(30 F) I’m feeling really depressed and lonely during quarantine and my boyfriend that I live with (30 M) has no desire to spend time with me.

Tldr: My boyfriend hasn’t spent time with me unless it’s to sleep or hang out for a little bit before sleeping since March 20 (the day we were both laid off). I am growing increasingly lonely and depressed and he doesn’t care because “everyone is depressed and stressed right now”

So, basically since quarantine has begun, my boyfriend spends all day in the other room playing video games. Normally I have no issue with this. I play games a lot as well. I got a new game that I’ve been playing for hours on end. But we have spent no quality time at all since this began over a month ago. I have asked and he spends about 15 minutes with me until he gets bored and goes back to his game. It’s a game we can’t play together btw since we only have one of that particular console. One day we watched exactly 3 episodes of a show together before he got bored and went back to the game.

He won’t even finish a meal with me. He takes a few bites and then goes back, or he takes his meal to the couch and watches something he wants to watch on tv.

I’ve expressed to him a few times that I want to hang out but he doesn’t see it as not spending time together because we live together. Being in the same house counts as spending time together for him.

I’m also really missing my job (that I love) and I’m very sad and he says that it’s irrelevant because everyone feels that way right now. He has left me to cry on my own. I have literally no money, I haven’t gotten any government assistance yet, I can’t pay a single bill or even buy a meal, and I’m so stressed and lonely. I have nobody to talk to. He offers no comfort.. he just leaves or says “ok but everyone is going through that right now”. He has bought groceries and offered me money but I really just want the comfort of him being there.

He also will only come out to talk to me about something that happened in the game. I love to hear about it (I play the game too) but I really wish he wanted to go for a walk with me, watch a movie with me, finish a meal next to me, etc.

He also stays up all night playing and some nights I have to ask him to please come to bed.

He swears he still loves me, but I honestly feel like he’s going to break up with me right after quarantine. Part of me even thinks he might be talking to someone else online. This is hard because we have been close for over 10 years and dating for almost 3. But I think he doesn’t love me anymore and I don’t know how to come to terms with this during quarantine.

I should mention that life wasn’t like this AT ALL until lockdown. We have always spent lots of time hanging out and doing things together. Now we are hardly ever in the same room.

I also have no friends or family to talk to. Everyone has been really unavailable for me, which is ok I guess considering what’s going on. But I’m really really lonely and I have nobody. I can barely take it anymore. I have nobody at all that cares about me right now but I miss everyone.

What do I do? I’m so stressed that I feel like I will pass out from the heaviness of life right now. Part of me thinks I should just leave after quarantine but I love him and I don’t know if this is just a phase that will pass.

Submitted April 26, 2020 at 12:02AM

Tldr: My boyfriend hasn’t spent time with me unless it’s to sleep or hang out for a little bit before sleeping since March 20 (the day we were both laid off). I am growing increasingly lonely and depressed and he doesn’t care because “everyone is depressed and stressed right now”So, basically since quarantine has begun, my boyfriend spends all day in the other room playing video games. Normally I have no issue with this. I play games a lot as well. I got a new game that I’ve been playing for hours on end. But we have spent no quality time at all since this began over a month ago. I have asked and he spends about 15 minutes with me until he gets bored and goes back to his game. It’s a game we can’t play together btw since we only have one of that particular console. One day we watched exactly 3 episodes of a show together before he got bored and went back to the game.He won’t even finish a meal with me. He takes a few bites and then goes back, or he takes his meal to the couch and watches something he wants to watch on tv.I’ve expressed to him a few times that I want to hang out but he doesn’t see it as not spending time together because we live together. Being in the same house counts as spending time together for him.I’m also really missing my job (that I love) and I’m very sad and he says that it’s irrelevant because everyone feels that way right now. He has left me to cry on my own. I have literally no money, I haven’t gotten any government assistance yet, I can’t pay a single bill or even buy a meal, and I’m so stressed and lonely. I have nobody to talk to. He offers no comfort.. he just leaves or says “ok but everyone is going through that right now”. He has bought groceries and offered me money but I really just want the comfort of him being there.He also will only come out to talk to me about something that happened in the game. I love to hear about it (I play the game too) but I really wish he wanted to go for a walk with me, watch a movie with me, finish a meal next to me, etc.He also stays up all night playing and some nights I have to ask him to please come to bed.He swears he still loves me, but I honestly feel like he’s going to break up with me right after quarantine. Part of me even thinks he might be talking to someone else online. This is hard because we have been close for over 10 years and dating for almost 3. But I think he doesn’t love me anymore and I don’t know how to come to terms with this during quarantine.I should mention that life wasn’t like this AT ALL until lockdown. We have always spent lots of time hanging out and doing things together. Now we are hardly ever in the same room.I also have no friends or family to talk to. Everyone has been really unavailable for me, which is ok I guess considering what’s going on. But I’m really really lonely and I have nobody. I can barely take it anymore. I have nobody at all that cares about me right now but I miss everyone.What do I do? I’m so stressed that I feel like I will pass out from the heaviness of life right now. Part of me thinks I should just leave after quarantine but I love him and I don’t know if this is just a phase that will pass.