I got out of a long term relationship in Summer 2019 and I’ve stayed single for a little more than a year to focus on finishing my grad degree, work, and myself. I’ve been quite happy since then and decided to try dating again recently. Due to COVID, I gave the dating apps a shot and met a girl on FB dating. We had an uncanny amount of similar interests and our conversations flowed naturally for the past few weeks. We had a phone call and talked for a couple hours and even did a video conference for a few hours. Everything was looking up and I was in a good place. We decided to try a real date by going out to dinner. We had a blast and we kissed at the end. She text me when she got home, saying she had a great time and we even discussed doing a second date. The next day, we chatted a bit, but something seemed off. Despite that, she liked the idea I had for a second date destination the next week. However, the next morning, she text me saying she loves our conversations, thinks I’m ha...

I did say I was going to be coming here a lot. So for the backstory you could see the previous post on my page. So I called the girl I’ve been crushing on to ask if she was willing to go get a cup of coffee (instead of the dog play date since that had to be canceled). She nicely said yes and said she was available tonight, so I took her for it. Again this is the first time that I’m actually doing this in hopes for it to actually materialize into something. I’m n a perfect world we would had gotten coffee and I would had proposed seeing a movie at the theaters. Now theaters are closed so there goes that. I don’t want to ask her to my place just to watch a movie because I think that would be too much and maybe sending a wrong signal. Would just talking over coffee be enough or should I plan to do something afterwards? Thanks in advance. Submitted November 10, 2020 at 11:40PM I did say I was going to be coming here a lot. So for the backstory you could see the previous post on my p...

I (24F) told a guy(24M) that I've been talking to for awhile (and we both like each other a lot) that he's everything I ever wanted in a guy. I know if I were told this, I would be taken by surprise but also flattered. Do/would you guys feel the same way? Or would you be freaked out? How would you react? Just asking out of curiousity Submitted November 10, 2020 at 11:59PM I (24F) told a guy(24M) that I've been talking to for awhile (and we both like each other a lot) that he's everything I ever wanted in a guy. I know if I were told this, I would be taken by surprise but also flattered. Do/would you guys feel the same way? Or would you be freaked out? How would you react?Just asking out of curiousity

I (27m) am talking too a girl (25f) and it’s been about 2 weeks and we just had our first date a few days ago. She likes me and I like her but as we continue to talk, follow each other’s social media and stuff I begin to realize I’m still damaged from my previous relationships when I thought I wasn’t. I still have bad trust and jealousy problems and today it just became clear. She’s afraid that I’m gonna leave her and I told her I didn’t plan to but now idk what to do. I’m upset at myself because I know I’m just gonna end up hurting her emotionally because of my issues. At the same time I feel like it’s also too early to even worry about this stuff. I really don’t know what to do and it’s starting to eat me apart Submitted November 10, 2020 at 11:19PM I (27m) am talking too a girl (25f) and it’s been about 2 weeks and we just had our first date a few days ago. She likes me and I like her but as we continue to talk, follow each other’s social media and stuff I begin to realize I’...

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I’ve (28F) been in two long term relationships and the guy I’m seeing now (28M) wants to focus on getting to know each other more. I am 100% on board but I thought that just came naturally through going out on dates? He also says he wants to move slower, which again is totally fine, but we hardly text & go out MAYBE for a few hours once a week. I don’t know if I’ve been doing dating wrong or just that I’m all in & upfront with who I am and how I feel when I’m seeing someone, but I have no fucking clue what to do. Note: I’m also super late to the dating app game, so now in my late 20’s I’m trying to figure out how the fuck online dating works during a plague... Please help teach me how to date 🤦🏻‍♀️ Submitted November 10, 2020 at 11:38PM I’ve (28F) been in two long term relationships and the guy I’m seeing now (28M) wants to focus on getting to know each other more. I am 100% on board but I thought that just came naturally through going out on dates? He also says he ...

