We broke up a month ago, initiated no contact on April 2nd, but agreed we would reach out in the beginning of June. I tried going on Tinder and Hinge just to meet new people and get to know them platonicly. I was trying to fill the void in my heart, but it made me want my ex even more. I removed myself from there, but before I did, I saw him on there and panicked over it a bit. When him and his ex broke up, he took to a dating app and slept with someone and spoke with a few others fairly quickly after their split. (They were together for 8 years). I felt like a rebound to be honest, but I had fallen for him hard and constantly fought with myself over cutting him off. Anyway, when I saw him on there, I "confirmed" it for myself that I wasn't anything special to him. But, regardless of how bad I feel about that "fact" (story I'm telling myself), and whatever else happened in our relationship, the days without him are getting progressively harder. I don't ...

For some context, my girlfriend is still in high school while I am in my first year of college, but she is only about an hour away so she visits every couple weekends and we talk every day. We are very close. About 2 or 3 weeks ago, I met a girl in one of my classes who seemed friendly and we started talking. I did initially feel like I grew on her a little quickly, but she established that she has a boyfriend, so I assumed that there wasn't a problem there. I also later mentioned my girlfriend to ensure that anything happening was implied to be platonic. I  went to a Savers with the friend after telling my girlfriend. She was understandably uncomfortable and not happy about my decision. Today when my girlfriend visited, the friend sent me a snapchat and asked me what I thought of her hair and pressed for more details on how I thought she looked when I gave her a simple reply. My girlfriend saw this and became even less comfortable with our friendship and thinks she's trying...

I made this account a little under two years ago when my wife (she’s 38, I’m 36) told me she wanted to separate, and made a few posts about it since. Feel free to search my profile if you want the full back story, there’s a lot of reading and it’s chock full of psycho crazy shit and new found beliefs in zodiacs and numbers and obsession with the Twin Flames cult. Short version: she developed a crush on a guy at college who she is still convinced is her twin flame, even though he blocked her and has no interest in her and became a catholic priest. Then she had a crush on a second guy from canada who messaged her after seeing her post on one of the twin flames groups on facebooks and wants in her pants real bad, and she made plans to go visit him this summer but didn’t follow through on that because she found out he talks to other women (he still harasses her constantly through Messenger and texts her and she leads him on sometimes). And then eventually she developed a crush on a third...

Tl;dr coworker inappropriately touched my gf and she didnt seem to care A couple of things to keep in mind... 1. My gf is very attractive and dresses proactively at work most of the time. 2. Shes very bubbly and is pretty much everyone's friend. The other night I met up with her and a bunch of her coworkers. This was the first time I've met the majority of them after dating for over 6 months. She introduced me to one guy as her "work husband". Shes mentioned him before but I had never met him. I watched how she was with most of her other coworkers and she would hug them just as a friend and there wasnt anything weird there. Then with her work husband I noticed when they hugged it was almost a full body contact hug and he also had his hand on her hip. To me theres no reason another man should ever have his hand on my gfs back or waist. That clearly indicates sexual interest. That's how I see it anyways. We had a chat later on when i told her how angry and unco...

For obvious reasons, I am not on my main account as I'm posting this. To preface, our relationship was mainly based on doing drugs everynight at her parent's house in her bedroom. We did acid, coke, weed, shrooms and countless more. The honeymoon period lasted a long time because the drugs were making us feel in love and it was always a fun time. But then, she got addicted real hard to cocaine and I couldn't handle it and she also thought that she was hurting me a lot with her hard addiction. It was truely a hard breakup for the both of us, but then after a few months of depression we decided to come back together. We were both sober at that time, that's when I realized I didn't love her as much as I used to think, so we broke up again. ​ NOW, she's obviously gone back to her addiction but worse; now she's into benzodiazepenes (xanax, klonopin) and opiates (Dilaudid, Morphine, etc) and from my friend's perspective, she's looking real bad. It...

