Dealing with finding someone perfect, and going on a great dates, but it ending anyway

I met the most amazing girl. We texted for 2 weeks, and then went on our first date in London. Crazy golf, food, and drinks. It was good. The next day we went on another date and slept together. Third date we went to a cinema and got physical there too. Fourth date we did an escape room, food, and back to her place to hookup the second and final time.

We were texting each other pretty much every hour for 6 weeks, and went on 4 dates total. A few days after the 4th and final date she started pulling away. Her texts were few and far between. I knew something was up, and I made the mistake of trying to make up for it. I overwhelmed her with overcaring texts and she pulled away more. After a few more days I tried to arrange a fifth date, and she sent a long text explaining that she enjoyed our time but couldn't see us working in a relationship.

It crushed me. We got on so well. We were there in text, on dates, and physically, but still it didn't work out. I didn't do anything wrong and was shocked she didn't feel the same as me after what we had been through. I felt like I messed up by not being good enough. I didn't have my own car, and lived with parents still. I'm still getting over it and I think about her a lot. I've bought a car and am moving out in January. I've sorted my life out a bit more. I wish that I could get a second chance but I know that never happens.

It also doesn't help it's the holidays so it's tough to get out on new dates. I'm stuck watching cheesy movies about love and being together by myself, stuck with my thoughts. How would you deal with finding someone you think is perfect and you have a great time, but they don't like you back?



Submitted December 26, 2022 at 12:14AM

I met the most amazing girl. We texted for 2 weeks, and then went on our first date in London. Crazy golf, food, and drinks. It was good. The next day we went on another date and slept together. Third date we went to a cinema and got physical there too. Fourth date we did an escape room, food, and back to her place to hookup the second and final time.We were texting each other pretty much every hour for 6 weeks, and went on 4 dates total. A few days after the 4th and final date she started pulling away. Her texts were few and far between. I knew something was up, and I made the mistake of trying to make up for it. I overwhelmed her with overcaring texts and she pulled away more. After a few more days I tried to arrange a fifth date, and she sent a long text explaining that she enjoyed our time but couldn't see us working in a relationship.It crushed me. We got on so well. We were there in text, on dates, and physically, but still it didn't work out. I didn't do anything wrong and was shocked she didn't feel the same as me after what we had been through. I felt like I messed up by not being good enough. I didn't have my own car, and lived with parents still. I'm still getting over it and I think about her a lot. I've bought a car and am moving out in January. I've sorted my life out a bit more. I wish that I could get a second chance but I know that never happens.It also doesn't help it's the holidays so it's tough to get out on new dates. I'm stuck watching cheesy movies about love and being together by myself, stuck with my thoughts. How would you deal with finding someone you think is perfect and you have a great time, but they don't like you back?
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