So today I was over at my gf’s place. I knew she was going to meet up with one of her old friends. It worked out because she was going there at 1 and she said she’d only be an hour or two, and I had a zoom class from 12:45pm-2:25pm for my university. After about two and half hours I texted her... no response... after 3 and a half hours I called... she declined it... then sent a text 20 mins later, after I asked “you okay?” Another hour passes and it’s been 4.5 hours, mins you we were supposed to go grocery shopping together, and I had a paper to write tonight along with some other work. It’s now 5 hours after when she planned to be done... she text me 6.5 hours later saying she’s wrapping up but I had said I already left to go back to my apartment at my university (1hour away). She asked if I was mad, and I said I was frustrated because you said it would only be an hour or two and I have other things to do. Her response was “you’re getting upset with me for hanging out with my friend....

i’m talking to this girl and she’s totally out of my league, so i wanted to know how u guys make your conversations more engaging e escalate it the thing is that i first met this girl four year ago, a friend of mine introduced us and we would go on a date that never actually happened and she moved after that, now she’s back and i’m on one of those situations where i really don’t wanna mess things up but because of that i think too much on what i’m gonna say, so knowing what to say may help me to escalate things mechanically since i’m too nervous to do it naturally, we’re not flirting yet this time around tho, just having friendly conversation until now and i wanna change that 20m/21f Submitted November 10, 2020 at 11:42PM i’m talking to this girl and she’s totally out of my league, so i wanted to know how u guys make your conversations more engaging e escalate itthe thing is that i first met this girl four year ago, a friend of mine introduced us and we would go on a date that...

I am a 26 year old 300 to 400 lb guy I can't talk to women and i am ugly I need help do you have any thing to say the reason I'm asking this is because my family keeps telling me that girls like that guys like me i want to prove them wrong why would a girl like me Submitted November 10, 2020 at 11:46PM I am a 26 year old 300 to 400 lb guy I can't talk to women and i am ugly I need help do you have any thing to say the reason I'm asking this is because my family keeps telling me that girls like that guys like me i want to prove them wrong why would a girl like me

I am a 21F who likes my friend who has asked me out a couple of times. I have said no to him, even though I like him, because I am scared. I don’t know what I’m scared of particularly, I think it’s that my family and friends wouldn’t accept a guy like him (he’s from a different ethnic background and his life isn’t headed in a clear direction - but I know he is just young and will figure this out) and that there might not be a future. I am also pretty scared of dating in general. Anyway, I really don’t want to lead him on, I really like having him as a friend but it’s too painful because I think I’ve developed feelings for him so I’ve tried to reduce contact with him for the better of both of us. But the problem is, it’s sooo painful because I do like him a lot. So...what do I do? Or is this just to broken to be fixed? Submitted November 10, 2020 at 11:53PM I am a 21F who likes my friend who has asked me out a couple of times. I have said no to him, even though I like him, becaus...

I (F22) met someone (M25) on a dating app. Thought he was beautiful. Got way too excited over him. We went on a date. I thought it went well. The second time we met up, we had sex. Then after that I was always the one to initiate conversation. When I realized this, I decided to stop texting him first. Never heard from him again. This really fucked up my self-esteem (though it’s always been low tbh). I’ve been stuck in my head, trying to figure out what it was about me that turned him off. I understand my feelings of self-worth are less about losing him and more about how he made me feel about myself. I really want to move on and continue dating but I’m generally terrified of this happening to me again. It’s so humiliating. I’m talking to someone new and I’m really scared to meet up with him. How do I overcome this? Submitted November 10, 2020 at 11:53PM I (F22) met someone (M25) on a dating app. Thought he was beautiful. Got way too excited over him. We went on a date. I th...

Like it says, we planned if for the weekend, but eventually it came down to Sunday. Sunday rolls around, and I'm waiting for her to message me when she is ready, and no avail. After waiting until the evening, I text her asking what was up. She said she had more work to do than she thought, and that's all she said. I obviously said I understood. Whst the hell do you think happened? Things went fine up til then, but now she hasn't texted me at all since Sunday. Do I ask her for another time to hang out or let her ask me? Submitted November 10, 2020 at 11:55PM Like it says, we planned if for the weekend, but eventually it came down to Sunday. Sunday rolls around, and I'm waiting for her to message me when she is ready, and no avail.After waiting until the evening, I text her asking what was up. She said she had more work to do than she thought, and that's all she said. I obviously said I understood.Whst the hell do you think happened? Things went fine up til t...