Hello everyone, hope you're having a good day, this is my situation: Finished college last December and I'm unemployed, I've been applying almost every day since that and have gotten 7~ interviews, it's been two weeks since I've stopped applying. I usually get up at 8 and wait for the day to come to an end, don't go out usually as my few friends have jobs and stuff to do, only go out with my girlfriend two or three days a week, she's the most amazing and supportive person I've ever met and am deeply in love with her, right now she's out of the city with her best friend, she's out there enjoying and I could be with her but I just can't afford that, I'm using my savings from my previous job and try to keep it simple and cheap, she tells me that's no big deal and that as long as I'm with her, she needs nothing more, so that's a relief. She's a really simple person and we have the best of times at home watching movies, dri...

Three years relationship, filled with love and comfort (at least to me). Seemed to be doing well for awhile. Quick timelines: - met in the hospital - year 1: met both family from both end, loved our respective families (I think). I certainly loved her family and I was told that they loved me. - year 1.5: asked her family if I can propose. They said yes. - year 2: She got extremely jealous when I told her I’ve been with multiple partners. I was her only partner (she had a previous relationship lasting two years with no sex?). She asked me if she can have sex with OTHER people while I am not allowed to do so (because it’s unfair she said). She dropped this statement after one day and I still wasn’t sure if she was joking or not, but it casted enough doubt for me to did not want to get a ring right the way. - Also year 2: At this time I was looking at subspecialty training. I interviewed all across the country but arranged my job preference based on proximity to her. However red flag fr...

So I have known this girl for 4 years, and we have a friend group in common, and I have hung out with her and our friends together on many occasions, and her and I have hung out just the two of us a handful of times. I really like her, her personality, her views, her family, but she is a little bit on the heavier side, and I have been letting that be a (read: the only) reason to not pursue a dating relationship with her. Is that an immature reason? Do I need to get over myself? I'd love some more input on this. TL;DR: I have a friend that I am into, except she is heavier than I prefer, is that a dumb reason to not date someone? Submitted April 21, 2019 at 05:05AM So I have known this girl for 4 years, and we have a friend group in common, and I have hung out with her and our friends together on many occasions, and her and I have hung out just the two of us a handful of times.I really like her, her personality, her views, her family, but she is a little bit on the heavier s...

My reasoning for this aside, I'm very worried that I'm torturing her by doing this. I don't want to continue the relationship into college because I'm worried it will almost certainly end poorly and I don't feel comfortable leading her on as though it wouldn't. I'm gonna change a lot in college and so will she after high school, and I feel as though the relationship is not going to last. Also, we're going to different colleges and it would be long distance. I decided that instead of breaking up with her on the spot right now, I would tell her that we couldn't stay together; that we need to break up before college. I thought that maybe this would make the breakup easier for her and that she would have more time to adjust to the idea. I have no idea if I made the right choice (as opposed to just breaking up right now). She reacted very poorly and although she says she wants to stay together until I leave, I worry that I'm only hurting her by all...

I don't know how to feel, we were together for 1.5 years.. He told me that the reason for the break up was because he had too many problems going on in his life with money and family and that he couldn't handle being in a relationship. Then the next day, I find out that he's already seeing a new girl. Not even a week - but a day later. This girl, I know he met a couple days before we broke up. We've been having some issues in our relationship prior, but we were working on fixing it. Did he even care for me? Or love me at all? How does someone move on so quickly.. Or was he just waiting for someone new to replace me, as he probably wanted to end the relationship anyways? I still follow him on social media, and I know I should unfollow him. But all the things he's doing with her, are things that he did with me, especially things we did when we first started dating. All the things that he kind of stopped doing towards the end of our relationship.. It just hurts to ...

