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Fuc boi

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Found on Facebook

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I respecc whamen

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Creepy guy put this on his story

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They're making comics now

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And he’s 6 foot

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5sos are “niceguys”(it’s their song heartbreak girl)

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But he got me flowers!

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/u/exhicmxdwc on [cw masturbation] No sexual desire/interest in pleasure, or am I "doing it wrong"?

If you don't enjoy it there's really no reason to keep trying. May 14, 2019 at 07:24AM

/u/wasabisauced on Seeing posts like this just baffles me. Ace men, when did you realize you had this apparent super power?

I've literally been levitating and reading minds for over a decade, idk what y'all are wasting your time doing. May 14, 2019 at 07:21AM

/u/exhicmxdwc on My sexual assault made me come out as an asexual

This is one of my fears. I've never been in a sexual situation so I don't even know if I'm repulsed or not. But what I'm worried about is that I would instead freeze and that's probably the worst possible thing to do in that situation. I'm sorry that happened to you. May 14, 2019 at 07:20AM

/u/inane_quiddity on Doctor acknowledges asexuality [ Am I ace on “Ask Doctors” ]

Not too long after I'd first figured out I was Ace, it came up when I was talking to my then GP. The reaction was... not good. At all. It took me a couple of years to build up the confidence to bring it up to another medical professional, and thankfully the reactions have been consistently positive ever since. My policy nowadays is to only mention it if it is relevant (no need to tell my allergist for example), but if it might be relevant, I mention it in the very first session. That way if they have a problem I can go find a different doctor to see instead and not waste either of our time. Seriously though, your doctor should not give a damn - and any professional worth their salt will be capable of not letting their personal opinion on LGBT issues change the way they treat their patients. I think most doctors not familiar with LGBT stuff won't really get the concept (probably think asexual means 'not interested') but they'd be cool with it in a 'you do you

I think I have a decent tail to tell

Currently a 21M, not the greatest looking but I have a certain charm. I could say I'm funny, smart too, and a little chunky. The beginning is me at 19. So I used to know a guy who I considered for a while a friend. His girlfriend (whom he treated like crap) was around I guess. There but not there for a a majority of the time. Eventually she talks more, and we become good friends. He eventually ends up pissing me off more and more while becoming a good friend of hers. We'd spend time alone everyone and again and she'd be "weird" but I blew it off for a while. Then I began to really think something was up. One day the boyfriend does something and I cut ties with both unfortunately. He got all weird we were talking all the time and he thought something was up and accused me. Well at the time nothing was happening, she just happened to be a close friend. So he made her talk to me less and at that time in my life I needed a friend, it was rough. When I find out I a

I don't know what do to

hello, I'm single since 2 years and I have only relationship so far. I am 32. I am trying to get into a relationship using tinder, other dating apps. I dont really get many matches. I had two last month, but they unmatched me as soon as I wrote something. The whole thing is fucking wearing me down. Having depression in the first place doesn't help much here. I am not sure, if I am too ugly or too boring to get any matches. I don't really know what I can try anymore. Well, I know, I could try to approach girls in real life, but the Problem is I don't know how you do this. I've kinda lost all hope and guess I'll just die alone some day. I also don't have many interests, that can be done with other people.. Has any one been in this situation and got out of it? How? Any tips? thanks. Submitted May 13, 2019 at 08:28PM hello,I'm single since 2 years and I have only relationship so far. I am 32. I am trying to get into a relationship using tinder, o

Be cautious ladies and gentlemen.

I recently (Friday night) met a cute female at a bar. We talked for a while, exchanged phone numbers and I went home and called it a night. Proceeded to hear from her the next day (unexpected, drunken night at a bar doesnt usually work out) and we decide to hang out. All is great. Learned that she seems to have her life together, drives a nice little range rover, makes her own money. Saturday went well and she proceeded to ask me to hang out with a couple of her friends at one of the more expensive places in my area. It's right on the beach. I wasn't hungry but decided to go hang out with her and meet some friends. She ordered a double margarita (34 dollars) and steak and shrimp (38 dollars) while I just drink my water. We get a bill and she starts freaking out about how she doesn't have money to pay for it when I handed her the check. I didnt eat. She invited me. There was never a thought in my mind about her wanting me to pay for her stuff. I dont mind paying for a d

I have been on almost 400 dates. With no luck...

