Thanks for the reply! I’ve read about aegosexuals and I can actually identify to them somehow yet I’m still unsure about my sexuality. *Also, just to clear some things up, when I said “ordinary” I meant if this is typical for heterosexuals or if it indicated I could be asexual. I of course acknowledge that it is normal March 03, 2020 at 12:11AM

Hmm, interesting. I've never been rejected (since I'm only attracted to those who find me attractive), but if I was I feel like my attraction might stay??? Idk. That's something I've never thought about. Even though you're not recip, that's cool. :) March 03, 2020 at 12:10AM

I think that all the time. lol I understand it's important to some people, which cool, different strokes and all that but... why do people think and talk about it so so much?? March 03, 2020 at 12:09AM

This is very insightful! I never feel that I want to have sex whenever I look at someone, either. It's so odd trying to find out if I'm fully asexual or not. I think I am, though. March 03, 2020 at 12:06AM

I consider myself to be demi, but if I become attracted to someone and they don't return the attraction, my feelings go back to platonic almost instantly, so I still relate to reciprosexuality. March 03, 2020 at 12:04AM

A follower of the old gods. March 02, 2020 at 11:57PM

Thank you. I'm uh still questioning everything and it sucks to be invalidated because of something I know asexuals can have.. March 02, 2020 at 11:54PM

Arousal is a body reaction that can be caused by many things, like your clothes rubbing against an erogenous zone, or just hormones. It's kinda like when nipples go hard because of the cold. March 02, 2020 at 11:53PM

Yah, it can be a weird relationship dynamic for sure. Just remember to keep honest and compassionate communication going on, and...none of us choose our sexualities (or traumas...) so don't feel bad for being who you really are~ March 02, 2020 at 11:48PM

They do indeed, and I'm one of them! Polyamory and polyfam subs are neat places to lurk for advice or support. March 02, 2020 at 11:46PM

Thank you, it’s perfect :D March 02, 2020 at 11:46PM

Hot take: I also don’t think the age gap would have worked for so many people if it was not a homosexual relationship. Hot counterpoint: Dirty Dancing features a nearly exactly the same age gap and is adored as a wonderful coming of age summer romance film. Age gaps that in real life can be predatory, can be in film as not so. March 02, 2020 at 11:45PM

Oh I love that comic 💜 March 02, 2020 at 11:45PM

I’m struggling to understand how? March 02, 2020 at 11:44PM

Yikes, hope you're ok. You're not alone in this. March 02, 2020 at 11:43PM

It's made being ace easier, but being ace has made getting older harder. I needed to finally get out on my own and stop loving with family and roommates. Living solo is just so expensive. You're competing for housing with couples that have two incomes, so you have to put a lot of your income into housing to just not live in squalor. Taxes hate us for not being married and not having kids. We pay almost the same utilities for fewer people using them. Being single is just so expensive that financial concerns are one of the reasons I keep throwing myself out there. March 02, 2020 at 11:41PM

Obviously...as an ace who is sexually active I do it all the time. But having sex and not enjoying it is a perfectly valid way of confirming a pre-existing and enduring pattern of non-attraction. March 02, 2020 at 11:40PM

Wow me too, I also have no sex. Is this joke funny enough to transcend the aphobia implied by the subtext of the idea that being a virgin is somehow bad or a laughing matter? Find out in the next episode of i need to stop joking about stuff like this. March 02, 2020 at 11:37PM

Hmm interesting March 02, 2020 at 11:37PM

This is my first post on this sub, i find it instresting on who was the most romantic person in your relationship when you both started to get together, things like poems, sweet and soppy texts and how often did you send them and this goes for long distance relationships to Submitted March 03, 2020 at 12:03AM This is my first post on this sub, i find it instresting on who was the most romantic person in your relationship when you both started to get together, things like poems, sweet and soppy texts and how often did you send them and this goes for long distance relationships to

With my first love i use to spend a lot of time wondering if i (18F) and he (19M) were in love. I would tell him I loved him, and the way i rationalized it was i don’t know love, or what it is. but that was as close as i’ve ever gotten to feeling it. Me and him aren’t together anymore, we dated for a year but we just didn’t work out. I know for certain now that I loved him. I didn’t know i loved him then, I feel like i was waiting for something to make me love him. But overtime i think my love began to grow and i just didn’t realize it. It took heartbreak for me to realize i loved him. it took feeling the emptiness within me, without him, to understand it. It took losing someone i loved so dearly to understand how much i loved him, and that i am capable of love. It doesn’t show itself so promptly as I thought, but I loved him. so much. i hope that other people who haven’t fallen in love can read this, and know when they’re in love. you don’t have to question it. just accept the lov

our relationship might have been short, but i loved her with all my heart. external factors made it so we couldn't see each other much, and that turned out to be the reason for our breakup. we told each other that it was mutual, but in reality i told myself that to make me feel better. in reality it wasn't mutual and i wanted to try and make it work. although for a long time i couldn't go without thinking about her, wanting to tell her how i felt, wanting her back; i now realize that she may not be the one. i am still questioning this though. i am optimistic that we will try again one day and i will see for sure, but i also accept that it might not be meant to be. Submitted March 03, 2020 at 12:17AM our relationship might have been short, but i loved her with all my heart. external factors made it so we couldn't see each other much, and that turned out to be the reason for our breakup. we told each other that it was mutual, but in reality i told myself that to ma

My husband and I got married young. We married at 20 and 22 years old. Now in our late twenties we are still married. I have met other couples who married young and they say they received the same marriage shaming that we experienced. I have met so many couples who married young and are still married after 20, 30, 40 and 50 years. In fact, I have two sisters in law who also married in early twenties and one has been married for 17 years and the other 23 years. I also learned that the statistics for people being married after the age of 35 is pretty much the same as people who marry young but you do not hear people marriage shaming those who marry at like 36 or 38. My question is: What is the real reason why people are so disgusted with two young people getting married?? I understand that young people get married and get divorced but there are many who manage to stay married. Also, the divorce rate is not far behind for older couples who marry. I remember my sister in law telling me