So me (25M) and my boyfriend (22) have been together for 4 years. I love him and he’s definitely the one. I will be moving a few hours away from friends and family in the fall for my undergrad education. I will most likely be gone for 2 years and we still plan on seeing each other. Ive had thoughts about exploring sexually and sex with new people. I’ve only ever been With him and I don’t want to look back years later and regret never enjoying my youth and having casual hookups. I’ve never had a Grindr or met a cute guy at the bar and gone home with him. I’m scared I’ll be that 55 year old on Grindr trying to find young guys haha. Am I a horrible person for having thoughts about experimenting or should I enjoy my 20s and have safe fun while I’m young. I’m feeling like an asshole but also want to make Myself happy. TL;DR : I want to try having sex with other guys and explore but I’m still not sure. I don’t want to regret my 20s. Submitted April 21, 2019 at 05:17AM So me (25M) an...

Even though I'm ace, it feels so ace that hurts xd April 21, 2019 at 07:09AM

I was having a conversation with some friends just to realize that on multiple occasions a good acquaintance of ours had been hitting on me and I never picked up on it. and it wasn't the oh they're kind of discreet about it it was literally hand on my side, cuddling up against me and meanwhile I'm sitting there innocently thinking we're really close friends as there's a giant whoosh constantly going over my head. Rumor has it that woosh continues to this day very day and truth has it that I'm more aware but still oblivious as hell. April 21, 2019 at 07:06AM

I think a homo/bi/panromantic ace could adopt the term "queer" if it feels right. But, given the term's specific history as a reclaimed slur, I would be hesitant about heteromantic or aromantic aces adopting the term. Because they are not part of the group of people who were originally slurred with the term, it's not really theirs to reclaim. April 21, 2019 at 06:51AM

Libido isn’t the same as a sexual orientation. Regardless, in my mind, if a medical condition, mental health condition, or just plain ol’ fluid sexuality makes you effectively asexual for any substantive period of time, I don’t see any reason why you can’t use the asexual label. There’s no ace police who will come arrest you if you decide 5 years from now that you’re a low libido pansexual instead of asexual, or whatever. You’re welcome here for however long you feel like staying! April 21, 2019 at 06:49AM

Have sex, have kids, get a mortgage, worship a god, buy more shit, observe bullshit consumer holidays... shall I go on? Lol April 21, 2019 at 06:44AM

I was thinking about this just today. I used to have a libido which made it possible to get turned on but I never initiated sex - I just went along coz I figured I like this person and want them to be with me so I should go along. But during and afterward was just like... why do people do this? After 10 years on the pill (keeps my cystic acne in check) I have realized that I never sought sex in any relationship... I just wanted the closeness and connection. And I’m super good with my low libido helping me be like naw I don’t wanna bang, never did actually, cheers. It kind of confuses me sometimes because 20 something me could get aroused/attracted but 30 something me is not into it. I just want to know another person’s mind and form bonds of trust with them over time. Sex just fucks everything up, pun intended. Anyway point being I feel this confusion every now and then. I often wonder if it means I am not truly ace but just in a medicated pseudo-ace state and don’t belong or shouldn’...

It’s not that we’re making others ‘horndogs’. It’s just really hard for an asexual to know what’s going on in non-asexuals’ heads sometimes. To us, all of it seems weird, or like an exaggeration, or an odd joke. April 21, 2019 at 06:37AM

I mean, I’m ace myself, but I really do think ‘constantly’ is an exaggeration. April 21, 2019 at 06:31AM

Why do you feel they mock asexuality? They seem pretty harmless to me, if a little, I don't know, surface level for lack of a better word? Just colors and objects that vaguely relate to asexuality, a trend and nothing more. April 21, 2019 at 06:30AM

Omg. I want... so much... April 21, 2019 at 06:21AM

When an acquaintance of mine was ogling at a girls arse, and I pondered inwardly "But poop comes from there". Actually, I knew from the moment I understood what the term 'ace' actually meant. All my life I've never been attracted sexually or romantically in another human being. And in general I just find the human body and facial structures to be unappealing in an aesthetic sense, so when I understood that asexuality was a widely recognized thing, I knew the term fit for me. April 21, 2019 at 06:17AM

