I would wear that outfit - looks so cool! I wish I had the patience to learn to draw. January 03, 2021 at 12:05AM

Never been in a relationship myself and this is definitely a fear I’d have about being in one, bc I’m afraid I’d put my own needs second and feel compelled to comprise etc, but at the same time, I’m a strong-willed person and clearly know what I want and what I don’t, and where I can compromise. And since anything sexual is just something I don’t ever want (my dealbreaker I suppose), I couldn’t be in a relationship with anyone who needed that from me- I just personally can’t bend on that one thing for anyone. So I guess it probably depends on what you can personally tolerate or feel comfortable with... if it’s a dealbreaker for you, I would think it’s better to just not be in a relationship that causes you a great deal of stress... but that’s something that only you can know what feels good/alright to you, so it’s something that you’d need to really just think about, and communicate (preferably before getting into a relationship) with the other person January 03, 2021 at 12:04A

while i don't think they were ace since i read they called themselves like that because the band members were all single at the time Now that's a bit dramatic. But hey! Might give a listen just for the laughs. January 03, 2021 at 12:03AM

While I honestly think that the majority of the community is cool, it kinda sucks that there are some of people who embody this mentality. It really shouldn't matter if your sexual orientation isn't the flagship for discrimination based on sexual orientation, but to some people it does. I would like to say though that this sentiment seems to be the minority opinion. I generally see positivity in most LGBTQ+ spaces. I guess the shitty stuff is kinda easier to remember, unfortunately January 03, 2021 at 12:02AM

Congrats on being out and proud! Your outfit is to die for I love it 😍 January 03, 2021 at 12:02AM

That's it! January 03, 2021 at 12:01AM

Thanks! It's blackmilk blackmilk I got it in October tho, it might be sold out. January 03, 2021 at 12:00AM

I love it ❤️ really cute :D do you have an art page or smt? January 03, 2021 at 12:00AM

You're fucking valid January 03, 2021 at 12:00AM

I mean like, what did you say though? For other sexualities it's pretty straight forward with "I like x kinds of people" but I don't know how you'd work in a lack of interest. I'm bi so I had the other problem of discussion of "sometimes this sometimes that" Again, not trying to be insensitive or anything, I'm just curious about something different than myself and I don't have ace friends. January 03, 2021 at 12:00AM

You know asexuality isn't real right? January 02, 2021 at 11:59PM

Wait. It doesn't? January 02, 2021 at 11:58PM

The yellow in the background also makes me think of the nonbinary flag, and the general ~ audacity ~ of the style give me BIG enby vibes, so imma go ahead and claim this as One Of Us, a they/them making mayhem if you will January 02, 2021 at 11:58PM

I agree!!!!! January 02, 2021 at 11:56PM

No one "deserves" sex. It's not an award or a payment. Sex is supposed to be an expression of intimacy and stuff, not a thing for one's own pleasure. Your partner is garbage if they really think they can demand you to do things just bc they think they have a right to your body bc "they did things". You are NOT FAILING. They are. They don't understand what a relationship is and isn't and that they have no more right making that sort of demand than a stranger would. I.e none at all. It is still your body, your choice. Badgering, pressuring, arguing etc is not a way to a healthy relation, it is technically them forcing you to do shit you don't consent to. That will not end well. Womanly duties, my asd. It is NOT a woman's duty to be a fucking object. So mad at that phrase. January 02, 2021 at 11:56PM

Wow, thank you. This is great advice. So far I haven’t really tried meditation and it’s the first time I hear the term shadow integration. I’ll certainly read more about it and check the book out. And I’m happy to hear it was so helpful to you (: January 02, 2021 at 11:55PM

Thank you! I never considered my eyes beautiful because of their dark color, and I always hated the way I look. However this community is helping me appreciate the way I look a little better. January 02, 2021 at 11:55PM

Are you sure it's not just that you havent met the right person yet? How can you not like anyone? Are you sure you dont like you friend of the opposite gender? (Despite the fact you have only ever been friends ughhh) I can go on January 02, 2021 at 11:55PM

Nothing. Everyone asks fair questions. Edit: everyone that I've met January 02, 2021 at 11:54PM

I love your dress! January 02, 2021 at 11:54PM

Not the op but for me I just told them found a break in a appropriate cover saint mentioned it and prepared for questions. January 02, 2021 at 11:54PM

Your eyes are beautiful! I love your smile too. January 02, 2021 at 11:52PM

I would ask that they explain to me the difference between a romantic relationship and a friends with benefits situation. If there's a difference, then obviously there's a difference between a friendship and a sexless relationship. January 02, 2021 at 11:51PM