Even if the world doesn't think you're valid, I just wanted to let you know that I know you're valid as hell and I will stand by you. 💜 November 11, 2019 at 12:43AM

I had a friend that was asking me to talk her out of having sex with someone and I was so confused. I did try and was unsuccessful. Afterwards I asked two friends, both heterosexual, a man and a woman, if that was weird. Both of them said it wasn't something they wouldn't be able to resist doing in an inappropriate situation like that. They didn't understand either. So, it's not everyone that's like that. Plenty of people have self control and not stupid. Some people are just in tough emotional states maybe, or other situations? I don't know. But it was reassuring after that strange phone call to hear from other people that it's not normal to need to be talked out of an inappropriate sexual encounter. November 11, 2019 at 12:39AM

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There will come a day when I genuinely do feel valid but the world won’t let me November 11, 2019 at 12:28AM

I wonder how it relates to being homeless? November 11, 2019 at 12:12AM

"Get therapy" is pretty popular advice here, but I have been in and out of therapy for more than 10 years and I've never found a therapist that was actually helpful. I have a lot of trauma in my background, so I should be an excellent candidate for this, but it just isn't working out. I had a therapist that started falling asleep while I was talking, one that had no idea how to respond to me and looked like she had a mix of horrified and disgusted going on. One that treated our sessions like a gossip session about my heinous family, one that was taking advantage of me and committing insurance fraud with the payment/copay, and one that I just never felt like she liked me. I spent hours crying her office, and she... I don't know how to explain it. Her facial expressions were the indication. She looked like what I was upset about was actually insignificant and my response was disproportionate. She didn't really say much about any of it. Then she went on materni...

I'm not a very confident person, and I know I'm not alone. I've got plans to meet with a F friend of mine, and I expect our night to go down from eating->netflix on the couch-> ??? I've never been good with making moves, and only ever had 1 past partner. How do you go from chilling on the couch to something more? And how do you know if they're down to do it? Submitted November 10, 2019 at 09:26PM I'm not a very confident person, and I know I'm not alone. I've got plans to meet with a F friend of mine, and I expect our night to go down from eating->netflix on the couch-> ???I've never been good with making moves, and only ever had 1 past partner. How do you go from chilling on the couch to something more? And how do you know if they're down to do it?

So, after 7/8 (maybe even 9) years of being single, I've started University... And I let a guy who's been very interested in me have sex with me. I feel horrible about it. I have a past of sexual abuse as a child, and I feel like I had lost interest in him, but I just let him have sex with me because... I don't... know? Maybe it would have been a little fun or something, or because I'm 25 years old and I was self-conscious about not having had real sex. Another aspect is that someone I absolutely adore and worship has casual sex, because he's very easily able to separate the physical from the emotional. It seemed kind of... glamorous and wild and stuff, especially given he's extremely handsome and charismatic and such. So, I've told the guy before hand that it's been a very, very, very long time since I've been sexually active. I didn't really realize this, but as much as he's very verbally flattering and such, he didn't... really sedu...

So I feel like men are lied to about how attractive they are. I put a profile asking for FINE, tall ethnic men. Men over the age limit, non ethnic and who looked like computer science nerds applied I’m not saying they don’t deserve to feel good about themselves but we all need to be realistic. On the other hand, women often doubt how attractive they are. Women who are celebrity beautiful think they are ugly. I know I’m pretty but not particularly striking. I also have a hard time taking photos because my eyes are small. I am in the process of learning poses lighting and VSCO. I feel like I look better in person. Also I have a small body for my ethnic group. I also need to work on abs. Submitted November 10, 2019 at 11:39PM So I feel like men are lied to about how attractive they are. I put a profile asking for FINE, tall ethnic men. Men over the age limit, non ethnic and who looked like computer science nerds applied I’m not saying they don’t deserve to feel good about themsel...

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I (f) have a huge problem when I hear my brother having sex with his gf. They are amazing together and I support their relationship and that means I suppler them having a healthy sex life. With that being said, I have a huge personal issue when they have sex when I’m home (maybe 4 days a month at most). My brother still lives with my dad and I think they can only really have sex there, so obviously we want to keep a safe space for that! It just becomes a bit much when I’m trying to write a paper in my down time and I can’t go anywhere in the house without hearing sex moans and bed thuds. I spoke with my dad and he says I need to chill out and let them have their fun, he wouldn’t let anyone say anything if it was me. That prompted the question “have you ever heard me!?” The answer was no. It adds up because I’m not comfortable letting go with my vocalization of pleasure unless I know I’m home alone. Here’s the odd thing though, I don’t mind hearing my roommates having sex. I’m proud ...

Hello, I recently had a talk with my bf of 1 year (long distance relationship), and I had to confess not really enjoying our sex during visits. Most the time I lay there, not really moving or doing anything, no talking, no nothing. I don't really know what's wrong, do I not trust him? Do I not trust myself? Did growing up in a sex-hostile family spoil me that much? Am I just too young? Or maybe to inexperienced (he's my first bf, I'm 17)? Or, in the worst case, am I not attracted to him? Or- is this just who I am, and always will be? He sometimes starts jerking off during calls, I don't mind. Sometimes I try to help him by moaning (most times fake moaning) and he then asks me how horny I am and whether I like hearing him. But I'm... not horny? Or maybe I am, but I don't recognise? Even during irl sex I've never had this "I need this now" or "I want him inside me" feeling. tldr; I have almost no sexual desire and don't really g...