Well for me the entire concept of dating and romantic/sexual relationships seem tedious and kinda gross. My nature is definitely that I don't feel the desire for that kind of thing and I know my best friend (who is also AroAce) feels the same way. I hope I'm not stepping on toes by saying this, but do you think your friend could identify with the term cupiosexual/cupioromantic? That's more what I feel like is being described April 21, 2019 at 06:06AM

Ew Dom and Sub both are gross. Blaze pizza and Which Wich every day yaaalll. April 21, 2019 at 06:03AM

So true for me April 21, 2019 at 05:59AM

Wait... Does she think all aces are celibate? What about non-celibate aces? Just cause my husband is ace doesn't mean we're totally celibate 😕 April 21, 2019 at 05:56AM

I've been apprehensive about doing that- I usually try in the shower, and phones aren't super shower-compatible. But I'll try that next time if I can. Thank you. April 21, 2019 at 05:53AM

I don't know, I actually love tea but I can't stand coffee. April 21, 2019 at 05:43AM

It sounds like a joke, but it was when I was watching The Lobster . If you haven't seen it, it's a movie about all the worst parts of relationships, and at one point, when a character literally tortures themself to stay in a relationship, I realized that that's what I had been trying to do for years. April 21, 2019 at 05:31AM

Being productive? April 21, 2019 at 05:19AM

Me too. Is there a link between asexuality and a lack of interest in tea/coffee? Hmm April 21, 2019 at 05:17AM

The funny thing is that I hate coffee to. April 21, 2019 at 05:07AM

I don’t know if I’m ace, but I agree April 21, 2019 at 05:03AM

MLM also stands for 'multi-level marketing' which is far more common on reddit than other sites ime. I was confused when i first started being active here and saw Avon called a mlm because i came from tumblr where men loving men is far more common. I thought it was a new meme or something lol April 21, 2019 at 05:02AM

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With the people where this happens to me, it tends to be more that I find them really interesting and exciting to be around - they tend to have forceful personalities and interesting lives. April 21, 2019 at 04:47AM

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Hey guys, I was wondering if we have a chatroom here on reddit or any other place (perhaps like discord)? Submitted April 20, 2019 at 01:13PM Hey guys, I was wondering if we have a chatroom here on reddit or any other place (perhaps like discord)?

Have you ever had a conversation with the person you're dating about communication styles and expectations? I've been dating a woman for over a month and it's going well, but she's quite busy and we only catch up weekly at best right now. This means messaging becomes more important, however she takes generally 12 hours to respond to anything and it's usually me initiating a message. I plan to have a casual conversation with her about our different communication styles, I want to express how I love that she's pursuing her career and I understand that means she's busy but when I don't hear from her until 12 hours later I start to worry/feel bad, and I'd like to hear from her more. How would you phrase this? I don't want to freak her out or make her feel like it's an ultimatum or anything - if she explains that she can only message in that time period but she likes me and sees this going somewhere, maybe I'll be more OK with it, but I wa...

Hi there, I will meet an OLD match this weekend for the first time (at his place). So yesterday he asked me to send him photos of myself on whatsapp. I then said, that I see none of his photos (no profile pic, deleted me on tinder). Ok, then we said that we will send each other pics, and thats what we did. Then he asked me for a full body-pic. I sent him that one too. (I don‘t like sending pics). Then I had a meeting with a friend... 3 hours later I want to take a look at his photos in chat and it says „this message has been deleted“. I asked him why he deleted the photos of himself, then he says that that is a whatsapp- feature for saving memory, whatsapp deletes automatically pictures. [This is a LIE, I verified that]. Now, tbh, I’m not so thrilled to meet this guy at his place anymore since he is telling me lies. I don‘t want to accuse him of lying though. Is it natural that you want your pics to be deleted in chat? (They were only photos of his face) Should I still meet him? Than...

