I was trying to only talk to one person at a time on the apps. However, I would get ghosted and it just didn't seem to be the "smart" thing to do. So I decided to just start talking to more guys. Over the past month, I've started significant conversations with 6 people and 3 ghosted me. Out of the remaining 3, I had a date with one of them and the other two have scheduled with me. I like this guy I went on a date with, but I know that people change their minds all the time, and I do too. It feels stupid to not talk to the other two, just because I had one good date with someone. However, I feel like if things do start to get more serious, I'm going to feel terrible I was talking/seeing other people during the talking stages. Since I would only end up with 1, I'd feel horrible if these other guys have been investing in me for like a month, only for me to leave. There just doesn't seem to be one good way to do things. If I was being completely selfish,

I’m asking Reddit for dating advice. Guess that’s my answer. Jokes aside, I can’t figure out why I’m still alone. I’m good looking, physically fit, financially stable, and have a good personality. I have plenty of attractive hobbies like learning new instruments and painting. I have dreams and passions. I’m going to make something of myself. Still, I can’t seem to find anyone. Some of my female friends have said that they would like to to date me if I wasn’t “me.” I can’t fathom what that means, but it feels disheartening. I sometimes wonder if I’m doing something wrong— like maybe I intimidate people with the way I speak. Maybe I’m just not warm enough. It could even just be circumstance. It feels like I’m doing everything right and still not succeeding. I think there must be something wrong with me that I haven’t figured out. Submitted December 26, 2022 at 01:16AM I’m asking Reddit for dating advice. Guess that’s my answer. Jokes aside, I can’t figure out why I’m still alone.

Not indifference so much as fully supportive of both December 26, 2022 at 12:34AM

That sounds like aceflux, perhaps? December 26, 2022 at 12:33AM

I feel like a crazy person, I feel like my brain isn’t on my side and won’t move on. I only dated this person for 5 months and I broke up with them twice during that span. They were great but my mind bombarded me with their negative qualities and I couldn’t mentally overcome it. That was over 2 years ago and I can’t stop thinking about them daily. It’s the first thing I think about when I wake up, and the last thing I think about before I go to bed. It controls my mood and thoughts. It’s exhausting and I feel like a prisoner. I broke up with this person so I’m not sure why I can’t just let it go? I’ve been with other people since, I’ve journaled relentlessly, I’ve been to therapy, read up on mindfulness, read books on relationships, happiness, attachment, etc. Nothing seems to stop it. I’m defeated. Submitted December 26, 2022 at 12:06AM I feel like a crazy person, I feel like my brain isn’t on my side and won’t move on.I only dated this person for 5 months and I broke up

I met the most amazing girl. We texted for 2 weeks, and then went on our first date in London. Crazy golf, food, and drinks. It was good. The next day we went on another date and slept together. Third date we went to a cinema and got physical there too. Fourth date we did an escape room, food, and back to her place to hookup the second and final time. We were texting each other pretty much every hour for 6 weeks, and went on 4 dates total. A few days after the 4th and final date she started pulling away. Her texts were few and far between. I knew something was up, and I made the mistake of trying to make up for it. I overwhelmed her with overcaring texts and she pulled away more. After a few more days I tried to arrange a fifth date, and she sent a long text explaining that she enjoyed our time but couldn't see us working in a relationship. It crushed me. We got on so well. We were there in text, on dates, and physically, but still it didn't work out. I didn't do anythin