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So this guy (24M) comes into my work pretty frequently and we casually flirt but a few weeks ago he came in, asked for my number and if I wanted to hang out after work. I said yes and ended up staying over and felt like we had a pretty nice time together and he said he wanted to hang out again. So I texted him last week and asked if he wanted to do anything that weekend, he said he was out of town but he'd text me when he gets back anddddd I haven't heard anything since. Should I text him? I don't want to be annoying but it's been a hot sec Submitted August 22, 2019 at 08:06PM So this guy (24M) comes into my work pretty frequently and we casually flirt but a few weeks ago he came in, asked for my number and if I wanted to hang out after work. I said yes and ended up staying over and felt like we had a pretty nice time together and he said he wanted to hang out again. So I texted him last week and asked if he wanted to do anything that weekend, he said he was out...

Really would love some advice right now cause I don’t know what to do. Backstory: I (26M) met this women (23F) on Hinge (dating app) about four months ago. We started chatting everyday, all the time, and started to feel a connection to her, not to mention she is super cute to me. We talked for a week through this app and I finally asked if she wanted to go on a date, perhaps drinks or dinner? She responded with she had just gotten out of a long term relationship and was unsure, she’d rather just keep talking for now and see what happens. I’m like, sure. Don’t want to push it. Well, we kept talking and after I asked the second time for a date, was rejected with same reasons, I just stopped talking to her. I just returned to Grad School after working for three years and today while walking on campus early in the morning, I saw her walking down the sidewalk. We made eye contact and smiled at each other, she looked beautiful! I remembered her name so I looked her up on FB and saw she wa...

So I 24F met this guy 25F about 2 months ago, we immediately hit it off and exchanged numbers. In total we've been on like 6 dates and now we often just chill at either my place or his. We have a great time and I am starting to develop feelings for him, and in an attempt to save myself from getting hurt I decided to take the leap and asked him where he saw this going. He answered that he would like to keep it casual for now (mind you, we haven't had sex, but we do kiss/make-out etc.) that he wants to continue seeing me but without any expectations as to where this should go and then he said that if everything is going right that it will turn into more and that he is open to that idea, just not anytime soon as he mentioned he's under a lot of stress from his job and some family problems. And then he kinda mumbled to himself "I don't really know what I'm looking for." Which to me sounds like the whole, 'I'm not ready for a relationship (with you)...

so I'm (18M) and she is (18F) we have been texting for five days and like we have a LOT in common i wait for every text it feels like we are the same person. but what's killing me is when should i ask her out ? Submitted August 22, 2019 at 11:24PM so I'm (18M) and she is (18F) we have been texting for five days and like we have a LOT in common i wait for every text it feels like we are the same person. but what's killing me is when should i ask her out ?

A woman and I went out, but didn’t quite classify it as a date? I just kind of said we have to grab some food sometime and she agreed. What am I doing wrong? Submitted August 22, 2019 at 11:27PM A woman and I went out, but didn’t quite classify it as a date? I just kind of said we have to grab some food sometime and she agreed. What am I doing wrong?

My love life recently has consisted of meeting someone, talking for a while, hanging out and having a big spark, kissing after dropping her off at her house, talking ecstatically for the next few days, and then slowly falling off. The girl I’m talking to now is following the same pattern. We talked for a week with a spark, the first time we hung out we kissed at the end and then hung out a couple of more times. Now it just feels like it’s slowing down, and I really don’t want this girl to follow the same pattern since she lives a block or two away and it’s been a ton of fun Submitted August 22, 2019 at 11:40PM My love life recently has consisted of meeting someone, talking for a while, hanging out and having a big spark, kissing after dropping her off at her house, talking ecstatically for the next few days, and then slowly falling off.The girl I’m talking to now is following the same pattern. We talked for a week with a spark, the first time we hung out we kissed at the end an...

There’s a long background to how I met john* [28m] (the one I went on a possible date with) here is the shortened version of it. I [24f] met Alex on a dating website, we somehow got along swimmingly, things went a little fast while we were talking, and when we finally met for a date the date just kinda went meh, and Alex decided to not go out with me again. While Alex and I talked he mentioned John several times and about how much we had in common. So I took a leap of faith in making a new friend and straight up asked Alex if he could ask John if he was cool with me having his number. John said yes and we started texting. At first John and I talked about once or twice a day. Usually just a few texts about random stuff. Sometimes about music, sometimes about work, sometimes about family. He mentioned he was leaving out of the country for a week and asked if I wanted to meet up before then. I was busy so I didn’t get a chance to come see him (both Alex and John live in a bigger city...