Honestly, I don’t know what to do anymore. I am so tired of this feeling. The feeling of giving it my all and coming up short. Every. Fucking. Time. Backstory: I am a 32-year-old male who in the past three years has gone on probably 350-400 first dates. Almost all of these dates have come via dating apps (I live in a major city, so finding dates via an app is never tough), and for the most part they have been unsuccessful, obviously. Given the amount of dates that I have gone on, I guess it would be fair to classify me as a “serial dater,” although I have no idea what that actually means. I am not an asshole, or a “fuckboy,” or someone who is interested in something casual. I am just a guy who knows what he wants and is interested in finding love. Yet it seems impossible to find. It is no surprise that dating has become completely played out for me. I have been on dates with every type of girl you can imagine. Some good, some average, and some so bad/twisted that you couldn’t belie

So I am ready to break up with my girlfriend should I wait to find out she's not pregnant?

Is it best to figure out whether or not my girlfriend is pregnant before breaking up? I possibly impregnated her like 2 weeks ago. But the catch is I ejaculated in her while she was on her 2nd day of her period and I made her take the Plan B afterwards. I think the chances of her conceiving is relatively low but I just don't know. Submitted May 13, 2019 at 08:51PM Is it best to figure out whether or not my girlfriend is pregnant before breaking up? I possibly impregnated her like 2 weeks ago. But the catch is I ejaculated in her while she was on her 2nd day of her period and I made her take the Plan B afterwards. I think the chances of her conceiving is relatively low but I just don't know.

I have been on almost 400 dates. With no luck...

Honestly, I don’t know what to do anymore. I am so tired of this feeling. The feeling of giving it my all and coming up short. Every. Fucking. Time. Backstory: I am a 32-year-old male who in the past three years has gone on probably 300-400 first dates. Almost all of these dates have come via dating apps (I live in a major city, so finding dates via an app is never tough), and for the most part they have been unsuccessful, obviously. Given the amount of dates that I have gone on, I guess it would be fair to classify me as a “serial dater,” although I have no idea what that actually means. I am not an asshole, or a “fuckboy,” or someone who is interested in something casual. I am just a guy who knows what he wants and is interested in finding love. Yet it seems impossible to find. It is no surprise that dating has become completely played out for me. I have been on dates with every type of girl you can imagine. Some good, some average, and some so bad/twisted that you couldn’t belie

Overcoming my lack of confidence

Hey everyone! I (18M) met a fellow student (?F) just before my exam. We talked for a bit, she was really fun to talk to but I lost sight of her after the exam since we are in different classes. I have another tomorrow and I think she will be in the same room as me again, but I don't really know if I'll muster the courage to talk to her. I've always had problems with confidence and that, but this time around, I told myself I'd just do it, I mean, what have I got to lose? Even it doesn't go well, I'll have tried. So yeah, I just posted this to vent and steel myself for that! I'll try to report back when I get home! Wish me luck! Submitted May 13, 2019 at 09:04PM Hey everyone!I (18M) met a fellow student (?F) just before my exam. We talked for a bit, she was really fun to talk to but I lost sight of her after the exam since we are in different classes. I have another tomorrow and I think she will be in the same room as me again, but I don't really

Am I coming off too strong?

I was gonna ask my crush if he wanted to hangout after finals. The text goes something like this: Hey “insert his name here”! We should hangout again soon. Maybe once finals are over we can get ramen?” Am I coming off too strong? Or am I just overthinking it? Submitted May 13, 2019 at 09:10PM I was gonna ask my crush if he wanted to hangout after finals. The text goes something like this: Hey “insert his name here”! We should hangout again soon. Maybe once finals are over we can get ramen?” Am I coming off too strong? Or am I just overthinking it?

*Advice Needed*

I (28 F) still have feelings for a guy(30 M) I briefly dated 6 years ago. I kind of sum this brief encounter up as a bad timing situation. I still had a lot of growing to do & was freshly out of college trying to figure life out. I have recently been seeing this person occasionally as our career paths are sort of interconnected. Each time I see him I get the same old feelings... nervousness & excitement followed by ruminating despite my best attempts to stop and let go of it. It’s almost like unfinished business or thinking of him as the one that got away. I am tempted to reach out, but I’m very timid and don’t really even know how to start. I was in a somewhat emotionally abusive relationship in the past & my insecurites/shame tends to hold me back from going after what I want now. Any advice? Let it go? Go after it? Strategy? Thanks in advance! Submitted May 13, 2019 at 09:38PM I (28 F) still have feelings for a guy(30 M) I briefly dated 6 years ago. I kind of sum

