I've been with my girlfriend for 7 years. We have broken up once mostly due lack of communication and lack of trust. This was in 2017. Even since forever i've been a major pervert. I have a hard time controlling my eyes. Like if i'm alone waiting in line and there is a nice ass infront. I just wanna stare even though i don't i'll definately peak but not stare. Also boobs, if your wearing anything that shows them off i wanna stare. It's like it's build into me. It's too much., I get sex 2-3 times a week. My girlfriend is in decent shape. Maybe little overweight 198 pounds at 5'3? So she is a bigger girl. I'm in good shape however. My girlfriend hasn't caught me looking yet. But i know one day she might. Today she was working and i was at store and in line was a brunette infront in leggings and i was dying to stare. It was just so nice. I think if i keep going like this i'll cause a danger to myself. Cheating, staring or overall to much pe...

Hi, using a throwaway. I've been wanting to lose a few pounds and my boyfriend is against this, he says that he thinks I want to cheat on him and "impress other men" because I want to lose weight. I told him it's for my own satisfaction because I don't feel pleased with my body right now and he just acts passive aggressive with me for that. I'm unable to diet because I worry that it's going to make him accuse me of wanting to impress other men again. What should I do? Please help me. Thank you in advance ​ tl;dr My S/O accuses me of wanting to cheat because I wish to lose some weight. How do I deal with this? Submitted April 25, 2020 at 11:26PM Hi, using a throwaway.I've been wanting to lose a few pounds and my boyfriend is against this, he says that he thinks I want to cheat on him and "impress other men" because I want to lose weight. I told him it's for my own satisfaction because I don't feel pleased with my body right n...

am Hella confused SO i met a girl online in a platform we lot of people chat in a room by text or voice we don't see eachothers pics, i met the girl there and she attracted me by her pesonalities and her age ( since she was older than me and i'm into older than me girls and she's into younger boys) and her interests too so i talked to her and we called liked eachothers exchanged pics and started dating it was so fast, then we started loving eachother and the fire was lit between us, the thing is when i saw her she wasn't exactly my type doesnt mean she wasnt pretty just not my type but has a nice body but i already liked her before seeing her cuz i believed i cared more about personality so i didnt care and i felt like i forced love and liking on my self ( that was my biggest mistake) soo we started loving and talking all day and night every day it was 2 months and a half everyday whole day then after i started feeling weir because when u force something into ur sel...

I was seeing this guy for about 6 weeks. He asked me out to dinner after casually chatting for a few weeks. After that first dinner we started to see each other 2x a week for the next 6 weeks. These meetups mostly included going out to dinner & sometimes ordering in while watching a movie. He was always a gentleman, thoughtful, kind, did nice little sweet things for me (picking up my favorite candy to surprise me with, ordering me my fav. desert, keeping the car warm for me before picking me up) & treated me kindly. We did not get physically intimate until a month in although most of our dates ended up with me sleeping over at his place & him driving me home at 4am so I can make it to work the next day. After a few weeks, I noticed he’s not the biggest texter ( isn’t this always the issue) We would text in between our dates but probably not as often as I had wanted. I had a chat with him about it & he assured me he just isn’t the biggest texter & that “ you know,...

I have known her for not too long but she is a good friend of my sister’s. She is a bit older, but it’s not that bad of an age gap either. I started hanging our with her and getting to know her a lot and I have a crush on her. I like her personality, hiw good of a person she is, she is also a very good looking person, and she has the most beautiful eyes I have ever seen in my life. Well she came over to hang out with my sister and since she had some drinks, she ended staying over because she didn’t want to drive back home like that. She and I hooked up when she stayed over and I loved it. We started talking more and more and she found out that I am 17 still through my sister. Now I just saw her again when she came over and she asked me why I didn’t tell her I wasn’t 18 yet and she seemed kinda upset. I apologized and she said it was fine, but I can tell she is still upset and I feel bad. I like her a ton and I feel like I messed up. She doesn’t text me as much as she would before an...

