Was he [M/21] just trying to get in my [F/21] pants or wanted something more?

Hi this is kinda long so bare with me. (I know no one knows what his true intentions are. I just wanna know what y’all think)

We’ve been friends for over 2 years and I met him my freshman year of college (I’m a junior now). It was obvious he was interested from the beginning but long story short we talked, eventually kissed, he hooked up with another girl, I asked him what his intentions were and he said he didn’t want a relationship at the time (this was 2 years ago). We left off on good terms and remained as good friends. Sophomore year came along and he made the effort to hang out here and there but we never got physical. Summer going into this school year was when things started to change. We began to Snap a lot and he would tag me in things on Facebook. Immediately when classes started in August, he asked to grab food (which he has never done during our 2 years of friendship). This became a consistent thing throughout the year along with other things such as complimenting me (he has never done that before), asking to hang out more, buying me coffee several times, bought wine, cooked for me (specifically bought me steak once), asked to go to the city and FaceTime over winter break, he remembered my birthday and even bought me a bottle after I jokingly asked for one. All of this happened from August-March. The past 2 years, he would hookup with other girls when we were at the same party together. This year, however, we were at 2 parties together and he stayed by my side and would tried to get with me. At one party, I was getting close with another guy and I knew he got jealous but just didn’t say anything because, well, he really couldn’t when he has been doing the same thing to me last year. At my birthday party, I got really drunk and apparently flirted with one of his friends. The next day, his friend told me that he looked like he didn’t like that I did that.

Anyways, in March, because of COVID19 we all had to leave. The day before we had to leave, he asks to hangout because he said “this might be the last time I see your face.” We hang out, he pays for my coffee, and we go back to my room. He eventually asks if I wanted him to kiss me and I say no. He then asks why and I say “I’m bad at this stuff” and I just say the cheek. He kisses me on the cheek and eventually kind of makes out with my neck and we cuddle for 2 hour. Eventually he leaves and I go to the bar with my friends later that night. I then get a text from him saying he’s coming with his friends too. I dance with my guy friends and then I see him hooking up with another girl. I get mad and I know this is immature so I found another guy and eventually I’m sitting on his lap (we never kissed or anything).

I like him but I don’t know if he was just trying to just hookup or wanted something more. We’ve always kept in contact since freshman year but now we haven’t talked in about a month. I’m not sure if I should reach out because I don’t know if he still has feelings for me

So, did he just want to hookup or wanted something more?

tl;dr: This guy is giving me mixed signals and I don’t know if he wanted to just hookup or something more.

Submitted April 25, 2020 at 11:39PM

Hi this is kinda long so bare with me. (I know no one knows what his true intentions are. I just wanna know what y’all think)We’ve been friends for over 2 years and I met him my freshman year of college (I’m a junior now). It was obvious he was interested from the beginning but long story short we talked, eventually kissed, he hooked up with another girl, I asked him what his intentions were and he said he didn’t want a relationship at the time (this was 2 years ago). We left off on good terms and remained as good friends. Sophomore year came along and he made the effort to hang out here and there but we never got physical. Summer going into this school year was when things started to change. We began to Snap a lot and he would tag me in things on Facebook. Immediately when classes started in August, he asked to grab food (which he has never done during our 2 years of friendship). This became a consistent thing throughout the year along with other things such as complimenting me (he has never done that before), asking to hang out more, buying me coffee several times, bought wine, cooked for me (specifically bought me steak once), asked to go to the city and FaceTime over winter break, he remembered my birthday and even bought me a bottle after I jokingly asked for one. All of this happened from August-March. The past 2 years, he would hookup with other girls when we were at the same party together. This year, however, we were at 2 parties together and he stayed by my side and would tried to get with me. At one party, I was getting close with another guy and I knew he got jealous but just didn’t say anything because, well, he really couldn’t when he has been doing the same thing to me last year. At my birthday party, I got really drunk and apparently flirted with one of his friends. The next day, his friend told me that he looked like he didn’t like that I did that.Anyways, in March, because of COVID19 we all had to leave. The day before we had to leave, he asks to hangout because he said “this might be the last time I see your face.” We hang out, he pays for my coffee, and we go back to my room. He eventually asks if I wanted him to kiss me and I say no. He then asks why and I say “I’m bad at this stuff” and I just say the cheek. He kisses me on the cheek and eventually kind of makes out with my neck and we cuddle for 2 hour. Eventually he leaves and I go to the bar with my friends later that night. I then get a text from him saying he’s coming with his friends too. I dance with my guy friends and then I see him hooking up with another girl. I get mad and I know this is immature so I found another guy and eventually I’m sitting on his lap (we never kissed or anything).I like him but I don’t know if he was just trying to just hookup or wanted something more. We’ve always kept in contact since freshman year but now we haven’t talked in about a month. I’m not sure if I should reach out because I don’t know if he still has feelings for meSo, did he just want to hookup or wanted something more?tl;dr: This guy is giving me mixed signals and I don’t know if he wanted to just hookup or something more.