Sorry, guys, Just wanted to get something off my best. This is probably entirely 'for me', but for some reason I feel in need of an audience. I have been single for a long time, about ten years. I'm straight male, 34. In terms of appeal, I guess I'm 'fine' although probably not too great in the face department. In fact the department has closed down and been converted into a sanctuary for stray cats. Anyway, once every three years I'll end up chatting with someone and I'll think "Hey, this person seems cool and they appear to think me cool too." This was at a 'block-warming' event, an opportunity to meet residents of the flat complex I recently moved into. The conversation flowed well and we had a load of unexpected things in common. We exchange numbers and plan to go to the cinema. She texts me Goodnight, we chat a bit. She text me Good Morning, we chat a bit. I ask her what time she might be free for a film. RADIO SILENCE. ​ Th...

So I went on a pretty good first date last night - mutual attraction, shared interests, conversation flowed easily. He was forthcoming about being pretty nervous and it showed a bit. He complimented my appearance, repeatedly expressed strong interest in me, invited me out again before the night was through, and texted me later to say what great time he had. He has recently relocated from a neighbouring city - this may or may not be relevant. My concern is that he repeatedly spoke of a female "friend". I now know how old she is, her experiences with dating and desire for children, what activities she likes to do, etc. He even went so far as to say "I'm not in love with her, she's just a friend / someone I do activities with" despite my not saying anything and doing my level best to maintain a neutral, interested expression as I filed this information away for future consideration. He does seem like a sensitive type of man who likely benefits from female fr...

Startling enlightenment over the last few weeks. I end up in relationships where my partner does not want to have sex w me. Physical attraction is there and we typically spend lots of time together but after the first few months sex and even cuddling fizzles out. This confuses me to great end because I love these things. I show up and participate in physical engagements enthusiastically early on because that’s what I want in a relationship, but somehow it never sustains. Even when it’s like REALLY GOOD in the beginning. But I will say, I’m not a woman that climaxes from intercourse often. It’s exceedingly rare. And I don’t fake orgasms. It’s just not me. I try to be an empowered woman and have integrity so I tell people up front this is my track record. And I don’t fake it. Sometimes I’ll ask for oral sex but not always. Am I crushing these men’s confidence? Totally turning them ice cold against me because in their minds they ‘aren’t pleasing me’? Or is a consistent physically affe...

We hadn’t met yet. But we got off the app and began texting. 5 minutes in and I know what she looks like completely naked. I did not ask her for a photo of her naked. And we weren’t sexting. Then, she said, “Your turn.” I told her I don’t send nudes, it’s not something I feel comfortable doing. She kept pressuring me to reciprocate and I felt really uncomfortable and could tell this was going to be a dealbreaker with her. She continued to insist. Then, her texts became nasty and insulting. Had to block her. The arrogance and insensitively was shocking to me. I would never treat someone this way. Especially a total stranger. Submitted April 20, 2019 at 03:24PM We hadn’t met yet. But we got off the app and began texting. 5 minutes in and I know what she looks like completely naked. I did not ask her for a photo of her naked. And we weren’t sexting. Then, she said, “Your turn.” I told her I don’t send nudes, it’s not something I feel comfortable doing. She kept pressuring me to rec...

He's 20 years older than me and I've liked him for a while. He showed interest at first but has since backed off a bit. I have to pass something off to him in a couple of weeks, so I'm going to take the opportunity to ask him for coffee or lunch and tell him that I'm interested in him and we seem to share some interests and some values, and I'd like to get to know him better and explore that. I've never done this before and I'm shit scared. I'm fairly positive I'm going to get rejected but I feel like I need to do it anyway because it's critical to my personal growth. A few years ago I would not have had the confidence to even contemplate doing something like this, so it's a huge step for me and I feel like the outcome almost doesn't even matter. Just the fact that I'm doing it is really important to me. I just wanted to know if anyone has any advice/encouragement/similar stories that they can share! Thanks Reddit :) Submitted ...

