I've (25M) taken a break from dating, not tried anything in over 1yr till recently. Reason being I'm pretty self destructive in the sense that at first it's all good but as soon as it starts to get more serious (going from casual dating/hanging out to starting an actual relationship) I kinda shut down, stop being interested in hangout with them/when I do find it very draining and kindo of go in a state of being very tired/lethargic/unmotivated. But only when I'm around them. Not a conscious thing, might even be initially excited that its getting more serious but then soon after (like a few days/week later) one day I just wake up and feel like that and then that's pretty much it. Thought taking a break would fix it (and I know it's cruel to the other person to try anyway knowing how I end up so didn't want to lead anyone on) but after casually talking to some people I stop (like within a couple of days of talking to them) because that "state" end

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I have been seeing this guy for almost 2 yrs, I haven’t met his friends nor he met mine. Everytime we see each other, & we rarely see each other, maybe just once a month or every 2 months since he’s still studying & working plus we’re 4-5hrs away from each other, we only fuck. I was assuming the whole time we’re just fuck buddies or having casual. I know I have feelings for him & I know he isn’t the one for me, but I like his company even we don’t have any meaningful conversations nor common interests. Whenever I argue with him, he’d always say he’s not seeing or talking anyone, just way too busy especially he has financial struggles. I felt bad as there are times I feel like I’m pushing him to the edge so he’ll let me go as I don’t like what we have right now - so many uncertainties & such, but he’s just so patient towards me. One night we were having this big understanding thru text & he suddenly replied with I love you. I wish he said it in person. Plus he’s

It’s painful to feel that the person you loved and thought they were the one for you let’s you slip away so easily. After all the effort and sacrifices you made to accommodate them etc.. poof just like that they don’t care if you stay or go. Submitted October 09, 2023 at 12:11AM It’s painful to feel that the person you loved and thought they were the one for you let’s you slip away so easily. After all the effort and sacrifices you made to accommodate them etc.. poof just like that they don’t care if you stay or go.

We both American- I am Latina 29F and he's a white guy 27M. We matched on dating app. Last white guy I dated said, "I forgot my wallet. Can you pay." I was bummed. I am used to Latino men being more aggressive and and showing up with roses, writing me poems, dedicating me songs, paying for first dates, approaching randomly at the public places with roses. and if I don't reply to messages they text me 10 more times again and again until I reply. But I don't like the macho attitude too much. And this guy's behavior idk what to make of. I put on my profile that way to my heart was "roses."But his behavior is very lukewarm. I don't know this man going to give me what I need. I do like that he cooks. Background: I grew up with a father that has always treated me like a queen along with my mom. I've always been spoiled and pampered by my father. He cooked growing up and everything I ever wanted he provided. My every wish. He remembered every det