Thoughts on online dating?? Help

Hi all. I am writing a paper for my Anthropology class on how dating has changed over time and specifically how common online dating has become. I was wondering what your thoughts are on online dating, if you have tried apps such as Tinder or any other app used for dating? In my paper, I was thinking to include the different views/thoughts of online dating of different people with different experiences and see if I can incorporate that in my essay or not. Thank you :) Submitted May 13, 2019 at 09:39PM Hi all. I am writing a paper for my Anthropology class on how dating has changed over time and specifically how common online dating has become. I was wondering what your thoughts are on online dating, if you have tried apps such as Tinder or any other app used for dating? In my paper, I was thinking to include the different views/thoughts of online dating of different people with different experiences and see if I can incorporate that in my essay or not. Thank you :)

5 Years Single by Choice

Not really sure where I'm going with this post but I'm in an odd place mentally right now. I had a serious LDR almost 5 years ago. It probably would've ended up OK, but my mom was dying of cancer at the time and I belonged where I was. I couldn't move cross country and leave behind my extremely vulnerable family after my mom passed. I was also in a lot of debt and would have put myself in worse debt trying to move. So, I called it off. I hated hurting another person like that and I was guilt ridden by my decision for a long time but it was the right one in the end. After my mom died, I have been single ever since. I needed to process my grief from her death and my former relationship and get my life together. I'm doing so much better and the hardship has turned me into a pretty well rounded person, at least I hope so. I've been the happiest I've ever been. I've traveled some, explored my own interests and have made lots of new friends in that time. T

Guy from work I confessed a crush to in February randomly talking to me a lot? Suddenly very interested in friendship?

Hi guys, kind of confused about this situation. I had liked this guy (we’ll call him work guy) in a different department at work for over a year. I will note that he is a grade above me. I finally got the guts to approach him in January and we hung out a lot in January / Feb outside of work (dinners, drinks , random day outings etc). However I wasn’t clear on whether or not we were just hanging out as friends or if he liked me too (nothing physical happened, we’d talk, I’d flirt a lot and try to make it obvious I liked him, etc). He seemed very passive and like he was very neutral about the whole thing, which made me find him challenging and like him more tbh. One day I sort of got sick of the ambiguity of the whole situation and I texted him after I got home from drinks with him (slightly drunkenly over text, lol) that I had a crush on him and didn’t want to pretend I didn’t. He said thank you for being honest but that he didn’t think it was a good idea to have a crush at work, but

First date idea

Have my first date with this gorgeous girl tomorrow stuck between a few options: Option 1: Just walk around the park and go to a nice spot to view the skyline, and head to a hole in the wall burger joint after. Option 2: Ruled out Option 3: She’s been wanting to learn to drive a stick shift. So just take her to a parking lot and just let her try it and have fun and get some food as well. All simple and modest done spending big bucks for a first date. Submitted May 13, 2019 at 11:01PM Have my first date with this gorgeous girl tomorrow stuck between a few options:Option 1: Just walk around the park and go to a nice spot to view the skyline, and head to a hole in the wall burger joint after.Option 2: Ruled outOption 3: She’s been wanting to learn to drive a stick shift. So just take her to a parking lot and just let her try it and have fun and get some food as well.All simple and modest done spending big bucks for a first date.

From two different worlds.

This will be quite lengthy, as I leave you all to decide which details are pertinent and which are not. Recently the weirdest thing happened. The most beautiful, warm, and wonderful person fell in love with me. She is the type of girl you only see in the movies. She's a 10/10, and on a whole different dating strata from myself. She's as successful as I am (if not more so) and comes from a well-bred family that instilled her with values and inner beauty also. Despite her breathtaking good looks, she's still a virgin at age 28. She's a unicorn. I came from a poor family. My father was a miner and my mother was a maid. I didn't have the same advantages as my peers in school and I was taught to be outspoken about my faith, which made me a target to some of the more ornery kids. I was a rumor magnet which left me isolated and humiliated and broken. Eventually I took my dignity back and achieved far more in life than any of the people who used me for their amusement,

FML

I have a huge crush on a girl I work with and she’s just so cute it’s driving me nuts today. I can’t wait to hang out again 😍😍 Submitted May 13, 2019 at 11:10PM I have a huge crush on a girl I work with and she’s just so cute it’s driving me nuts today. I can’t wait to hang out again 😍😍

Petition for Tinder: Remove "Swipe up for SuperLike"!

Anyone else hate this? I've accidentally "SuperLiked" several girls I have no interest in or would even possibly hate. Way too easy to do - there's a tiny little button in the middle for when you mean it! Submitted May 13, 2019 at 11:56PM Anyone else hate this? I've accidentally "SuperLiked" several girls I have no interest in or would even possibly hate. Way too easy to do - there's a tiny little button in the middle for when you mean it!