So my girlfriend is currebtly physically unable to be intimate. We still do all the other relationship things, just not sex. She knows I have a high drive and feels bad about it and recommended opening up that aspect of the relationship. I feel weird ecen considering it. I appreciate shes concerned about my needs as it is. But I've never done it and some ways does not feel right. Im curious what peoples experience is with it and what it does to a relationship. My largest concern is her feeling alienated, jealous or upset. I also dont want her to feel guilty for not being able to be intimate. And there is a very small part of me that wpuld like sex, but that is so easily ignored that its not an issue. Dunno. I feel odd about it, and am curious what you all think. I will add, I am not a cheater and will never do anything without her knowledge and permission. Thats how you end relationships right there Submitted April 20, 2019 at 05:12PM So my girlfriend is currebtly physic...

Do you guys think alcohol induced texts are actually truly how someone feels or should I ignore them? I got a drunk text from my ex one night and it’s still bugging me a little because i do miss him and I want our life together back, but the next morning he just apologized for drunk texting and nothing more. I just don’t get it, but I didn’t pursue it. I just told him i missed him too and left it at that. And dead silence. Submitted April 20, 2019 at 05:45PM Do you guys think alcohol induced texts are actually truly how someone feels or should I ignore them? I got a drunk text from my ex one night and it’s still bugging me a little because i do miss him and I want our life together back, but the next morning he just apologized for drunk texting and nothing more. I just don’t get it, but I didn’t pursue it. I just told him i missed him too and left it at that. And dead silence.

Like the title says, is it bad form to be on dating app before the divorce papers are signed? Is this something you should be upfront about? Some divorces take a really, really long time to resolve, and the relationship has been over for a long time. What are your thoughts, advice, or experiences? Update: thank you for the advice. I am upfront that I have kids and I will be upfront about the divorce process now. I don’t want to throw any surprises out there. Submitted April 20, 2019 at 07:23PM Like the title says, is it bad form to be on dating app before the divorce papers are signed? Is this something you should be upfront about? Some divorces take a really, really long time to resolve, and the relationship has been over for a long time.What are your thoughts, advice, or experiences?Update: thank you for the advice. I am upfront that I have kids and I will be upfront about the divorce process now. I don’t want to throw any surprises out there.

If someone has not contacted you in a few days? A week? What if they reappear after a week or more? Ghosting here as in you have already met and dated some, not they just stopped before meeting. Submitted April 20, 2019 at 07:51PM If someone has not contacted you in a few days? A week? What if they reappear after a week or more?Ghosting here as in you have already met and dated some, not they just stopped before meeting.

Hello! So, I’m new to OLD and I get anxious meeting new people, so I really feel like I don’t know what I’m doing and could use some advice. Anyway, I have been texting with this guy for a few weeks. We met up today for the first time, and I think it went great. We hung out for several hours, and kept texting after I left. I’m going to be honest, I really wanted to drag him to bed the whole time, and I haven’t stopped thinking about it. But we really didn’t have much physical contact, just lots of talking. Would it be too forward for me to ask him over tonight? It was our first time meeting today so I don’t want to seem clingy or needy, I just really want to get laid. Submitted April 20, 2019 at 08:27PM Hello! So, I’m new to OLD and I get anxious meeting new people, so I really feel like I don’t know what I’m doing and could use some advice.Anyway, I have been texting with this guy for a few weeks. We met up today for the first time, and I think it went great. We hung out for...

