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Talking online with a girl (22F) for months, but never met, now not sure if I (25M) even want to meet in person/continue interacting with her

TLDR; Met a girl (girlfriend?) online, talked with her for ~3 months now, slowly losing interest, had plans to meet next week for Thanksgiving, found out she hasn't been quarantining, don't really want to interact/associate myself with her anymore. I met a girl online around mid August, we talked a bunch and things seemed to be going well (similar interests, good conversation, communication, etc), but we never met up. This is mainly due to me currently living at home with my mother and father (who are high risk for COVID-19, and my area has high incidences of COVID) and not wishing to take any chances. She was respectful of that and we decided to not see other people and just interact online (online messaging and video chatting). Since the pandemic started, I've been working from home and really not going outside unless it's for a walk or to pick up my grocery orders and take all the necessary precautions (mask, no face touching, social distancing, etc). I was ok wit

Jealous of my sister in law

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 3 years now, and just recently we’ve been spending more time with his sister and her boyfriend who have been dating for 10 years (we’re all around 24/23 years). My boyfriend has been off work for a while now and his sister has a lot of time off because she study’s and works part time so they spend a lot of time together. We didn’t initially get on at the start, she’s the youngest of the family, and quite spoilt. If there’s an issue she’s always in the right, so there’s no real point in arguing/talking with her. If she’s got an issue with me, she goes straight to my boyfriend and will say ‘oh she didn’t reply to my Snapchat’ or ‘what was wrong with her she seemed really grumpy’.... I get really annoyed because I have to work, and they go off and do things together like go shopping or go for walks or to appointments while I’m at work. My boyfriend never really lets me know what he’s doing but he might send a snap now and again but to our family group c

Girl ignoring my last message

I met a girl in a class. Once I talked to her, we shared common things about life and she even asked for my phone number. She sent a "." and I answered her. Since then, we have chatted a lot. She seemed interested, since she asked me about my life. She also liked to make some jokes. Afterwards, I asked her out on a date, for some coffee after class. She said yes and we met outside classroom and went for coffee. After that, I didn't even texted her, she texted me first. She did it the next day, just for casual talking. Sometimes, she didn't just waited for me to answer her, she just messaged me. This kind of messages were for example a picture of what she was doing, or where she was. We tended to text each other and make jokes while we were in class. I was her only friend there, and she was my only friend too. Another day I asked her out for coffee again after class. She said yes and we had a nice talk. I gave her a chocolate for her birthday and she later texted me s

I tried to ask my neighbor out but I don’t think I was forward enough

So, I (28m) have a new neighbor. We met when I was on a walk with my toddler and my mom. He politely approached us with his sweet chocolate lab, and asked to use a phone because his roommate locked him out of his house. He was really nice and we talked for about twenty minutes until we knew the locksmith was coming. I think I felt flirty vibes and I think he’s single but I haven’t been single in 7 years, and I’m a mom—he probably assumes I’m not single, which is fair. So, as an artist, I painted him a quick portrait of his pup as a housewarming gift. I left a note with it on his door and ended it with “it was nice to meet you—it can be difficult to meet new people during quarantine, so if you ever want to chat, my number is ____” I wanted it to be friendly of course but hoped for a little more. I’ve never been this forward in my life but I don’t think it was forward enough lol. His response was “Hi T, its D from ___. Just wanted to say thank you so much for the watercolor. Its aweso

Thoughts about this? Mixed feelings..

This girl has gone through some rough things with her ex, and every-time we talk about it gets really emotional. (She got cheated on,and lies were told) So i met this girl through Tinder, we really connected with each other and shared the same humor,style,music pretty much everything. After about 50 days and around 20 ish dates we started getting closer and we were always talking with each other 24/7, one day she told me she no longer wanted to date anyone and wished us to remain as friends because she needed to work on herself and was having it rough, I told her I was looking for something more as friends and confessed the feelings I had for her. After this day I took a week off and met her again, we started having more sex, more intimate things so everything went back to “normal” again but with more boyfriend and girlfriend things. We had super fun “dates” met her best-friend and got close with her too and she told me that her best friend never approved of anyone before so that

Why do girls stalk me after they reject me?

So I don't why understand why but after I receive a rejection the girls keep following me (this has happened to me 4 times). They keep weirdly stalking me always watching my insta stories. Now why do they do this? I don't understand it. Why do you want to what I am doing/posting if you are not interested in me? Kinda weird Submitted November 17, 2020 at 10:55PM So I don't why understand why but after I receive a rejection the girls keep following me (this has happened to me 4 times). They keep weirdly stalking me always watching my insta stories. Now why do they do this? I don't understand it. Why do you want to what I am doing/posting if you are not interested in me? Kinda weird

What does it actually mean..don't get attached mean

Soo il keep it short because deep down im fuming, my work partner I casually see, we have fun time to time. After the best time we have ever had together, on the way home from a lovely drive and a nice pit stop( a smoke and play) He decides to say don't get attached. I mean we both have families and that was what I responded with, oh and that I can't text him unless it's to do with work. So I'm so unsure on where this leaves me, hurt to say the least as I do like him a little. He also said when it's time to stop we have to stop, so I then asked if you wanted to stop he just said let's stop talking about it. I saw him last night we did the same thing and again tonight, so if he doesn't want to why does he? And why state do not get attached? Can men smell feeling a mile off? Submitted November 17, 2020 at 11:51PM Soo il keep it short because deep down im fuming, my work partner I casually see, we have fun time to time. After the best time we have ever h

21 f (black) really just want a boyfriend

Hmu ! Submitted November 17, 2020 at 11:52PM Hmu !