My parents are very restricting and don’t want me to live my own life and make my own choices. I told my parents that my friend and I have made plans to get an apartment in January, and my mom bugged out and started screaming at me saying that I wasn’t moving out. She has a lot of mental health issues and is very nosy/overbearing. She is verbally abusive towards me and pretty much wants me to live at home forever. She always says that she wishes that I was a child again because that’s the version of me that she misses. My father on the other hand treats me like I’m some kind of lazy dumbass. I told him yesterday that I bought a skateboard online so I could pick up a new skill, and he said “are you f*cking stupid? you better return that before it gets here because that’s an accident waiting to happen.” I feel as if my parents want me to grow up to be the most boring and miserable f*cking individual alive. They are both miserable in their marriage and are always cussing each other ou...

P.S: Sorry for my bad English as it’s not my first language. I was born and raised in a pretty moderate muslim family. However things started to change when I was 15, when I slowly came to know more about Islam. It made realise how wrong and false it was! I couldn't get myself to follow it any more, because my inner belief just sorta disappeared. However, I kept these all to myself. All until this year, I was finally fed up and decided to confront my parents about this. I tried to subtly throw clues at them. I didn't have the courage of saying it up to their face. But they had already suspected me for quite a while because I don't pray, I don't want to fast. So, when I tried to bring up the conversation with why god miiight not exist, he for a minute put on a smile and laughed it all off, making me think he was very much ok with my thoughts and supports my opinions. So, me being the fool I am, confessed to him right away how I don’t think any sorts of religion is not...

Hi this is kinda long so bare with me. (I know no one knows what his true intentions are. I just wanna know what y’all think) We’ve been friends for over 2 years and I met him my freshman year of college (I’m a junior now). It was obvious he was interested from the beginning but long story short we talked, eventually kissed, he hooked up with another girl, I asked him what his intentions were and he said he didn’t want a relationship at the time (this was 2 years ago). We left off on good terms and remained as good friends. Sophomore year came along and he made the effort to hang out here and there but we never got physical. Summer going into this school year was when things started to change. We began to Snap a lot and he would tag me in things on Facebook. Immediately when classes started in August, he asked to grab food (which he has never done during our 2 years of friendship). This became a consistent thing throughout the year along with other things such as complimenting me (he...

A while ago I had been in a relationship with an abusive ex who was a poorly functioning alcoholic, and it really solidified my views on alcohol. I had given it up for quite some time as an effort to cleanse the household, I never really liked it much anyway so it was easy. I broke up with him in a straw camel's back situation when he passed out in my car. My current boyfriend is most definitely a social drinker. Every time a friend comes over or he goes out, drinking is involved. It's habitual almost, ingrained in him, it's kind of what they do and if they didn't have that well things would be awkward for them. I am kind of sick of sitting around opening up beer after beer, I get no joy from it, so I've been turning down social gatherings from his friends and family. I started doing this hardcore after he had gone out with friends, drank copious amounts, and ended up in the hospital. I was super angry at him because I've been through so many awful emergencie...

Hi everyone, I am a guy who’s 25, and my girlfriend is 24. We’ve been dating for 4 months. Things are mostly great, we have amazing chemistry when it comes to the physical stuff. This is progressing very well, much faster than the emotional side of things, which is slowly progressing as well. We sometimes have issues with communication as I tend to be too blunt, she’s a bit emotional and likes things to be said in certain ways (i.e. cushioned). That’s fine, I am slowly adapting. I was hoping I would get your view on apologies in general, and when they are due. I usually only apologize if I’m wrong. Sometimes it takes me a while to realize that I need to take some distance in order to know that I am wrong. Sometimes I react too quickly instead of listening. However, I believe that I really never let my ego take control. I really love and care about her, so I apologize when I realize/know that I’m wrong. On the other hand, I do not believe I should apologize for something when I have...

Hi, so I'm an 18 year old male. Before I really started trying to get a girlfriend I always assumed I'd do alright, people seem to like me as a person, I cage fight and box which I thought might give me some macho points haha, and although I'm not particularly attractive I'm not ugly, plus I'm quite arty. However things have been very different, I've now been rejected by the first 8 girls I've been interested in, who I've either asked on dates or just to hang out (I'd consider "seriously interested in" as being the type of girls I had to spent at least 1-2 months getting to know and talking to, and who I had to spend time properly getting over after being rejected). I'm very socially anxious and shy and have always struggled with talking to people, despite this I've luckily never seemed to have an issue making friends because, going by what my friends say, people find me mature, genuine and kind hearted. The problem I seem to be...