I (34M) Met a really cool girl (26F) a few months ago at work (we're both pilots) and have hit it off wonderfully. She is fun, low maintenance, and no stress. We've been going steady and we've started talking about possibly moving together since we live in different states and commute on airlines to work. Living together would ensure more time with each other because pilots essentially are gone four days out of the week and we lose an additional day commuting to and from work. She said that one of the pre requisites of having a man move in to her house (co owned with her dad) would be marriage and adopting her daughter. I would marry this girl but I fear that adopting would put me at a serious financial liability if we were to get divorced and I was forced to pay child support for a child that isn't mine. Some people have already condemned me for even thinking about being cautious and others are urging me to take all precautions. I'm at a loss. I'm ready to ...

I see a lot of statements around if a divorce is still pending that the person should be avoided. Given that many places have lengthy minimum separation periods and backed up legal systems. Given (where I live) defacto relationships are basically treated the same as marriage in many ways (financial, debts, children). What difference is there? What does the status of "separated but not divorced" and "ended a defacto relationship" have in common? Submitted April 20, 2019 at 09:05PM I see a lot of statements around if a divorce is still pending that the person should be avoided.Given that many places have lengthy minimum separation periods and backed up legal systems. Given (where I live) defacto relationships are basically treated the same as marriage in many ways (financial, debts, children).What difference is there? What does the status of "separated but not divorced" and "ended a defacto relationship" have in common?

I am a Male over 30 who’s never had a date let alone anything else. I am worried my lack of experience will show. Women my age want someone who’s mature, not some guy who has the experience of a teenager! Submitted April 20, 2019 at 10:33PM I am a Male over 30 who’s never had a date let alone anything else. I am worried my lack of experience will show. Women my age want someone who’s mature, not some guy who has the experience of a teenager!

It’s one of the hardest things in dating for me: communicate. I really hold back communication if the other person doesn’t communicate freely or if we were just casually seeing each other / at the initial stage. I often just end things before I communicate because I rationalise it this way: - if I have to ask myself if they’re interested, they’re probably not - if I I have to ask them to talk to me more / hang out more, they probs are not that into me - if they talk about certain topic too much, they’re probs just annoying and obsessed Etc I have been in the position where they question if I am interested or I did something that people found it annoying but I didn’t realise so I know communication is important. It’s just so hard as I’m really passive and because of the above reasons. I know it doesn’t cost me anything to say “hey I like you. So what are we doing here?” But I just .. can’t. So I always always ended up ending it thinking maybe another guy would make me feel more comfo...

Title pretty much says it all ... help me out DOT, what do you do to salvage a date night when your date went MIA Submitted April 21, 2019 at 12:47AM Title pretty much says it all ... help me out DOT, what do you do to salvage a date night when your date went MIA

So I've been trying to avoid checking PoF and tinder so much, but I got on today and started a conversation with this girl. We ended up talking on the phone for 2 hours, then went on a really nice date. Shes exactly my type and for the first time in my life I didn't have a problem just saying that out loud. You never know when you might meet someone, but be ready for it. I've never just met someone like that. Applebee's was really good too. She's a redditor so if you see this Hi!! Submitted April 21, 2019 at 04:10AM So I've been trying to avoid checking PoF and tinder so much, but I got on today and started a conversation with this girl. We ended up talking on the phone for 2 hours, then went on a really nice date. Shes exactly my type and for the first time in my life I didn't have a problem just saying that out loud. You never know when you might meet someone, but be ready for it. I've never just met someone like that. Applebee's was really ...

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My friend has been in a relationship since August 2018. In October 2018, she told us she was engaged, they planned on getting legally married in March 2019 so she could start the process of moving to his country (Australia). We live in the east coast U.S. Before meeting this man my friend had been in a serious of relationships with guys who were extremely shady/borderline abusive. The current man seems better but there are a few things that I and the rest of my friends find extremely concerning about their relationship. 1/ Throughout their courtship he has spent more time in his home country away from her than he has spent with her. This doesn’t seem to make much sense, as his job is based in the city we all live in. 2/ His reason for going back to his home country is that he is starting an office there for his company. There’s nothing about this on the company website. He also has said he’s starting a business but wants to base it in Delaware (U.S.). The company he works for is a ...