What seemed like the perfect few weeks goes south

I got out of a long term relationship in Summer 2019 and I’ve stayed single for a little more than a year to focus on finishing my grad degree, work, and myself. I’ve been quite happy since then and decided to try dating again recently. Due to COVID, I gave the dating apps a shot and met a girl on FB dating. We had an uncanny amount of similar interests and our conversations flowed naturally for the past few weeks. We had a phone call and talked for a couple hours and even did a video conference for a few hours. Everything was looking up and I was in a good place.

We decided to try a real date by going out to dinner. We had a blast and we kissed at the end. She text me when she got home, saying she had a great time and we even discussed doing a second date. The next day, we chatted a bit, but something seemed off. Despite that, she liked the idea I had for a second date destination the next week. However, the next morning, she text me saying she loves our conversations, thinks I’m handsome, etc. but she says she feels something was missing in our chemistry or it’s just her. She is new to dating (I believe she is fairly recently out of a relationship), so she thinks maybe she just isn’t ready.

I’ve been single for awhile I can understand that things may have been too perfect or maybe it was too soon and she was overloaded, but damn, it still sucks and I can’t help but to feel I did something to cause this. Is it just in my head? I’m curious what others who experiences this may think or perhaps I need a woman’s perspective.

Submitted November 10, 2020 at 11:38PM

I got out of a long term relationship in Summer 2019 and I’ve stayed single for a little more than a year to focus on finishing my grad degree, work, and myself. I’ve been quite happy since then and decided to try dating again recently. Due to COVID, I gave the dating apps a shot and met a girl on FB dating. We had an uncanny amount of similar interests and our conversations flowed naturally for the past few weeks. We had a phone call and talked for a couple hours and even did a video conference for a few hours. Everything was looking up and I was in a good place.We decided to try a real date by going out to dinner. We had a blast and we kissed at the end. She text me when she got home, saying she had a great time and we even discussed doing a second date. The next day, we chatted a bit, but something seemed off. Despite that, she liked the idea I had for a second date destination the next week. However, the next morning, she text me saying she loves our conversations, thinks I’m handsome, etc. but she says she feels something was missing in our chemistry or it’s just her. She is new to dating (I believe she is fairly recently out of a relationship), so she thinks maybe she just isn’t ready.I’ve been single for awhile I can understand that things may have been too perfect or maybe it was too soon and she was overloaded, but damn, it still sucks and I can’t help but to feel I did something to cause this. Is it just in my head? I’m curious what others who experiences this may think or perhaps I need a woman’s perspective.