How do you ask if someone is trans without insulting the person

These are situations I don’t know how I end up in, but now that trans people are way more apparent in dating apps I’m paranoid when I suspect a girl is not mentioning it, and I’m not gonna have a full convo before knowing that important info. Just had a weird problem where this girl I matched with had a very unusual bulge in her bikini.. It didn’t look like a mound, let me put it that way. Anyway then her face kinda felt like maybe she was trans and just didn’t mention it, chose woman. She was insulted when I asked, damned if you do damned if you don’t? Submitted May 14, 2019 at 12:49AM These are situations I don’t know how I end up in, but now that trans people are way more apparent in dating apps I’m paranoid when I suspect a girl is not mentioning it, and I’m not gonna have a full convo before knowing that important info. Just had a weird problem where this girl I matched with had a very unusual bulge in her bikini.. It didn’t look like a mound, let me put it that way. Anyway

Off and On

My girl and I get together off and on for sex, hanging out, going out some (she travels more with her friends, I never went) then end up fighting most of the time. What ever it is. It's off and on with breaks of weeks sometimes. She rarely ever comes to my city to stay awhile. Then it's back on again? How do I break this cycle? Submitted May 14, 2019 at 12:59AM My girl and I get together off and on for sex, hanging out, going out some (she travels more with her friends, I never went) then end up fighting most of the time. What ever it is. It's off and on with breaks of weeks sometimes. She rarely ever comes to my city to stay awhile. Then it's back on again? How do I break this cycle?

I think I might be cursed

So I am currently a senior in HS, (M18) and I have not been in a dating relationship. My parents said I had to be at least 15 years old, so it was never really focused on it throughout high school, but there have been times where I have questioned why I haven’t been in one. Right now, I found that special someone that people normally find in high school, hard crushing on them, etc. she is one of my closest friends, especially with her being a female. We talk everyday (in school, texting and on Snapchat) but I feel like she wouldn’t date me. She confides in me, tells me every thing, such as the guys who she might hit up, all of that, etc. I helped her out after she got out of a relationship that was very bad, she j couldn’t get over her ex, despite him being very bad (cheating on her, etc.) this has happened before with other girls that I have became close to, but I saw it as a lost cause so I stopped talking to them. I feel as though I might be doing a lot of stuff wrong and I have no

I need help: summer apart with a 22f who only uses snapchat, and it makes me feel extremely distant.

I (28m) met her at school and we got to know each other well enough to make a commitment over the summer (about 4h distance) to one another. However... She's back at her extremely Catholic home and doesn't want to stir the pot: i.e. I'm not going to be visiting and it's a little unclear if we'll be able to see each other at all, either illicitly or within the boundaries of her parents permission. On top of that, though I don't mind using Snapchat, I asked if we could video chat a bit and it sounds like, again bc she doesn't want to make my presence known, even that could be very limited. I wanna be able to come home from work and talk to her a little about my day. It's not a trust thing: I trust that we're each honoring our commitment. It's more than I need a little more intimacy and I feel like A LOT of conversation over text is just not clicking, and it makes me feel horrible. Like every time I try to talk a little bit more deeply it's

I HATE being Single

M23. I'm having family issues and never really had friends growing up (now I have a few friends and many acquaintances but I am usually a lower priority friend). As everyone couples up, they have less time for their friends doubly isolating single people. It's been a year since I finished undergrad. Where I went, every female and essentially every male who wants a relationship has one by the time they graduate. Worse, I'm having family issues and I therefore have no partner - no one for true unconditional love. Even worse, I met a woman at my undergrad who everything I ever wanted in a partner. We got along well. But she just didn't feel the same way and rejected me. I've never before or since found anyone like her. I'm successful (in law school, did undergrad at top tier university), moral, intelligent, ambitious, caring, kind, and good with kids. Yet I am somehow unable to find love. I have also never been kissed or on a date and have been hugged by a non-

Do i stand a chance?

For some reason i never really cared about dating up until a few months ago - and I found that I don’t seem to meet the requirements? I’m a guy btw I’m not tall - I’m 5’6 I’m not rich - I’m 17 so how could I be? I don’t have a good social status - I only have a few friends and I don’t have many followers on social media ( idc about that stuff ) I’m not muscular - I’m a skinny dude and I don’t work out because I don’t have the time/space to do so I don’t have short hair - I have long hair, which apparently, is not masculine I’m not confident around others - I’m introverted ( social anxiety, maybe at least I seem mysterious? ) However, I have a good self-esteem, great personality, and I’m handsome. I feel like I don’t stand a chance though, all the other guys somehow seem better. Taller, stronger, more experienced, they have their shit together and are healthy. Literally, I feel like everyone is better than me. Maybe I’m reading too much into it instead of living and I didn’t really

Which girl should I ask out?