I just asked this girl out saying "I was wondering if you wanna hang sometime this weekend?" And she responded "What did you have in mind this weekend??" And I responded "Do you wanna grab some food together this weekend?" Is this good or bad? Is she interested or nah? Submitted August 22, 2019 at 11:57PM I just asked this girl out saying "I was wondering if you wanna hang sometime this weekend?"And she responded "What did you have in mind this weekend??"And I responded "Do you wanna grab some food together this weekend?"Is this good or bad? Is she interested or nah?

I’m a 25 F doing the whole hinge/bumble thing. Matched with a 27M this weekend and we chatted on the app a good bit. He invited me to a bar this Thursday (this was ~4 days ago now). But I haven’t heard from him since. Well it’s Thursday now, I messaged him this afternoon to see if he was still up for meeting up. I don’t have his number so it’s still all through the app. No response. Personally, I feel like I went a little overboard messaging him to confirm—he asked me, not the other way. I don’t feel obligated to go, bc I have no idea if he will show up. In fact, I could have made other plans, so I feel like this is a red flag. If he really wanted to meet up he would confirm with me/talk more in the meantime/check the app. TLDR: supposed to meet up for the 1st time w/ someone from bumble, but not sure if date is still on. Should I at least go to the venue as not to stand him up? Or just see if he shows, surely he will see my message if he is looking for me, and explain what happene...

Hello all, Until this past month or so I had never been kissed, made out, or had sex. Or even been considered seriously by any woman, really. I deleted my Bumble profile about month and a half ago, when the algorithm decided to put me into nothingness. I remade it with a couple better pictures (nothing instagram level, medium quality photos with my with a couple friends or eating korean bbq) about a month ago. I'm not photogenic but I'm not super picky either, so I guess I am firmly in the "average" category. I am 6' 3", but before you bring out your pitchforks I will be honest and say it doesn't seem to make a difference because most guys get kissed/laid a lot faster then my dumb ass. I ended up with about 30 matches, of which I probably filtered out about 15 and matched with 6 or 7, and went on first dates with 2. The other 10 or so never came up in my queue so I think they are just women who matched from the airport close by or something. Anyway, so...

English is not my mother language so sorry for any mistakes. So I met this guy one month ago from Tinder. He was spending his summer in my city and just went back to his city for the university. We have lots of things in common and had a great time together. We talked about various topics from politics to random fun facts, going to gigs and films together, tried new restaurants and had drinks, and most importantly, had amazing sex. I would say we both enjoyed each other’s company and were especially compatible in bed. At the end of last time we met up, he just said “see you” so I thought I was still going to meet him again. However when I asked him today if we were going to meet up again before he leaves (it was always him asking me out before), it took him ages to reply and he just said he got plans in the last few days so he couldn’t meet me. And after I replied “That’s fine, enjoy your last days here”, he no longer replied, not even “Thank you” or “Goodbye”. I didn’t catch feeli...

Title says it all basically How do you deal? Submitted August 23, 2019 at 12:18AM Title says it all basicallyHow do you deal?

Hello everyone, I graduated from college this past December, left all my friends, and moved back home to study for the LSAT and wait for law school. Since then I’ve become a financial advisor and put off law school for a bit until I have the funds to not worry too much about debt. My issue is that I’m extremely lonely up here. There’s nothing, and I really mean nothing, around here to do for people my age to meet. I’ve used apps like Tinder and while I have a few hundred matches, they result in dates that seldom turn into anything more than a hookup. The past 3 dates, each girl said they had recently left a relationship and going out with me had made them realize they’re not ready to start dating again, which was disheartening as I really liked talking with them and the dates were fun. I am tired of hookups but the girls that I talk to on the app are into it until I mention a date and then they lose interest. Most are happy with just the hookup. I just want to meet someone who I can ...

I married in my late 30s with no regrets. I'm glad I had my freedom in my 20s. Submitted August 22, 2019 at 11:35PM I married in my late 30s with no regrets. I'm glad I had my freedom in my 20s.

My(47m) wife (40f) was married before me with her high school sweet heart. We meet less than year after separation. She was still waiting for the divorce to be finalized when we started dating. From the beginning my wife talked about her ex. About a year ago she told me if I ever mention her spouse again she would divorce me during a fight. About two weeks ago she yelled at me because I mentioned her ex. The problem is my wife mention her ex frequently. During low times she mention him about once every other month. Other times I would hear about her ex several time during the day. The worst was when my sister in-law was getting married. My wife said it was a special moment for her sister. My sister in-law was trying to relate with my wife for her wedding. She could not relate with our relationship because me and my wife never had a wedding. We did not have a wedding ceremony because my wife was already married before and she told me no one would care. My wife said the sister in-way...

