So, I've been seeing this guy (we're both 30) for about six weeks, he's very nice and chill. We spend his days off together each week, talk daily, he is very affectionate, and frequently tells me that I'm "good people". We were chatting recently and he said that he's not looking for anything long term right now and that he's still putting himself back together after his long term relationship of 11 years fell apart. It didn't have a good ending, and that he wants to just take things one step at a time. I told him I'm chill with that, I think he's a great guy and we can take our time and see where it goes. I'm really not in any rush and I'm patient. If it works out great if not at least I enjoy our time together. Then he really emphasized how he's not wanting a partner right now, he's not wanting to be a part of a team. Which, considering he was with someone for so long it makes sense that he wants to learn to stand on his

No It’s not your fault. OP is just really disrespectful and inconsiderate April 14, 2022 at 11:36PM

It all came to appear when I was told I would have my first cousin. Which was 9 years ago. I hated everything about it, not because I didn't want a cousin, but because I knew what the process was. And I never wanted to go through it myself even before I knew what asexuality was, I realized I never felt it like any of my friends did. April 14, 2022 at 11:34PM

for me I literally can't wrap the idea of sex, when it relates to me. partly its 'how is that enjoyable' and 'how does that work'. I also am trans so uh, I don't 100% know anatomy and do not want to read about it as I try to pretend I don't have genitals. I'm Aegosexual though, so while i don't have sexual feelings or they don't connect to me, I don't mind media or others who are sexual. or ppl talkin about it generally. April 14, 2022 at 11:34PM

There is no easy answer. To be frank, you might find someone if you keep looking, or you might not and be forever alone. It's the hard truth of Asexuals. I am sex-repulsed and cupioromantic so I don't know if I can even reciprocate the feeling of love which saddens me. Romantic love seems like such an amazing emotion that I've never had in my life. I personally have come to the realization that I will be alone, and it's been hard to come to grips with that. What I do is surround myself with friends and family, and I have a few meetup.com groups that I just started to surround myself with people so I'm not lonely. It's a hard long road, but at the same time never say never. April 14, 2022 at 11:33PM

I will eat anything i can get my grubby mitts on be it garlic bread, cake or bacon. As long as it is edible, it will contribute in satiating my eternal hunger. April 14, 2022 at 11:33PM

If you have no interest I. Getting to know them at all you can just shut them down entirely, if it’s professional or someone you need to be around or would like to be around you can be more simple and say, I’m sorry I’m not really interested. Some will push this further and you may need to put your foot down or be a bit “ruder” by stating you are not interested or “I’ve said no”. Most people you interact with likely have several people that have an affection for so it’s mostly the crazy ones or the ones who take it as a challenge you need to look out for. If you have friends who know it’s easier as they may step in and “handle” the crazy ones alongside you. April 14, 2022 at 11:31PM