I got diagnosed with HPV roughly 3 years ago, and had a wart on my penis. Since then my mental health has been a cause for concern, and something I have committed to fixing, especially lately, as I am tired of letting paranoia get the better of me. Over these last few years, I've gone to my family doctor many many times, as well as a dermatologist, twice, and a urologist once. All three conclude whatever I am concerned about is NOT a cause for concern at all; very normal, everyone gets a bout with HPV at least once in their lives (other than the vaccinated), and to go about my normal life. Initially, with the exception of my family doctor's original diagnosis, both specialists looked at me and brushed it off, saying there was nothing there. I, being the type who is a bit meticulous and OCD, knew there were spots of concern... yes, they were very small, and nearly unseeable, but I pushed them a little harder and said please, look closer at this spot specifically. They both d...

Has anyone else ever been in this position? How did you feel about it? For me, it was unexpected but surprisingly kinky. Made me feel empowered, so much so that I kinda leaned into it. “You like that? You like Mommy’s pussy?” Makes me think, is this how guys feel when we call them Daddy? Because it’s fucking amazing! Submitted November 11, 2019 at 12:05AM Has anyone else ever been in this position? How did you feel about it?For me, it was unexpected but surprisingly kinky. Made me feel empowered, so much so that I kinda leaned into it. “You like that? You like Mommy’s pussy?”Makes me think, is this how guys feel when we call them Daddy? Because it’s fucking amazing!

Probably not a great question to post on /r/sex , but was wondering if girls look forward to sex on their bdays the same way guys are expected to. Submitted November 11, 2019 at 12:09AM Probably not a great question to post on /r/sex, but was wondering if girls look forward to sex on their bdays the same way guys are expected to.

I’ve been pretty lonely for a while now and I want to know what I can do to start engaging in sexual relationships. Also, I jokingly refer to this as “hard mode” but how do you start a polyamorus relationship? A lot of people would consider that cheating but if everyone is up front then it could work right? Submitted November 11, 2019 at 12:09AM I’ve been pretty lonely for a while now and I want to know what I can do to start engaging in sexual relationships.Also, I jokingly refer to this as “hard mode” but how do you start a polyamorus relationship? A lot of people would consider that cheating but if everyone is up front then it could work right?

I'm almost 29, I've been on 5+ dating apps for what I'd guess has been almost 6 years. This is what I look like I just rarely get any matches and usually they just never reply anyway or they don't go anywhere It's honestly so depressing and demoralizing, and really shits on every other aspect of life. Submitted November 11, 2019 at 12:19AM I'm almost 29, I've been on 5+ dating apps for what I'd guess has been almost 6 years. This is what I look likeI just rarely get any matches and usually they just never reply anyway or they don't go anywhereIt's honestly so depressing and demoralizing, and really shits on every other aspect of life.

As far as I understand it, grey ace means you experience sexual attraction but only very rarely. My case isn't quite like that: I'm basically straight with some pieces missing, if that makes sense. November 11, 2019 at 12:08AM

Not ignoring it. Here’s an example: how many people go and get tested for lung cancer? Only people with risk factors, right? No one gets routine lung cancer screenings. That’s why the way people defend this test makes no sense to me. We aren’t “ignoring” our bodies or being poor stewards. We are saying that we aren’t going to waste our time and psychological sanity getting an invasive screening done when we don’t need to. I’m surprised that more people don’t understand that. November 11, 2019 at 12:06AM

Thankfully my friend is still respectful of my wishes just doesnt understand me. My best friend has stopped trying to hook me up with people after I explained my sexuality. Dunno why this world is based on 2 player time. But its annoying. November 11, 2019 at 12:04AM

I am serious. We both view this differently. What I am saying is more of a in-general take on the concept of low birth rate, rather than a case-by-case approach. If there are no living things, there is no danger, because danger requires something to experience it to exist, we can agree on that, correct? Now the opposite, a situation absolutely full of life like our own, is also full of danger due to the large amount of living organisms able to experience danger. Therefore, the less living things there are, through this relation, leads to less danger existing. November 11, 2019 at 12:04AM

You and I have the same feelings about this and are being downvoted for disagreeing with the majority. That’s not fair. This is what doctors do to us and this is what our fellow asexuals do to us. November 11, 2019 at 12:02AM

Not going to give this a click because the only real discussion here is why "self partnered" is a weird term for people with one personality doing what she is doing, and whether or not we can have a better term that implies you don't have to have a partner and aren't looking and that's fine. But let me see if I can sum up what a lot of opinion articles on issues like this have been in the past. Tldr: insecure person sees confident person being confident and assumes it is a front for the same insecurities the insecure person has because that makes the insecure person feel better about their insecurity but at the same time is jealous of the confidence shown and therefore must unmask the "lies" and expose the confident person as being even more insecure than the author. Since confident person is "obviously personally trying to put others down for not being as confident so that the confident person can feel better about their insecurity". This is...