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/u/bitchtarts on Has any bi or lesbian aces suffer from compulsory heterosexuality?

Oh definitely. I identified as heteroromantic asexual for a while because I thought that the ace part didn’t matter as much and that was I was “still technically straight”. But I was actually holding myself back from confronting the fact that I was romantically attracted to women and non-men. What sucks is that my aceness didn’t initially make me queer enough to be welcomed by the LGBT community, but now that I identify as a lesbian it does. :/ I still don’t usually bring up my ace identity in queer circles. November 09, 2022 at 01:24AM

How do other boring weirdoes make any of this work?

34M (Agender, but AMAB and masc presenting) Trying OLD after several years of being single post-divorce and never having dated as an adult. How do shy boring people find anyone to date? I’ve had a single date in 3 years, and that was most certainly a fluke. My therapist suggested I try to date to alleviate my loneliness. I don’t get out much and when I do I keep to myself. I consider talking to strangers to be incredibly rude. As a result I’m now on several apps - one of which my therapist recommended specifically (Feeld) but the whole experience across all has been very disappointing. The available pool of people seem completely incompatible with myself and my lifestyle. I don’t feel like I’m looking for anything particularly unusual or extravagant. I’m chiefly looking for a partner to spend time with that is physically affectionate and with whom I can develop an emotional and romantic bond. I’m not looking to get married and I’m not looking for a one night stand. I’m sober, child fr...

As a man, do you ever give late replies so you don’t seem obsessed with her, even though you actually are?

I’m aware that this may seem like an obviously stupid question. I am a true believer that a man’s treatment of you is a reflection of how he feels about you (OBVIOUSLY). But I’m still curious if any men give late replies on purpose, to avoid looking clingy. I am dating a guy at the moment and I intuitively feel that he is so obsessed with me, but he gives me late replies sometimes. So I wonder if I’m like really self absorbed and delusional (LOL) to give him the benefit of the doubt for this one. Thank you in advance! Submitted November 09, 2022 at 12:04AM I’m aware that this may seem like an obviously stupid question. I am a true believer that a man’s treatment of you is a reflection of how he feels about you (OBVIOUSLY). But I’m still curious if any men give late replies on purpose, to avoid looking clingy. I am dating a guy at the moment and I intuitively feel that he is so obsessed with me, but he gives me late replies sometimes. So I wonder if I’m like really self absorbed...

Give me questions or phrases that I (19f) can say to him (19m) to get him to tell me how he really feels about me

I’m dating this guy, I’m really into him But he’s so frustrating to date. I can’t tell where I stand with him. Like I can’t tell if he’s really into me or if he’s just going out with me out of like pity or because I asked him out first. Here are the facts: Why I think he’s not into me / just going out with me out of pity 1. I approached him, asked him out to dinner and he said yes (in person) 2. He’s shy. He’s nice. Maybe he doesn’t like approaching girls so when one approaches him he’ll go along with it 3. I just asked him a question; not even a small talk question, an important “are you going to this event” question, and he ignored it (read it and did not respond) 4. His replies aren’t as enthusiastic as my other male friend’s 5. I told him the last time we went on a date he could decide where we go to next. He’s not said anything about our next date 6. He’s not mentioned sex or anything (hes v inexperienced) Why I think he likes me 1. He initiated our first kiss (but was drunk) ...

Is it acceptable for a 25 year old to date an 18 year old?

I have mostly dated women a few years older than me but i recently got to meet someone very cute and loving through mutuals and she turned out to be just 18 years old. I have heard she likes me and I enjoy her company very much aswell. The only doubt I have is the 7 year age gap before i reveal my feelings to her. Submitted November 09, 2022 at 12:10AM I have mostly dated women a few years older than me but i recently got to meet someone very cute and loving through mutuals and she turned out to be just 18 years old. I have heard she likes me and I enjoy her company very much aswell. The only doubt I have is the 7 year age gap before i reveal my feelings to her.

/u/TheCoolerSeiver on Anyone know any media with good ace rep that isn’t Bojack?

Lilith in The Owl House is aroace November 08, 2022 at 11:28PM