[M27] Just had my first everything this week, thoughts/AMA/Maybe give me advice

Hello all,

Until this past month or so I had never been kissed, made out, or had sex. Or even been considered seriously by any woman, really. I deleted my Bumble profile about month and a half ago, when the algorithm decided to put me into nothingness. I remade it with a couple better pictures (nothing instagram level, medium quality photos with my with a couple friends or eating korean bbq) about a month ago. I'm not photogenic but I'm not super picky either, so I guess I am firmly in the "average" category. I am 6' 3", but before you bring out your pitchforks I will be honest and say it doesn't seem to make a difference because most guys get kissed/laid a lot faster then my dumb ass. I ended up with about 30 matches, of which I probably filtered out about 15 and matched with 6 or 7, and went on first dates with 2. The other 10 or so never came up in my queue so I think they are just women who matched from the airport close by or something.

Anyway, so we went on our second date last Sunday. I didn't make a move because she had mono and I wasn't sure if I wanted to get it. But it was a good time, we talked for hours and hours, walked my dog a lot, got some Thai food. I guess it was a good experience for her too because she wanted to "watch a movie or something" on Tuesday and during that experience I ended up giving in and kissed her and the flood gates kind of opened lol. We didn't go all the way then, but we did on Wednesday.

So I guess the main point in all this is that kissing wasn't that bad. She has said multiple times that she likes kissing me and we make out a lot and such. But the elephant in the room was that I was a virgin, and I pretty much shit the bed lmao. I felt so bad about my performance and then I got soft and she left. She was really nice about it and we are going out again but I don't know the extent to which her niceness will last. She has definitely been around the block before. I somehow avoided the subject of me being a virgin this whole time and made it to the finish line, but it didn't exactly go as planned. I kind of felt like it was strange honestly, like way looser than my hand and I slipped out a couple times and I couldn't finish. I have 7" down there so I don't know what the issue is with that, probably just me being awful. We blamed it on the wine, since I drank like 3/4ths of a bottle of red, but I don't think so...

So yeah AMA but honestly out of the whole thing, kissing was not nearly as bad as I thought it would be (to perform) but sex was harder then I thought. So there you go guys now you have to worry even more. I went down on her but she was ready because we had been kissing and cuddling for over an hour so she just wanted to go. Sorry for the word vomit.



Submitted August 23, 2019 at 12:07AM

Hello all,Until this past month or so I had never been kissed, made out, or had sex. Or even been considered seriously by any woman, really. I deleted my Bumble profile about month and a half ago, when the algorithm decided to put me into nothingness. I remade it with a couple better pictures (nothing instagram level, medium quality photos with my with a couple friends or eating korean bbq) about a month ago. I'm not photogenic but I'm not super picky either, so I guess I am firmly in the "average" category. I am 6' 3", but before you bring out your pitchforks I will be honest and say it doesn't seem to make a difference because most guys get kissed/laid a lot faster then my dumb ass. I ended up with about 30 matches, of which I probably filtered out about 15 and matched with 6 or 7, and went on first dates with 2. The other 10 or so never came up in my queue so I think they are just women who matched from the airport close by or something.Anyway, so we went on our second date last Sunday. I didn't make a move because she had mono and I wasn't sure if I wanted to get it. But it was a good time, we talked for hours and hours, walked my dog a lot, got some Thai food. I guess it was a good experience for her too because she wanted to "watch a movie or something" on Tuesday and during that experience I ended up giving in and kissed her and the flood gates kind of opened lol. We didn't go all the way then, but we did on Wednesday.So I guess the main point in all this is that kissing wasn't that bad. She has said multiple times that she likes kissing me and we make out a lot and such. But the elephant in the room was that I was a virgin, and I pretty much shit the bed lmao. I felt so bad about my performance and then I got soft and she left. She was really nice about it and we are going out again but I don't know the extent to which her niceness will last. She has definitely been around the block before. I somehow avoided the subject of me being a virgin this whole time and made it to the finish line, but it didn't exactly go as planned. I kind of felt like it was strange honestly, like way looser than my hand and I slipped out a couple times and I couldn't finish. I have 7" down there so I don't know what the issue is with that, probably just me being awful. We blamed it on the wine, since I drank like 3/4ths of a bottle of red, but I don't think so...So yeah AMA but honestly out of the whole thing, kissing was not nearly as bad as I thought it would be (to perform) but sex was harder then I thought. So there you go guys now you have to worry even more. I went down on her but she was ready because we had been kissing and cuddling for over an hour so she just wanted to go. Sorry for the word vomit.
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