My husband answered our door and spoke with a neighbor we hadn't met before. He was letting us know that his daughter was killed by a drunk driver last week while she was riding her motorcycle. Her motorcycle club is going to ride by her house tomorrow in her honor. Her dad was letting all of the neighbors know so that they were prepared for the traffic and noise and understood this was a memorial gesture. My heart goes out to her family for their loss. I just want to do something to let them know people in their community care about this and want to support them during this hard time. Under normal circumstances, I would bring them comfort food. However, with the Coronavirus pandemic, I'm not sure that is wise for a couple reasons. Is there anything we can do? We are making a donation to an a non profit anti drunk driving organization. But I would like to do something more personal as well. TL;DR Our (33F and 35M) neighbor (30sF) was killed by a drunk driver. Is there any w...

The main issue is that my parents won’t tell me and my sister anything about their relationship. From what I heard, my dad cheated on my mom a while ago. He went to strip club (i think) some amount of time after that incident and after, he was forgiven by my mom. He then got caught talking to someone else on instagram. This is reason number one for why I feel extremely angry at my dad. He lied and manipulated my mom for all these years, and it pisses me off that they’re just all fine now. I already feel as though I’ve lost my father. The person I thought I knew is just the complete opposite of a role model. I want him nowhere near me or my mom or sister. Even today, I’m finding it hard to control my anger. While my dad was whining and berating my sister like he always does, I had an overwhelming urge to call him every single name in the book. I’m glad I didn’t, I don’t wanna be like him at all. I will never be him. I can’t even look in his direction. These feelings of anger also come ...

I'm having a tough time resolving exactly how to handle this. Maybe it's just the bigger situation that we're all in right now that is making me question myself. About a month ago, someone made contact with me on Match who lives in the next town over. Despite the crisis and everything in our state being locked down, I responded to her, we chatted on the site for a bit, and we decided we'd talk on the phone, figuring we would meet up in person some day when things got back to relative normal. Over the last three weeks, there have been five phone calls totaling about eight hours. If we were actually meeting up for dates, it's like the equivalent of that first meetup over coffee plus a couple of dinner-and-a-movie nights. At that point, I would have a decent handle on how I felt about that person and whether I wanted to continue dating them. Right now, my answer would be no. This person has a lot of great qualities, but there's not much of a conversation going ...

Everyone says that every relationship that you have, either a good or a bad one, teaches you a lesson. However, it is easier said than done. We often think about how much we suffered, or how we wish we would've done things differently. Tonight, I stopped for a second, distanced myself from all the pain that I've been feeling, and made a list about everything that my previous 3 year old relationship has taught me. I hope you like, and feel free to share your thoughts! Here it is: Love does not overcome everything. It takes a lot more than just loving someone, in order to make a relationship work. You can love someone to death and still not wanting that person to be in your life ever again. Respect is actually more important than trust. Let me explain. You can lie to someone and gain their trust again, even though it is hard (and it definitely depends on how much you ruined someone else's trust), but once you lose respect about someone else, it's almost impossib...

I lived about an hour from my girlfriend. We always talked about living together. About a month ago, she broke up with me out of nowhere and then took it back. We tentatively started talking about moving in together again, and last night my girlfriend broke down and confessed that she had not been good to me. She told me that she started a conversation with someone she met here on reddit, which then moved to text and Snapchat. I saw messages like “how’s your butt doing?” and “I want to finish to you”, and they were constantly in touch taking about other things. She said she was depressed and “just wanted a friend”, and that if she sent him the pictures that he might stop asking. She said this happened for a period of two weeks and then she stop sending the pictures, although they remained friends. Before this, she and I had no sex life to speak of, so I was floored by this. She didn’t break it off until last night, when I gave her an ultimatum to choose either him or me. She took t...

I’ve been on bumble and hinge since I broke up with my ex last year. On and off of course. I’ve matched with a few guys. It never seems to last longer than 2 weeks. I’m 27f and upfront about what I want- like it’s in my profile that I do not want random hookups. The latest one really threw me though. I was really vibing with the guy and this was literally as shit was hitting the fan with the pandemic (I live in Jersey- him PA) and he kept insisting I meet up with him. Kept telling him that I wanted to but not right now. Then it turned into the typical- less talking- I ask what’s up with that. All of a sudden he’s busy (bro we’re in quarantine). He kept telling me he liked me so much and then would say weird things when we would FaceTime like maybe just focus on yourself or back track and say yeah i fuck with you but when I said I like you it means I want to be in a relationship and I’m not there yet. Whole time I’m thinking “no one said relationship- we haven’t even met yet” then he s...