Hello, Husband and I have been married almost 11 years. We met in high school, got married at 20 years old. He’s never been one to argue or have strong emotions about anything, but the past few years (since we had our daughter) anytime I express frustrated feelings or something he’s doing that is upsetting me or saying we need to work on our marriage he doesn’t even try to take any responsibility for his part, or ask how he can help. I feel like he’s just blowing off my concerns and feelings as being a woman or something and thus he doesn’t have to do any work on his part. He said he would go to counseling but A) doesn’t think we need it and B) I would have to take the initiative. I would have to find the counselor, make the appointments, make sure we got a sitter, etc. I already do all the other housekeeping on top of my job. He works a lot and I’m very grateful but I have the brunt of literally everything else. He never thinks anything is wrong with our daughter, me, our marriage, ...

I've been lurking here for about 2 months now hoping I could be as happy in my marriage as some of you are, but the reality is unpleasant. I am a 24 male and my wife is 23. We dated for 2 years before getting married November of 2018. She got distant from me the end of June and wasn't really talking to me about it. Turns out she has started regretting getting married. She thinks we rushed through premarital counseling, had doubts about us during engagement but didn't bring them up, has told me she isn't attracted to me, she can't reassure me that she wants to fix our situation. I am far from perfect. I have a good, stable job and we live comfortably. I chill in my free time and never really make plans to do things, I don't have deep conversations, that's what she said at least. I admit that life is kinda boring but I am very open to changing that. As for the conversations, I feel like if that's true how did we date long term and it not be a problem o...

This is my struggle right now. I've only ever felt any attraction to people I have a connection with, but now I'm head over heels in love for the first time, and didn't know I could feel it this intensely, and my girlfriend just came out to me as ace. It's a complicated bundle of emotions to reconcile. August 23, 2019 at 12:19AM

Yes totally makes sense, love doesn't have to be romantic. Just because you're a fan doesn't mean you can't genuinely love them. August 23, 2019 at 12:15AM

I (18M) recently attended a one-day session at a little camp/retreat in my county. There, I was briefly introduced to a really cute girl (17/18?F) and we had just around a minute's worth of interaction. I would have taken the opportunity to give her my number had it arisen later that afternoon, but she's a part of the staff and was closing down an event at that point when we met, and the only glance I caught of her afterward was when she was in the staff room with her coworkers. After the event, we followed each other on Instagram, and that's how I'll be contacting her. I'd like to see if she's open to talking and getting to know each other better. (Is that how these things work? I'd genuinely like feedback on this as well as the rest of the post. Both my past relationships were friendships first. This would be the first instance of me asking someone out whom I hardly know, and it's already less ideal because I'd prefer to do it in-person instead o...

Hi guys. I’m in a interracial relationship with this girl that I absolutely was drooling over for two months before we started dating. As soon as we started dating, things moved quick. She spends almost every night at my house with the exception of one or two nights. I absolutely love being with this girl and couldn’t wait to see her every night, but over the last week I think my lack of alone time has gotten to me. I’m pretty outgoing, but I’ve always needed time away from people to recharge. With my friends, I usually only spend up to 8 hours with them max before I have to leave and be by myself. Nothing against my friends, but being around people 24/7 exhaust me. However, I was able to spend pretty much every moment with this girl for four weeks and wasn’t tired of it. We work together, so I almost am around her everyday at work too. Usually I get two days off a week though and I think that balanced things because I could have those days to myself and have some alone time. Last wee...

Well, I'm a guy in my 20s, and I have to say I have a few rather unusual fetishes. For one, I have a huge scat fetish, and my biggest turn on is if I ever had a girlfriend who was willing to give me a Cleveland steamer..... and my ultimate desire is actually to eat shit. And my other huge fetish is the idea of chewing on my girlfriend's used tampons or putting them in my morning coffee. I also love golden showers, which a few women I've been with were willing to do. Though, they were even a bit taken aback by that though. So, I don't know. Finding a woman who is willing to indulge in my scat and used tampon fetishes is something that I have always wanted, but I've never been able to find anyone. And it has been rather isolating for me, unfortunately. Are my fetishes just too weird and there's no like minded people out there? Or do I actually have a chance? Submitted August 23, 2019 at 12:12AM Well, I'm a guy in my 20s, and I have to say I have a few ...