For background, my boyfriend and I have been together for 3.5 years. We don’t live together but I just graduated and he’s in a 5 year program so he graduates next year. We live about 30 minutes apart now that I’m no longer in college. At the beginning of our relationship, the sex was literally amazing. Multiple times a day and he is really attentive to my body and needs. Over time, the occurrences became less and less, but honestly I wasn’t concerned because the amount changed as we grew as a couple. It was still 1-2 times a week. Since last fall, the frequency decreased to about once a month which was still fine. Now, we haven’t been intimate since January. I automatically blamed myself and convinced myself it had to do with me. I’ve tried to talk to him about it multiple times but he just won’t give me anything to work with. First, he didn’t know why he didn’t want to be intimate, now all he says is he doesn’t want to tell me why..... I just feel like that’s such an immature way to

My sister is always asking me for money. I graduated from college May 2019, and started my first full time job about a year ago. I have noticed that since I started, my sister has been asking me for money often. She has a two year old girl and she does not work full time. I don’t think she has worked full time since she was pregnant. Her husband is in college so he does not have a job either. She has had classes for cosmetology and has started to do nails as of lately. The problem is that, anytime she needs food, diapers, or anything random that comes up, she asks me for money. I do not get paid a lot. I get paid $13/hr. I do believe it is partially mine and my mothers fault. Once she for pregnant, she stopped working and my mother gave her our childhood home since she was buying a new house. My mom helped her with bills and expenses. I gave them copy of my card since they live about 12 hours away from me and sometimes my mom would deposit money to help me pay for school. It was easi

I apologize for the long story, I’ll try my best to keep it brief. I (25F) met my best friend ‘Scott’ (25M) in school 7 years ago. He and his girlfriend ‘Lucy’ had been dating since they were 14, and I got pretty close to her as well over the years. Scott and I became almost inseparable, but there was never anything other than platonic friendship between us. Neither Lucy nor either of the guys I dated over the course of our friendship ever had an issue with us hanging out, because there was truly never any romantic intention on either side. For the last 5 years, Scott and Lucy have been living together, and got engaged last year. About 8 months ago, Lucy broke up with Scott out of the blue, saying that she felt like she had made a mistake getting into a relationship so young, and said she needed some time to be on her own and date other people. Scott was beyond devastated. I was the first person he told when they broke up, and I checked in on him every day for over a month, and made

I loved this girl for the past 4 years and I told her a year ago that I liked her and she kinda friend zoned me and told me she loved me as a friend. 2months ago I accidentally met her while going home and we talked a bit for a sec. After a week or so she texted me and now we text on a daily basis and she gives me a lot of hints and I know she loves me from her friends too. And I LOVE HER TOO but something from inside keeps me away and tells me not to do it. I don’t know if Im afraid of a relationship or something but what do you guys think!! Submitted August 17, 2020 at 12:09AM I loved this girl for the past 4 years and I told her a year ago that I liked her and she kinda friend zoned me and told me she loved me as a friend. 2months ago I accidentally met her while going home and we talked a bit for a sec. After a week or so she texted me and now we text on a daily basis and she gives me a lot of hints and I know she loves me from her friends too. And I LOVE HER TOO but somethi

Hi Everyone. I (F20) recently just rejected a guy (M21) after talking to him for about 10 days. We matched on tinder and there wasnt much of a spark at first but I thought he was good looking so I figured why not? We ended up exhanging snapchats and numbers. Next thing I knew, me and him facetimed every night this past week. We met for the first time yesterday and I dont know what it was but I was just not into it. He was a very nice guy irl, paid for everything, opened the door for me, etc.I dont really know what changed between the beginning of this week to yesterday when I was rubbed the wrong way. He also kinda had bad breath and didnt know how to kiss at all... I think that definitely played a part as well. I just didnt see the potential in person and I am also leaving for college pretty soon so I also took that into account. I let him down super easily because he was very much into me and looking forward to seeing me again. I just want to know am I bad person for rejecting him?

i'm asking this because this happened to me. and i lost out on a potential relationship due to a misunderstanding. I went out with a guy i really really liked. we made out. then i had to go. i had to catch the train. I smiled the whole way home. i was so excited about the possibility of where this could go. it had been a while since i really liked someone. My ex boyfriend cheated on me. but i was feeling butterflies again. the thing is i am very shy, and socially awkward. apparently he interpretted the way i left abruptly as me running out on him and ditching him and showing i wasn't interested the next day he told me he liked someone else. i was devastated. i didnt really quesion him because his text was very clear and unambiguous. i took it as a rejection. i took it as him telling me he was not interested. i found out later that he did this because he thought i rejected him. i feel this is all my fault. How often would a guy interpret a girl leaving abruptly and automatic

How the hell should you respond to that and why is she saying that. She’s a girl that i’ve been fwb for a month ish now, but known for 5 years. Told her we wouldn’t get serious, and she told me she agreed (kinda doubt?). After not seing her the last 10 days or maybe even less (but even texted like 2 days ago), she Said she thought she might have scared me away... 10 days??? I have to add that we have gone from seeing each other like once a month to pretty frequently. I just also see other girls, i’m just kinda thinking if she want more to this, idk Submitted August 17, 2020 at 12:02AM How the hell should you respond to that and why is she saying that. She’s a girl that i’ve been fwb for a month ish now, but known for 5 years. Told her we wouldn’t get serious, and she told me she agreed (kinda doubt?).After not seing her the last 10 days or maybe even less (but even texted like 2 days ago), she Said she thought she might have scared me away... 10 days???I have to add that we ha

The only way I can get a woman is if I approach them and they are cool with it. I have officially given up after years of using dating apps and being ghosted. Women get hundreds of matches per day on dating apps so the odds of actually meeting a woman off of an app is incredible low. The best chance is if I approach them. But the problem is i'm too scared and I don't know what to say. " Hey I just wanted to let you know I think you're really cute and was wondering if I can take you out to dinner some time?" would that be a good opener? Submitted August 17, 2020 at 12:02AM The only way I can get a woman is if I approach them and they are cool with it. I have officially given up after years of using dating apps and being ghosted. Women get hundreds of matches per day on dating apps so the odds of actually meeting a woman off of an app is incredible low. The best chance is if I approach them. But the problem is i'm too scared and I don't know what to s

I have to see this girl and her friends who she has told at my school and I don’t know what to do because I think they will hold it against me. Submitted August 17, 2020 at 12:04AM I have to see this girl and her friends who she has told at my school and I don’t know what to do because I think they will hold it against me.