Tldr: My boyfriend hasn’t spent time with me unless it’s to sleep or hang out for a little bit before sleeping since March 20 (the day we were both laid off). I am growing increasingly lonely and depressed and he doesn’t care because “everyone is depressed and stressed right now” So, basically since quarantine has begun, my boyfriend spends all day in the other room playing video games. Normally I have no issue with this. I play games a lot as well. I got a new game that I’ve been playing for hours on end. But we have spent no quality time at all since this began over a month ago. I have asked and he spends about 15 minutes with me until he gets bored and goes back to his game. It’s a game we can’t play together btw since we only have one of that particular console. One day we watched exactly 3 episodes of a show together before he got bored and went back to the game. He won’t even finish a meal with me. He takes a few bites and then goes back, or he takes his meal to the couch and ...

So sick of this shit, I've tried bumble, POF, and tinder. I stuck with tinder for 6 months, as it was the only app that didn't show the closest person at 100+ miles from me. Of the entire time using these shitty apps I've maybe had 4-6 real people matches, and 0 conversation. If you try to talk to someone you are met with silence, and then an unmatch. I am not vulgar when messaging, maybe a little boring, but even when I would try and shake things up and make SOME sort of interesting convo, asking hobbies, favorite movies, try to tell a joke ANYTHING it is met with silence and then an unmatch. Any other matches I've had are just people promoting their fucking premium snaps/only fans Or they are a fucking scam bot... Suicide would be more productive at this point. Submitted April 26, 2020 at 12:12AM So sick of this shit, I've tried bumble, POF, and tinder. I stuck with tinder for 6 months, as it was the only app that didn't show the closest person at ...

For background, I had a group of very close friends for the first half of my undergrad,(so 18 months friendship I guess?) we were very much in each others pockets and the friend from the title practically lived with me for a while. At the start of my 2nd year I suffered a big and fairly traumatic bereavement which meant I pretty much vanished for a solid week to make arrangements etc. After I returned from this by the time I managed to get my head together, all of this group had begun avoiding me: I'm talking walking out of rooms when I entered etc. It was a very difficult and hurtful period for me and I was never able to really find out what had caused such a deep rift. I did hear afterwards from multiple sources that some very horrible rumours were being spread by this group, which really compounded the issue. Thankfully I met the love of my life later that year and managed to enjoy the rest of my undergrad! We've now been together 4 years and (touch wood) should be getting...

Im dating a girl for few weeks now and she likes to do tiktoks (she only has like 500 followers), always did funny ones but now she began to do "sexual" dances, like swinging her body and showing it off, pushing her ass out and that in tight leggings, always showing her stomach and now even lightly showing the bottom of her bra. She said she does them because she likes to show "what she has". Would you say it is okay? or not? Also what kinda bothers me about this, is she writes with a lot of guys online,but almost all of them live in different city's , she began talkign to them before me and before the tiktok thing, ,but its so obvious they are only talking to her because she is realy hot but she incists that she knows them for long enough that theyre just friends. Whats ur opinion? tl;dr : Girl(18f) im(20m) dating uploads light dresses tiktoks and sometimes "sexual" dances, is that okay? Submitted April 26, 2020 at 12:07AM Im dating a girl...

tl;dr - my parents are super controlling over my life including the most ridiculous things and things like academics and my social life. how do i get them off my back without offending them but also getting them to really listen to what i have to say? my parents are honestly my biggest supporters and help me sm. but they can also be soooo controlling. since we’ve been in quarantine i’ve been staying up later (talking to friends, on my phone, etc.) and my sleep schedule has changed. td my parents decided to hold a meeting to address this and basically said that it’s not ok to stay up so late and that they’ll be taking my phone away at 11 each night from now on. they’re always on me ab how i never do anything and ig i could be more active (i do exercise and get up but some days i j feel like doing nothing plus we’re in quarantine anyways). they make me feel like crap even tho i’m pretty sure lots of other normal teens are doing this as well. i’m a junior in hs...then they went on and s...