On the opposite side of the coin there are anti-natalists so it sorta kinda maybe balances itself out there. I'm on the fence on whether or not I'm an anti-natalist or not. I feel like adding more people is destructive to the world and condemning the child to life. I don't consider it a gift. I'm not suicidal (anymore) but I still don't think it's fair to bring a child into the world we live in. Any parent that thinks that their child has an obligation to them has it 100% backwards. A parent has obligations to the child because it was their decision and they should have to pay for that. Having a child is basically like life-rape. Unconsentually giving life. The reason I'm on the fence is because I've been thinking about adopting (years away from that) but I have severe inattentive adhd and I'm afraid that if my kid doesn't have my genes I won't be able to connect with them in the same way. It's a lot easier for me to connect with other

I mean this with no insult meant but fuck, how do you have that much time!? I am both awed and mildly jealous. I guess you've probably figured out your body far better then I have, cause I would need like the weekend off for that. October 02, 2020 at 11:38PM

The cultural influence aspect is a good point. I’ve also known some who say it’s wrong because it isn’t natural - usually because it doesn’t fit with evolution, ie all sex is about procreation, and since homosexual sex can’t procreate it’s not natural. The reason that is illogical is that homosexual relationships occur in other species, it’s not just humans. I still don’t understand the people who say anyone who doesn’t have kids is selfish... the world has plenty of people. And plenty of kids don’t have families. Why is adoption viewed as less than having biological children? And why the heck is someone who adopts regarded as compassionate for doing so? (As in, “oh you’re such a good person for deciding to take on a child that isn’t yours.”) Not that some people don’t adopt for “humanitarian” reasons... but I feel like that’s a selfish reason to adopt. These are generally the people who think you need blood ties for family to mean something and that you can’t love adopted children t

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Being asexual doesn’t mean you can’t feel love, it just means you don’t have sexual attraction. You can still have sex and kiss if you want to (many asexuals are sex positive or sex neutral). Even if you are sex-repulsed, that does not mean you can’t have romantic love. And further, don’t devalue platonic love. It can be just as powerful - if not more - than romantic love. It’s hard because society puts so much stock into romantic relationships - but I promise you that regardless you can have a life filled with love and joy as an asexual person. As for feeling normal - nobody is completely normal and that’s just the human condition. I do understand the want to have the same feelings as everyone else, and feeling a bit like an observer rather than a participant. October 02, 2020 at 11:25PM

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Well as an atheist my perspective is that homophobia would have come from a similar place to whoever put it in the bible. An actual human being had to decide that being gay was a no go before putting it in the bible so whatever their reason was is probably still something that can happen. Partial blame for current homophobia in non-religious people can probably also be placed on culture (influenced by religion) of the place they grew up and the people they spent time with. I was actually protestant before becoming an atheist and when I was religious I was mildly homophobic (not to their face) but after becoming an atheist I slowly realised I had zero reason to be anymore so now I'm cool with it. October 02, 2020 at 11:23PM

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allos Allo here and I totally agree. I don't like how this implies anything sexual. If you wanna have sex with me, please just ask, no need to disguise your intentions. Clear communication please, people! October 02, 2020 at 11:18PM

I mean okay but you still don’t have the same privileges as a heterosexual cis person. This isn’t about lifestyle privileges, it’s about rights and access to resources. October 02, 2020 at 11:16PM

You could be asexual, and you're welcome to identify that way if you feel like it fits. At 16, that may still change - I didn't "discover girls" until I was 20 myself - but if you identify as something else later, that's perfectly fine. It's not something you have to declare once and forever. October 02, 2020 at 11:14PM

never have experienced anything like “sexual attraction” in my life This is the definition of asexuality, so we know one thing, you could consider yourself asexual. There are a lot of sub-categories to the umbrella, I will see if I can find a comprehensive list and come back to you. ​ Edit to add: This wiki page has the most comprehensive list of ace sub-categories I've seen so far. Some people find benefit in them, some don't. It's completely up to you whether you use them. Nothing you posted jumps out to me to say "ah this person sounds like they're xyz" though. October 02, 2020 at 11:14PM

They're just mad because we're "immune to the sexual attractiveness of others." October 02, 2020 at 11:13PM

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