Could be the biggest set to start off my career, but could lose someone along the way.. (There is a short version attached)

Hi, i just need some advice or something please. Me (F17). i’m about to take a massive step in my life and go into the military my date is in a week.

There is this guy (M20) that i’ve known since high school but never really was into each other due to the age gap, and that he was in a relationship. we would casually say hi and smile to each other as we walked past each other, be being 14 and him being 17, i was just into the fact that an “older” guy was talking to me. In 2018 i moved away from my hometown to live 25 hours away with my older sister. A month after i left Him and i started texting more and more, flirting on and off. Then i was ghosted.... In december 2019 i flew down to my hometown to catch up with my family and close friends. I attended a party and happen to see him there, we were both really uncomfortable due to the fact we both knew he ghosted me😂😂😂. we ended up talking and laughing all night, then to wake up the next morning to him leaving and basically ghosting me, i was into him so much that i was asking him to hang out before i left to go back up to where i was living, but he refused. After new years i flew back home.

about 2 months later he started texting me and flirting again, and this has been going on ever since, calling, flirting, ect. He has supported me through the stress of all my navy stuff, and cared for me as much as he could when i was sick or upset. It felt like such a fairytale to me as someone i’ve known for a while and never really felt a connection, i am so in love with now. he genuinely is the best any guy has treated me. We never wanted to make it official as the distance. We both have done long distance in the past and just never worked out. I would always talk about coming back down to my hometown before i have to leave to the navy to see everyone, but it just never happened, due to school.

Towards the end of july i ended up dropping out of school because i passed all my exams and paperwork. so here i am back in my hometown. Trying to spend as much time with him, my friends and my family.

My mum does not like him ... will not give him a chance due to our ages, which is odd because both my sisters have dated guys way older then them when they were my age... she refuses to even give him a chance, and little does she know he is the nicest guy, and he treats me so good. (she’s just lowkey really strict). so lucky i’m good at sneaky around, which is something i really dont want to have to do but can’t not when you just feel trapped. (my mum has done this for years, one of the reasons why i moved in the first place, just always was isolated and depressed)

I’m in my last week coming up to my date. And i’m just not sure what to do between me and him, i want to try and make it work with distance (because i can guarantee that i’m just gonna be moved around everywhere) but also i don’t want to be held back or hold him back. i want the best for him and i don’t think the distance is going to be good for both of us... Please help...

Short version: i’m (f17) Going to be spending the next 4 or more years travelling and working in the military. A new relationship between me and a guy from high school (M20) has sparked up in the like 6 or so months. i’m not sure if i want to do long distance again, as it has never worked in the past for both of us. There is going to be long periods of time without communication, and seeing each other. Do i give it a chance and see how it goes no matter how hard it gets or do i just let it go maybe until we are ready, and until i’m in a position where i know i’m not going to be away for a while. I don’t want to hold him back from going out and living the best life he can without me being on his mind...

Submitted August 17, 2020 at 12:07AM

Hi, i just need some advice or something please. Me (F17). i’m about to take a massive step in my life and go into the military my date is in a week.There is this guy (M20) that i’ve known since high school but never really was into each other due to the age gap, and that he was in a relationship. we would casually say hi and smile to each other as we walked past each other, be being 14 and him being 17, i was just into the fact that an “older” guy was talking to me. In 2018 i moved away from my hometown to live 25 hours away with my older sister. A month after i left Him and i started texting more and more, flirting on and off. Then i was ghosted.... In december 2019 i flew down to my hometown to catch up with my family and close friends. I attended a party and happen to see him there, we were both really uncomfortable due to the fact we both knew he ghosted me😂😂😂. we ended up talking and laughing all night, then to wake up the next morning to him leaving and basically ghosting me, i was into him so much that i was asking him to hang out before i left to go back up to where i was living, but he refused. After new years i flew back home.about 2 months later he started texting me and flirting again, and this has been going on ever since, calling, flirting, ect. He has supported me through the stress of all my navy stuff, and cared for me as much as he could when i was sick or upset. It felt like such a fairytale to me as someone i’ve known for a while and never really felt a connection, i am so in love with now. he genuinely is the best any guy has treated me. We never wanted to make it official as the distance. We both have done long distance in the past and just never worked out. I would always talk about coming back down to my hometown before i have to leave to the navy to see everyone, but it just never happened, due to school.Towards the end of july i ended up dropping out of school because i passed all my exams and paperwork. so here i am back in my hometown. Trying to spend as much time with him, my friends and my family.My mum does not like him ... will not give him a chance due to our ages, which is odd because both my sisters have dated guys way older then them when they were my age... she refuses to even give him a chance, and little does she know he is the nicest guy, and he treats me so good. (she’s just lowkey really strict). so lucky i’m good at sneaky around, which is something i really dont want to have to do but can’t not when you just feel trapped. (my mum has done this for years, one of the reasons why i moved in the first place, just always was isolated and depressed)I’m in my last week coming up to my date. And i’m just not sure what to do between me and him, i want to try and make it work with distance (because i can guarantee that i’m just gonna be moved around everywhere) but also i don’t want to be held back or hold him back. i want the best for him and i don’t think the distance is going to be good for both of us... Please help...Short version: i’m (f17) Going to be spending the next 4 or more years travelling and working in the military. A new relationship between me and a guy from high school (M20) has sparked up in the like 6 or so months. i’m not sure if i want to do long distance again, as it has never worked in the past for both of us. There is going to be long periods of time without communication, and seeing each other. Do i give it a chance and see how it goes no matter how hard it gets or do i just let it go maybe until we are ready, and until i’m in a position where i know i’m not going to be away for a while. I don’t want to hold him back from going out and living the best life he can without me being on his mind...