Just some helpful hints

I hear a lot men saying that because they are average looking they are not getting girls interested in them. And I just wanted to throw a few things out there that might help move you into a higher number range (if that is a real thing). Take care of your skin. I love a man with nice skin. I could stare at a man all day if he has nice skin. It also expresses your overall health really well. So figure out what kind of skin you have and go to the drug store and gets some CeraVe. Just a cleanser and moisturizer should be good enough. Make sure your eye brows aren’t a mess. If you don’t live in the middle of nowhere, you can go somewhere. Or you can get some tweezers and watch a video on YouTube. There has be a million on this. Get a haircut. I think this is one of the easiest ways to go from a 4 to a 6. Also, stop believing this lie that you have to be 6 feet tall. As long as you are above the average female height of 5’4 then it really shouldn’t be a problem. Particularly if

Need Help, Being Ghosted

I [M25] started talking to a woman [F23] we share a mutual friend with. I liked a few of her photos, added her and send her a DM. She added me back, replied and had a short conversation. Then she left me on read, I’m confused on where I went wrong because it sounded like she had an interest in me. I’ve actually noticed this quite often, I’ll be having a steady conversation and suddenly ghosted. Is that the pandemic trend or is there something on my IG profile or way I speak that turns women away. I usually joke around and have genuine conversation while being flirtatious. Submitted November 17, 2020 at 11:57PM I [M25] started talking to a woman [F23] we share a mutual friend with. I liked a few of her photos, added her and send her a DM. She added me back, replied and had a short conversation. Then she left me on read, I’m confused on where I went wrong because it sounded like she had an interest in me. I’ve actually noticed this quite often, I’ll be having a steady conversation

Would it be bad to ask them out over DMs?

So I (21M) have talked to this girl (20F) a few times, mostly about class related things, in my Ethics class and think she's really cute. We haven't talked all that much, but we sat next to each other and happened to walk the same way after class most of the time, so I'd say we're familiar with each other at least. The problem is class just went all online due to a Covid spike on campus before I could talk with her more. I'd like to ask her out but I only have her on Instagram and Facebook. Would it be weird to ask her out over DMs? Submitted November 17, 2020 at 11:58PM So I (21M) have talked to this girl (20F) a few times, mostly about class related things, in my Ethics class and think she's really cute. We haven't talked all that much, but we sat next to each other and happened to walk the same way after class most of the time, so I'd say we're familiar with each other at least. The problem is class just went all online due to a Covid spike

If this guy was interested, would he have followed up with me today?

I have been speaking with someone from an app for maybe two weeks. Last week, we spoke on the phone for a few hours. We have been texting & everything seemed to be going fine. There’s a few red flags: he’s eager to meet up & I want to push back because of COVID, he’s already mentioned his plans to want to settle down later on and have a family & he called me pet names before but I cut that out real quick. Considering we are only in the talking phase, I am currently in a beach condo until tomorrow for my birthday and the last I heard from him was yesterday. He texted me happy birthday yesterday morning, I replied in the noon & he left me a voicemail yesterday evening. I haven’t heard from Him since, I see he’s clearly been viewing my IG stories. Submitted November 18, 2020 at 12:01AM I have been speaking with someone from an app for maybe two weeks. Last week, we spoke on the phone for a few hours. We have been texting & everything seemed to be going fine. The

Am I handling this appropriately, or have I already messed up?

Short backstory: My (31F) very soon to be ex-husband and I separated almost exactly a year ago. It has been a long year, but my lawyer is finally at the point where he's drawing up final paperwork, so my divorce should be actually finalized very, very soon. No kids, no shared owned property. He moved 5 hours away to live with his girlfriend less than a month after we split. They are now about to have a baby. I have zero feelings for him, did my "grieving" and healing, and have been ready to meet other people. I met a guy on a dating app a little over a month ago. Being close to finalizing a divorce and explaining all of that was not something I wanted to disclose to just anyone and everyone right off the bat, so before our first date, I decided I'd see how it would go and go from there if he asked me out again, if I felt a connection, etc. Our first date went very well and we made plans for a second one before the first was over. We don't live in the same city,

