This is similar to my experience with a strip club but with the genders reversed. Other than for the dancing (which was ok I guess?) I just remember being bored for the entire time I was there. At the time I just though I was a prude but it actually makes waaay more sense now. Its weird because even though I didn't even know asexuality was a thing back then the people I was with sort of knew that I wasn't interested in that kind of thing anyway. November 07, 2020 at 12:05AM

Cheesy garlic bread is one of the best foods in existence November 07, 2020 at 12:05AM

same it’s honestly so annoying November 07, 2020 at 12:04AM

Welcome to the party November 07, 2020 at 12:00AM

An update! She’s willing to take it slow and aww where it goes. She also said she likes me as I am doesn’t wish me to be allosexual, and she’s reflected on her feeling of loneliness and she said it’s going now. It’s going to be an ongoing thing I think November 07, 2020 at 12:00AM

Addendum; right now you are in a bad relationship. That does Not mean it cannot become a good one, but it does mean that something needs to change. Also, you sound young, you've got time to replace him if he can't handle honoring what you need as well. I am also not saying it is going to be easy for You to give credence to your own needs. But you must. If he only likes you b/c you're hot, you can do better. If he likes you for you, and you like him for him not just for 'not being alone'; together yall can find a way to make it work. November 06, 2020 at 11:56PM

Why don't you make your character graysexual instead? I'm not completely asexual but most of the time I find the thought of sex somewhere between boring, overtly complicated, and even kinda gross when I think about the whole reproduction aspect of it, but I get really horny when I meet someone that I find both intellectually and physically attractive and who also treats me with respect. Too bad that shit only happens like every 6 years or so lol November 06, 2020 at 11:54PM

Bro how can you be asexual but have a libido that makes no sense😭 November 06, 2020 at 11:52PM

I am an aroace dude but I kinda like girls in that I get squishes with girls. I feel weird November 06, 2020 at 11:50PM

There are two universal pieces of (dating type)relationship advice: TALK TO EACH-OTHER anything is flirting if the other person is into you; if they aren't nothing is. Have you told him how you feel about being on camera? Explicitly. Not dropping hints or trying to be nice about it. Use "I statements": I feel X, because Y, When Z, and I need ABC. (Look them up if you aren't familiar they are a useful tool) Ask him what he likes about it, (ideally) its that he likes seeing you happy, and in his world, sexual pleasure is a really good version of happy. I know that its scary, especially right now, to be un-paired. But it is worse to be stuck like you are at the moment. (Also from personal experience, if you like him as a friend, taking away the pressures of the dating/sex stuff can help free up more time and emotional space/willing to be vulnerable to actually enjoy each-other as friends.) Be sure to mention the things you have here: when we are able to touch -

It's like when a dog keeps barking to be let out then it goes outside, does nothing, and then scratches to be let back in but you're both dog and owner November 06, 2020 at 11:43PM

Id be down to answer some questions! Im personally not comfortable being in calls in general but id be all for answering any qs in a discord or reddit DM or whatever (unless youre saying zoom bc you need to record it) It could be useful getting experiences from us teens and young adults as well as older age brackets and seeing how different or similar responses are November 06, 2020 at 11:42PM

is this a squish? November 06, 2020 at 11:40PM

I was an extremely early bloomer romanticly and wanted to kiss girls, but sex didn't cross my mind because 1) I was homeschooled and didn't know too much about sex and masturbation and 2) didn't really hang out with the hypersexual horny people who joked about and talked about sex 24/7 so I didn't really get and understand the whole thing. November 06, 2020 at 11:40PM

I'm getting secondhand feelings from this. November 06, 2020 at 11:39PM

It's called Old Edinburgh cheese. I'm not even joking. I was legit MOANING in pleasure while eating this cheese. I didn't know I could even make noises like that.... that's how good it was. And I've had music give me the shivers before, too! Like... it's so good, it hurts? I feel very dirty now XD November 06, 2020 at 11:39PM

Maybe you can read the other answers that will come on here and maybe you'll understand better. November 06, 2020 at 11:37PM

Also... I hate you and love you at the same time. I don't even know... I want this so bad now. You are an evil human being. November 06, 2020 at 11:37PM

Normal, as far as I know! I'm the same--I'm perfectly aware whether someone is attractive, but I'm not attracted to them. November 06, 2020 at 11:36PM

Yeah, supposedly us ace folks love garlic bread. Which like... I'm sorry, but ace or allo, if you don't like garlic bread, you're dead to me. I don't know you lol November 06, 2020 at 11:36PM

For me personally I would say I was kind of an early bloomer sexually. That combined with an abusive mother who was obsessed with my virginity in an extremely weird way kind of ruined it so I feel thats why I have a low libido. November 06, 2020 at 11:34PM

Ugggh it's so frustrating. I switched BC pills a few months ago and it skyrocketed my already decently-high libido. me @ my body: can u not m8 November 06, 2020 at 11:33PM

Same. I'm in my 30s and just figuring out I may be ace. Never too old to learn more about yourself I guess. November 06, 2020 at 11:31PM