M23 here. Just got back from a trip yesterday, scrolled through some pictures I clicked and realized that that was the reason I'm single. I'm 6'3 and 245 lbs, so I kinda stand out not exactly in the good way. My friends (not just the bros but my female friends too) say that I'm not as bad as I think I am. But I'm my worst enemy. I'm hard on myself. Whenever I'm in front of a mirror, I'm like I'm undatable. Working out has helped with minor spurts of confidence but not enough to muster up courage to ask someone out. I honestly think a woman who doesn't know me at all would in general be spooked/scared by my appearance. Hence want a relationship sprung out of friendship. The problem is I want to be perfect. I don't want to have any reason to lack. I'd love to be in pristine shape and have a great career. But the fact that I think that I'd need to be that perfect for anyone to even be interested in me romantically is just plain sad. I

It's definitely a big deal, but you don't have to do it if you're not comfortable. Personally, I've been wondering about telling people for a while. I'm not sure why, exactly. It won't change much in most of my relationships, but it's still difficult. Being open and vulnerable to someone else is always going to be hard, especially if you think there will be consequences (like them getting upset or acting different around you). The only advice I can give is to choose who you come out to and when you do it based soley on your comfort with them knowing. Don't force yourself to tell people because you think they have a right to know, as if you're lying to them otherwise (the exception is if you're dating someone. They should probably know pretty early on. I don't date and, since you're aro, I'd imagine you don't either. But if you do, that would be the only time you should make sure someone knows). May 10, 2022 at 11:57PM

I've been chatting with this girl for almost two months now. I like her, and I believe she likes me, but I'm away so we can't meet in person (although we haven't planned that either, just chatting). She has asked me a lot is questions, I have too. We've talked about shows, music, hobbies and other stuff. Today I don't really know what else can we talk about, and I'm freaking out, because I'm not very skilled socially and have very little experience dating. Our convo has been slow and simple, talked about a dessert she cooked, I asked her about what she did throughout the day, I told her about plans I have for the weekend and that's it. I know I shouldn't freak out, but I'm scared I'm starting to be boring. How long can it be ok for the convo to just be... Slow. Can she loose interest? Submitted May 11, 2022 at 12:12AM I've been chatting with this girl for almost two months now. I like her, and I believe she likes me, but I

There might be a way, but that's something that you need to work through together, because only the two of you know what your own limits are. The only way to figure it out is to talk, with or without a therapist. I know how confronting that is, but it's really the only way forward. May 10, 2022 at 11:09PM

Yep, that's it. This is a depression test, and afterward there was a survey asking if you're LGBTQ+. May 10, 2022 at 11:09PM