Am I crazy or controlling

So today I was over at my gf’s place. I knew she was going to meet up with one of her old friends. It worked out because she was going there at 1 and she said she’d only be an hour or two, and I had a zoom class from 12:45pm-2:25pm for my university. After about two and half hours I texted her... no response... after 3 and a half hours I called... she declined it... then sent a text 20 mins later, after I asked “you okay?” Another hour passes and it’s been 4.5 hours, mins you we were supposed to go grocery shopping together, and I had a paper to write tonight along with some other work. It’s now 5 hours after when she planned to be done... she text me 6.5 hours later saying she’s wrapping up but I had said I already left to go back to my apartment at my university (1hour away). She asked if I was mad, and I said I was frustrated because you said it would only be an hour or two and I have other things to do. Her response was “you’re getting upset with me for hanging out with my friend.” And “but either way i should be able to hang out with my friend for an undisclosed period of time.” Then I went on about how she should respect my time especially when you didn’t communicate at all, and her response was “yeah i could’ve but i didn’t and i’m sorry for that but i don’t want to feel like i have to report my every move to you.” Am I crazy? She still doesn’t understand why I’m frustrated and upset with her... if she had just texted me hey it’s gonna be a while or planned out the whole day I would’ve been fine and just left on time to go do my work at my apartment, but I was left in the dark for over 6 hours when we had planned to go shopping for the week for food. I need advice Bcs the last thing I want to be is controlling but I can’t help feeling like it was wrong to get mad at me for being frustrated...

Submitted November 10, 2020 at 11:41PM

So today I was over at my gf’s place. I knew she was going to meet up with one of her old friends. It worked out because she was going there at 1 and she said she’d only be an hour or two, and I had a zoom class from 12:45pm-2:25pm for my university. After about two and half hours I texted her... no response... after 3 and a half hours I called... she declined it... then sent a text 20 mins later, after I asked “you okay?” Another hour passes and it’s been 4.5 hours, mins you we were supposed to go grocery shopping together, and I had a paper to write tonight along with some other work. It’s now 5 hours after when she planned to be done... she text me 6.5 hours later saying she’s wrapping up but I had said I already left to go back to my apartment at my university (1hour away). She asked if I was mad, and I said I was frustrated because you said it would only be an hour or two and I have other things to do. Her response was “you’re getting upset with me for hanging out with my friend.” And “but either way i should be able to hang out with my friend for an undisclosed period of time.” Then I went on about how she should respect my time especially when you didn’t communicate at all, and her response was “yeah i could’ve but i didn’t and i’m sorry for that but i don’t want to feel like i have to report my every move to you.” Am I crazy? She still doesn’t understand why I’m frustrated and upset with her... if she had just texted me hey it’s gonna be a while or planned out the whole day I would’ve been fine and just left on time to go do my work at my apartment, but I was left in the dark for over 6 hours when we had planned to go shopping for the week for food. I need advice Bcs the last thing I want to be is controlling but I can’t help feeling like it was wrong to get mad at me for being frustrated...