when my partner penetrates me… it ALWAYS hurts. I’ve had multiple guys say that they can’t go any further and at first I thought maybe they were trying to brag, and say they’re too big for me or whatever but I’ve realised this comment happens even when I’m with girls and they use their fingers. Even in non sexual scenarios, like at the doctor, it seems they hit a ‘wall’ very quickly too. Not to get too off topic but my first time wasn’t exactly pleasant and I’m now wondering if it’s a defensive response I didn’t know I was doing? Clenching up unintentionally to stop them going in? Or is my vagina just shallow? How can you tell? Please only serious replies in the comments, I’m genuinely wondering what’s wrong with me. Submitted September 30, 2021 at 12:43AM I’ve (24F) been sexually active since I was a teenager and one constant problem I seem to have is that when my partner p...

I hated him at first. I thought he was the biggest misogynist. I hate-watched him basically. After a few episodes, things started registering. I didn’t hate him, I disliked him at that point. However I inherently following the advice he preached. 4 months later, I met the man of my dreams. I noticed my flaws and here it was: - going for ‘hard to get men’ - going for emotionally unavailable men - wanting to change emotionally unavailable men - expecting men to do more for me than I do for them - not realizing men want compliments too (this sounds dumb, but I thought doing this was being too forward) - not comprising / being stringent on physical requirements How I got the man of my dreams and what I do differently: - being financially stable and equally splitting our finances - being comfortable in my femininity and embracing it. I allowed myself to lean on my partner when it came to feeling safe, protected and comfortable both physically and emotionally. Always thought I had to be ...

So I (30F) work part-time at a coffee shop and started to notice this particular guy (28M). I made it a point to greet him by name and try and make conversation when I would see him come in. More so than I would with a normal customer. One of my coworkers that’s also a good friend asked if we knew each other because of the amount of eye contact she noticed. I said not really but I would like to. She said I should go for it. Normally I’m very shy and terrified of rejection but I worked up the nerve to slip him my number. He texted pretty quickly initially, but after that didn’t seem to respond. I didn’t want to over text him and I know he’s likely busy but I’m curious if he was just being polite by texting me his number or is waiting for me to say something more interesting or maybe just straight up ask him out? Mainly I’m confused because wouldn’t he have let me know if he wasn’t interested or did I mess up and make it weird to begin with? Submitted September 30, 2021 at 12:13AM...

I (17M) was in the middle of a conversation with my crush and this girl comes up to me and tries talking to me while I’m focused on someone else who I’m actually interested in (very inconsiderate of her) so my crush then left because she had somewhere to be and left looking at her. She ignored my texts for 1 day straight. She ignored my texts again when I just tried to focus on myself for a few hours in school. She said she wasn’t looking for a relationship a few days prior but yet has behaved quite odd since then. Could she be conflicted with her own feelings or is she just an attention seeker? Submitted September 30, 2021 at 12:13AM I (17M) was in the middle of a conversation with my crush and this girl comes up to me and tries talking to me while I’m focused on someone else who I’m actually interested in (very inconsiderate of her) so my crush then left because she had somewhere to be and left looking at her. She ignored my texts for 1 day straight. She ignored my texts again...

I have been regularly seeing a guy -who I met on a dating app- for 7 months, tho we always met friendly and he never made a move to have a relationship with me. So basically we r friends. His birthday is soon and he always wanted to do a DNA-ancestry test. I wanna but it and its so expensive and I really don't know if I should I buy such an expensive gift for him? Submitted September 30, 2021 at 12:13AM I have been regularly seeing a guy -who I met on a dating app- for 7 months, tho we always met friendly and he never made a move to have a relationship with me. So basically we r friends. His birthday is soon and he always wanted to do a DNA-ancestry test. I wanna but it and its so expensive and I really don't know if I should I buy such an expensive gift for him?

Got lost on a subway in Japan. Could use someone who has a better sense of direction so I don't end up in another country next time. Traits: Ambitious, Loyal, and some say I could be funny 🤷🏽‍♂️ Job: Radiation Therapist, Day trader Hobbies: Cars, DJ, adventurer, nap enthusiast Submitted September 30, 2021 at 12:13AM Got lost on a subway in Japan. Could use someone who has a better sense of direction so I don't end up in another country next time.Traits: Ambitious, Loyal, and some say I could be funny 🤷🏽‍♂️Job: Radiation Therapist, Day traderHobbies: Cars, DJ, adventurer, nap enthusiast

The minority of women who shame men for being virgins are actually shaming what they perceive to be sexual inexperience and the presumed lack of prowess, which they conflate with male virginity. It’s not the actual “virginity” of a guy per se, so much as the social connotations of it (which are created and perpetuated by both men and women). September 29, 2021 at 11:16PM

I've known I was ace for a while, maybe 2-3 years. *However* I just learned today by reading this post that this is the reason someone would put a poster on the ceiling over their bed. I'm 34. Being ace is kind of a series of realizations like that for me lol. September 29, 2021 at 11:14PM

when i was in 6th-7th grade i would get asked what I liked abt my girlfriend and i said that I rly just liked her personality and her as a person and not as much of bc shes a girl with milkers. come to find out that most people do more than hold hands and cuddle n thought that rly wasnt my thing. Didnt know there was a name to it until last year when I started genuinely exploring my sexuality instead of settling on the title bisexual bc I was too lazy to do my research September 29, 2021 at 11:14PM

Sorry about that. It's currently 142 trauma, 1k born with it September 29, 2021 at 11:08PM

Me! I feel ripped off. I was so excited to have sex and know what all the fuss was about and turns out it feels neutral at absolute best, and just makes a mess. September 29, 2021 at 11:05PM