Who here would date a very respectful, very genuine, but not very forward man in his 30s? Not exactly someone to make the first moves, but will prove to be the best life-long partner you could ever dream of? Well, that’s me. Every since I got out of my last relationship, I’ve been striking out and losing hope. This is just to see if this type of woman is more common than I think. Submitted November 10, 2020 at 11:56PM Who here would date a very respectful, very genuine, but not very forward man in his 30s? Not exactly someone to make the first moves, but will prove to be the best life-long partner you could ever dream of?Well, that’s me. Every since I got out of my last relationship, I’ve been striking out and losing hope.This is just to see if this type of woman is more common than I think.

So I am 24F and I am starting to realize how many times guys come back to me after a few months (even a few years) saying things like "I'm so sorry about how things turned out, if I could go back I would, you deserved better, I wish that we worked out, etc." Why do guys do this? I have moved on in all these instances. Do they do this because they're now lonely/desperate or do they finally realize that I was a catch LOL. Submitted November 10, 2020 at 11:56PM So I am 24F and I am starting to realize how many times guys come back to me after a few months (even a few years) saying things like "I'm so sorry about how things turned out, if I could go back I would, you deserved better, I wish that we worked out, etc."Why do guys do this? I have moved on in all these instances. Do they do this because they're now lonely/desperate or do they finally realize that I was a catch LOL.

How did your experience go with this? I dated this girl for about 4 months and she didn’t decided we weren’t meant for each other. I still have some feelings for her, but now she is in a new relationship and it’s kind of hard seeing her with someone else. But I don’t want to lose our friendship because we still really care about each other and do things together. I’m just hoping I can get these feelings gone and not care she is with someone else. Any advice on this situation? Submitted November 11, 2020 at 12:00AM How did your experience go with this? I dated this girl for about 4 months and she didn’t decided we weren’t meant for each other. I still have some feelings for her, but now she is in a new relationship and it’s kind of hard seeing her with someone else. But I don’t want to lose our friendship because we still really care about each other and do things together. I’m just hoping I can get these feelings gone and not care she is with someone else. Any advice on this sit...

I'm a freshman in college and the entire semester has been completely online, which means I'm not even on campus. I met this girl that I share multiple classes with and I'd like to ask her on a date. The question is, do I ask her on some kind of "virtual date" now or wait till mid January when we both get on campus and ask? I'm conflicted because I feel like I could lose her if I wait a few months, but a virtual date seems weird and just isn't my style. Submitted November 11, 2020 at 12:00AM I'm a freshman in college and the entire semester has been completely online, which means I'm not even on campus. I met this girl that I share multiple classes with and I'd like to ask her on a date. The question is, do I ask her on some kind of "virtual date" now or wait till mid January when we both get on campus and ask? I'm conflicted because I feel like I could lose her if I wait a few months, but a virtual date seems weird and jus...

I have never been in a relationship and have not even been on a date. I am absolutely scared to ask out a girl on a date. I am scared of rejection and I am scared of what she might of me afterwards. I have lots of female friends and I don’t want them to hate me or think that I was only friends with them to get together with them. I also am not particularly charming nor particularly attractive and I have always operated under the rule that if you like someone, chances are there someone else likes them too. I also don’t think I’d be a good romantic partner to begin with. Normally this didn’t bother me, but as I grew older and saw my friends get into serious relationships and even marriages, I began to feel lonely. As a high schooler, I always expected to come out of college as someone cool, mature, and confident and eventually get a stable career, a partner, and maybe a family. I did not expect to still be the same insecure and lonely person I was then. Now as I am getting closer to...

I 24YOF slept with 35YOM from Tinder last week. The sex was actually pretty good. Normally all my ONS have been awful (lasting less than 5 minutes). I packed up and left immediately after the sex. I was pretty stone cold towards him after sex- but he was nice to me and said he'd pack up, gathered my things for me whilst I was getting changed and stated that he wasn't kicking me out. He texted me immediately after I walked out the door asking if I got in my Uber okay. He then seemed pretty concerned for me as my uber took the wrong route home and he texted/called multiple times apologising for texting multiple times but that he was worried and asked me to share my uber route with him so he could make sure I got home okay. My phone died. Early Sunday morning I woke up to all the texts and I replied apologising for scaring him and that I was home safely and appreciated his concern. He replied saying something along the lines of thanks for letting him know and that he was relieve...