I’m going on a date to six flags with a girl I’ve only known for a month and we’ve only been out one other time, but we work together and talk there all the time. Things are ok we make out, awkward silence here and there but once we get talking we vibe so well. I’m 18 going to 12th grade she’s 19 going to her first year of college. I can feel a big maturity gap and to be honest its intimidating. She doesn’t want to do carnival games cause she doesn’t want me to waste money on her, and we’re both afraid of heights not roller coasters, so I expect she’ll be holding on to me. I just don’t know what to do I can’t really tell if she’s the romantic type or not. I’m sure I left things out so just feel free to ask. Please give me conversation ideas and other tips Submitted August 17, 2020 at 12:05AM I’m going on a date to six flags with a girl I’ve only known for a month and we’ve only been out one other time, but we work together and talk there all the time. Things are ok we make out,

Hi, i just need some advice or something please. Me (F17). i’m about to take a massive step in my life and go into the military my date is in a week. There is this guy (M20) that i’ve known since high school but never really was into each other due to the age gap, and that he was in a relationship. we would casually say hi and smile to each other as we walked past each other, be being 14 and him being 17, i was just into the fact that an “older” guy was talking to me. In 2018 i moved away from my hometown to live 25 hours away with my older sister. A month after i left Him and i started texting more and more, flirting on and off. Then i was ghosted.... In december 2019 i flew down to my hometown to catch up with my family and close friends. I attended a party and happen to see him there, we were both really uncomfortable due to the fact we both knew he ghosted me😂😂😂. we ended up talking and laughing all night, then to wake up the next morning to him leaving and basically ghosting

Need someone to vent to about the situation Submitted August 17, 2020 at 12:09AM Need someone to vent to about the situation

Do people still make phone calls or is that a thing of the past? Are phone calls avoided to text/DM potential options... can some of you elaborate why you rather text than talk. I was born in the wrong era I guess. Can we bring back calling each other instead of texting back and forth?! That would be great. Submitted August 17, 2020 at 12:10AM Do people still make phone calls or is that a thing of the past? Are phone calls avoided to text/DM potential options... can some of you elaborate why you rather text than talk.I was born in the wrong era I guess. Can we bring back calling each other instead of texting back and forth?! That would be great.

No, not how you described it. Thinking about engaging in acts with a person isn't the same thing as an innate desire to do so. Have you ever craved a particular food? That's attraction, that craving. You're not currently eating it, you might or might not have eaten it in the past, but you won't be as satisfied by anything else. This is entirely different than just choosing to eat it because you enjoy it. And there's also some nuance, for instance aegosexuality is when you experience sexual attraction only so long as you're not actually involved, it's traditionally characterized by "fly on the wall" fantasies and it's a-spec. August 16, 2020 at 11:39PM

Same. I only wear sport bras and they're very comfy. So I sleep with them on. When I used to wear normal bras though, they were gone the moment I get home. August 16, 2020 at 11:36PM

I'm planning on doing the same thing, since I can't wear rings for long without it getting uncomfortable August 16, 2020 at 11:30PM

I can also think of animes where it is heavily implied. (Some Webtoons (webcomics) do have explicitly stated aro and or ace characters. A lot are anime styled) So: So IDK if you've seen these but Lloyd Asplund from Code Geass (Earl of Pudding) is implied to be aromantic (possibly ace too)(so in the beginning it is implied otherwise but if my memory is correct someone mentions to the girl that he actually is not interested in woman (and men, because if he were gay, you'd know because some other characters show same sex attraction)-again if my memory is correct So another anime, I believe L (and maybe Light) from Death Note are aromantic. L does get a kiss on the cheek from a girl later on and he said I could fall for you, you know? But this article explains why this shouldnt be taken for face value. Of course I would read it if you haven't seen it and are interested as it contains spoliers. Also in an interview they said they couldn't picture L having "those desi

I'm pretty sure you wear it on your right middle finger though August 16, 2020 at 11:24PM

I mean, I do, but that's mainly because it gets really uncomfortable without one... August 16, 2020 at 11:24PM

Pessimistic doesn't equal realistic. August 16, 2020 at 11:20PM

I mean, you’re not entirely wrong but... I was brought into the same world and have experienced an unhealthy amount of things you listed and.... I am still happy I’m here. I’ve got a lot of problems but I’m not mad my parents chose to have me with all the shit I have to deal with and going on in the world. One of my favourite quotes is “the world may be broken but hope is not crazy” and I live by that. If we waited for an ideal world to have kids in we’d never have gotten anywhere. And for some of us, we simply don’t have time to wait for a perfect world to have a kid in. I think there’s nothing wrong with not wanting kids, even for that sort of reason, but to project it to paint people who do want their own kids as morally wrong or terrible people is a step too far. August 16, 2020 at 11:18PM

Unhealthy? I’d say realistic. August 16, 2020 at 11:18PM