Joe Schmo isn’t cutting it

So, I have a FWB, 54(M) and he is so boring in bed..I literally can’t stand the fact that he always cums first and throws me a vibrator to “finish myself “ after he is done. I am insecure, however with my past BFs..I have no problem telling them what I need and where. We have been screwing for 2 yrs and I made the mistake of saying “it would be nice to see what lovemaking was as opposed to just fucking”. He literally said he needs time to do that. I reminded him it has been 2 yrs. I am trying to leave him, however with the holidays..we have events planned and I already bought him gifts. How do I walk away? Submitted November 18, 2020 at 12:06AM So, I have a FWB, 54(M) and he is so boring in bed..I literally can’t stand the fact that he always cums first and throws me a vibrator to “finish myself “ after he is done. I am insecure, however with my past BFs..I have no problem telling them what I need and where. We have been screwing for 2 yrs and I made the mistake of saying “it w

I (30M) feel lost; I am recently single after nearly a decade of two back-to-back LTRs. I want to start casually dating again but I don’t know where to begin and I am having some serious issues with my self confidence/image

So looking back at all that I’ve written, this post has turned out much longer than I intended, so sorry about that. TL;DR at the end. Anyway, I am recently single. I spent most of my 20s in two back-to-back long term relationships (I was single for a mere 4 months between them). First I got my heart broken and then 5 years later I broke someone else’s. Not intentionally of course but as much as I loved her, we had issues. Issues that were easy to overlook in the moment but were becoming more & more paramount as our relationship became more and more serious. I am at turning point in my career (I am graduating medical school early next year) where those issues had the potential to derail me. On top of that, my relationship was alienating me from my friends and family. I also hadn’t been single in nearly a decade and so I was beginning to feel as though I was lacking a true sense of self. I didn’t have things that I liked to do, I only had things that we liked to do. Over the 5 y

Matched with a girl (F22). We had an amazing conversation and we both get on super, super well, but I'm (M25) getting crazy nervous and I genuinely can't calm down.

For context: last year I was deep in love with a girl. It sadly didn't work out because we were both in a bad place, she used me for comfort and I had put her on a pedestal. I've learned since then and have vowed to myself never to do that again. Between then and now, I've focused heavily on myself and my career, and have mostly evolved into a stronger, happier being. I just find it extremely difficult to socialise with people at the moment, and can't bring myself to talk to people as confidently as I used to, so I've alternated to burying myself in work & projects to distract myself. Fast forward to now, and holy moly. This new woman I've met, we've only spoken for two days lmao, but good grief - I honestly have not gotten along with someone so well in such a long time. She tells me I'm knowledgeable, sweet, genuine, and her enthusiasm when she speaks to me is so endearing. She also told me that feels like she can learn loads from me, and thinks I

How to tastefully approach sex with a new dating prospect ?

I went thru a bad break with a past partner of mine. I wasn’t ready to date for like 2 years, but during lockdown I decided I’d healed and moved on enough to find someone new. Spent a while on Badoo, and at last I find someone rlly nice. Good looking, can hold great conversations, very nice person too. Been on one date with them and it went very well. Second is this Friday. We aren’t together or anything, but I feel that it’s gonna head that way. I wanted to ask the follow questions: • How do I tastefully bring up that I uh, kinda do wanna smash ? So far, they’ve not mentioned it at all. I know we aren’t together, but in my experience, most ppl tend to sleep with someone before starting a formal relationship really. At least that’s just my experience across 6 or so people. I wanna branch it without seeming entitled, creepy or demanding if that makes sense. She’s briefly mentioned that she had “bedroom issues” with previous partners having ED. So they do like sex, as they’ve menti

Was it an excuse or was his reason genuine?

I [20F] was supposed to go on a ~romantic~ date with a guy [24M] tonight. He was supposed to text me when he got off but didn’t text be for 4 hours. I texted him asking if we were still on, about 10 minutes later he said he fell asleep and apologized and asked if we could take a raincheck, as he was feeling sick. I asked if we could reschedule for tomorrow and he hasn’t texted back. We hit it off on our first date and texted every day since then, his kind of fell off but I mean we’re adults and get busy with work so I’m a bit understanding. Am I over thinking this or did he just cancel because he’s over me? Submitted November 18, 2020 at 12:10AM I [20F] was supposed to go on a ~romantic~ date with a guy [24M] tonight. He was supposed to text me when he got off but didn’t text be for 4 hours. I texted him asking if we were still on, about 10 minutes later he said he fell asleep and apologized and asked if we could take a raincheck, as he was feeling sick. I asked if we could resc

/u/Flamebay on Can you be asexual and still enjoy touching your partner down there?

True, yeah. November 17, 2020 at 11:27PM

/u/Sillhouette_Six on Me lying on my college apps because my parents have access to my profile...

My family is pretty comfortable, so I don’t even want to even try to take any need based scholarships from someone who deserves it more. I’m just gunning for merit based stuff. November 17, 2020 at 11:26PM

/u/Trophy_Harlot on THEY HAVE AN OPTION FOR ME TO SELF IDENTIFY AS ACE AT WORK :’)

It used to be legal and I've heard rumors that they wanted to implement this rule again. I don't know. November 17, 2020 at 11:20PM

/u/nootnotnut on Do I have to prove it??

A better response may be: Have you tried having sex with dogs? How do you know you won't like it? November 17, 2020 at 11:20PM