So I (25F) met a guy when I was visiting a friend in another state through mutual friends. We really hit it off and we have been talking consistently since I left (around 4 weeks ago now). We have mentioned visiting each other (we are 4 hr plane rides away unfortunately) but no set plan has been made. Just throwing the idea around. It's so early into this and I want to just see where it could go, so I feel like it's not worth "cutting off" because it's harmless at this point. But would visiting each other be weird/pointless? Submitted November 11, 2020 at 12:07AM So I (25F) met a guy when I was visiting a friend in another state through mutual friends. We really hit it off and we have been talking consistently since I left (around 4 weeks ago now).We have mentioned visiting each other (we are 4 hr plane rides away unfortunately) but no set plan has been made. Just throwing the idea around.It's so early into this and I want to just see where it could g...

Her and I have met and been talking for a few weeks and I really like her, problem is that my ex kinda screwed me up a little and now when I feel something isn't right I jump on the defensive so I don't get hurt and I just messed up bad trying to keep from being hurt. It feels like this girl isn't talking to me as much as before and even though she's been active on social media she hasn't replied to my text which gives me a bad feeling. Well me being the idiot I am I texted her again after hours if her not responding and simply asked if everything was good. She texted back and said she was busy with a family member that she hadn't seen in a long time which is the type of thing my ex would tell me even though it wasn't true. So I said "if you say so, have fun" Then she asked why I said it like that and I realized my mistake. I told her that I'm just telling her to have fun and if she's spending time with family then I don't want to t...

Been dating a girl for several months and about a month ago the dreaded convo of past partners came up. She asked me if I still talk to anyone I’ve hooked up with and I said no because I don’t, then I asked her the same question and she tells me that she hooked up with a former Co worker and they talk a couple times a month. This has bugged me because I feel like the only reason people who have hooked up still talk is because one of them wants to do it again. Am I crazy or is this a realistic fear? Submitted November 11, 2020 at 12:12AM Been dating a girl for several months and about a month ago the dreaded convo of past partners came up. She asked me if I still talk to anyone I’ve hooked up with and I said no because I don’t, then I asked her the same question and she tells me that she hooked up with a former Co worker and they talk a couple times a month. This has bugged me because I feel like the only reason people who have hooked up still talk is because one of them wants to...

I met a girl at a party... Well I did not meet her, my friend forced me to meet her, even though I did not want to (yes, I am an introvert). I tried to keep my head cool for her's sake, but after that girl told me: "oh you are the guy whose research was published in that magazine. (Name) always talks about you. It is my pleasure to meet you. I am (name-1). I would love to know more about you." I said: "oh ok, let me just get a drink" And ran away lmao I am not a meanie I swear, I just panicked for some reason. I left the party right away. I do not know what I should do. Should I apologize? I do not even have her number etc. Submitted November 11, 2020 at 12:18AM I met a girl at a party... Well I did not meet her, my friend forced me to meet her, even though I did not want to (yes, I am an introvert).I tried to keep my head cool for her's sake, but after that girl told me:"oh you are the guy whose research was published in that magazine. (Nam...

Guys what would you do if you met a girl you really like on a dating app, but you realise you’re not ready for a relationship now? I’m asking cause I met a guy that I just connected in every way possible, so comfortable together. We talked throughout the lockdown I really felt I knew him well. We went on three dates but then I realised he didn’t really ask me many personal questions but we talked a lot but then he went silent after the last date for a month even when I texted him. He told me he wants to keep me as a friend as ‘I’m struggling with some personal things and not right mindset right now’ but only wants to reply to a message like every 3 weeks or so. I really like him, does it sound like he wants to still have me around? Why would he want to talk but so sporadically? Submitted November 11, 2020 at 12:20AM Guys what would you do if you met a girl you really like on a dating app, but you realise you’re not ready for a relationship now?I’m asking cause I met a guy that ...