Latina possibly dating white guy. Idk if he will give me the treatment I need

We both American- I am Latina 29F and he's a white guy 27M. We matched on dating app.

Last white guy I dated said, "I forgot my wallet. Can you pay." I was bummed. I am used to Latino men being more aggressive and and showing up with roses, writing me poems, dedicating me songs, paying for first dates, approaching randomly at the public places with roses. and if I don't reply to messages they text me 10 more times again and again until I reply. But I don't like the macho attitude too much. And this guy's behavior idk what to make of. I put on my profile that way to my heart was "roses."But his behavior is very lukewarm. I don't know this man going to give me what I need. I do like that he cooks.

Background: I grew up with a father that has always treated me like a queen along with my mom. I've always been spoiled and pampered by my father. He cooked growing up and everything I ever wanted he provided. My every wish. He remembered every detail. If I told him I was sick, next hour he would show up with medicine and everything I needed and my favorite drink and food. If I wanted to go to a concert and meet and greet my favorite band he gave it to me. If I wanted to go clubbing in a random city when I was younger, he would make sure I went, had fun and was safe. Then I'd call him and ask him if he could pick me up at 6 am from club. Sometimes I would get back in the car with lipstick from a kissing guy at the club all over my face and my father would just laugh and shake his head. All he does tell me if I don't want my daughter with someone who will let you die if you get sick on vacation.

I haven't told this dude, I don't ride in card with men alone or have sex before marriage. but on my dating profile I wrote I was Catholic! and he wears a cross around his necklace. But I haven't asked him about his religion.



Submitted October 09, 2023 at 12:12AM

We both American- I am Latina 29F and he's a white guy 27M. We matched on dating app. Last white guy I dated said, "I forgot my wallet. Can you pay." I was bummed. I am used to Latino men being more aggressive and and showing up with roses, writing me poems, dedicating me songs, paying for first dates, approaching randomly at the public places with roses. and if I don't reply to messages they text me 10 more times again and again until I reply. But I don't like the macho attitude too much. And this guy's behavior idk what to make of. I put on my profile that way to my heart was "roses."But his behavior is very lukewarm. I don't know this man going to give me what I need. I do like that he cooks. Background: I grew up with a father that has always treated me like a queen along with my mom. I've always been spoiled and pampered by my father. He cooked growing up and everything I ever wanted he provided. My every wish. He remembered every detail. If I told him I was sick, next hour he would show up with medicine and everything I needed and my favorite drink and food. If I wanted to go to a concert and meet and greet my favorite band he gave it to me. If I wanted to go clubbing in a random city when I was younger, he would make sure I went, had fun and was safe. Then I'd call him and ask him if he could pick me up at 6 am from club. Sometimes I would get back in the car with lipstick from a kissing guy at the club all over my face and my father would just laugh and shake his head. All he does tell me if I don't want my daughter with someone who will let you die if you get sick on vacation. I haven't told this dude, I don't ride in card with men alone or have sex before marriage. but on my dating profile I wrote I was Catholic! and he wears a cross around his necklace. But I haven't asked him about his religion.
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