Ok, there are these 2 girls at my high school. They are both good friends and I like both of them. I don’t know which one to ask out. The one I like more but have never talk to her and she is a “popular girl” Who should I ask out? Submitted May 14, 2019 at 02:06AM Ok, there are these 2 girls at my high school. They are both good friends and I like both of them. I don’t know which one to ask out. The one I like more but have never talk to her and she is a “popular girl”Who should I ask out?

Is it too late to start dating at 28?

Hi so I’m a 28 year old guy that has been too focused on career goals to start dating and now realizing it might already be too late. Is it? Do you have any advice on how to get into it now? Submitted May 14, 2019 at 02:07AM Hi so I’m a 28 year old guy that has been too focused on career goals to start dating and now realizing it might already be too late. Is it? Do you have any advice on how to get into it now?

[21M] Incapable

I'm still in college, will graduate on the next two months. Hopefully. I have a girlfriend, also in college and graduating as well. We go to different universities but we meet every now and then to spend time with each other even in the most simple way. We're okay. However, I've been feeling down lately because I can't give her good things, can't offer her good foods, and can't bring her to good places. I always try to look for these things in a way I can afford but I just can't find any. I feel like she deserves more, she's such a lovely woman. I want to give her the good things even though she's not asking and saying she's contented with what we have and what we do. I want to work already so that I can date her properly because she deserves it. Though I'm putting my best and purest effort (I think) in doing things for her, being financially incapable is really difficult. It's making me anxious that she might leave me for another guy

Fucking hell dating is tiresome

I dont see how people manage to do this shit for years and years. Im only a 17m, so I have plenty of time ahead of me, but this past year alone has been fucking exhausting. When I first decided I would try my hand at dating, I got lucky with a girl who liked me back on my first try. Unfortunately that was short lived and she ghosted me. So, over last summer and the beginning of fall, I tried talking to around 15 girls. Some of them talked back, some of them just ignored me, but in the end none of them went anywhere. I was still single. I got my first girlfriend back in November, but it was only until a month after we started dating that she came out as asexual. At the time I was still a virgin who wanted to have sex, so that relationship didnt really work out. Then, in early January, the girl who ghosted me came back into my life as my 2nd girlfriend. I thought things had really changed for the better, but 2 1/2 months later she dumped me. So now here I am in mid May, alone. There w

Struggling with being introverted. I want so desperately to break that.

A little backstory first. I am born and raised in Ohio, lived here until I was 22 and joined the Marines. I served three years and got out on a medical/ honorable discharge. I moved to Arizona to live near my sister. It's 2014, And I am about to start college. I was at Arizona State for 3 years and received my Bachelor of Science. A proud accomplishment, however I did not attend my graduation ceremony. I felt no reason to. I hadn't made any connections to anyone and honestly I'm certain I was forgotten by everyone. It's an extremely safe bet. After college I received a job offer in Tampa Florida. Being my first job offer in my field, how could I say no. I was determined to make this work... it lasted a month. The company wasn't as wonderful as my interviewer made it sound. On top of that I have a really expensive and tiny apartment with a 7 month lease on it. Luckily I had a hefty savings account and I collect Military Disability Compensation, so despite everything

Would you date someone who hated their job?

If they were sweet, supportive, smart, caring, kind and understanding. Also if they are pursuing a degree in college Submitted May 14, 2019 at 02:32AM If they were sweet, supportive, smart, caring, kind and understanding. Also if they are pursuing a degree in college

[Update] Me(M19) getting a relationship off the ground with my girlfriend (W19)

[Update] So we talked, in person, about our relationship and some of the problems mentioned down below and we got it all cleared up and we both said that we want this relationship. We agreed to dinner Monday night (5/13), but she texted saying that she now just wants to relax and stay home after her last final today. I was understanding and I asked what other days worked for her for dinner, but she has not gotten back to me since this morning. I don't want to be pushy about it and ask again, but what should I do? Should I text her again for what day works, or is there something else that I am missing? She said that she wants this to work, and I do too. My mind is going at 1000mph rn. [OG] So, I (M19) just got back from college on Wednesday and I have been trying to just get a chance to hang out with my girlfriend (W19), I haven't even seen her yet. So I have texted her asking if she wanted help packing up her dorm or for someone to just be there for her after her last final

I haven't had sex or had a girlfriend in 9 years, I'm scared of being judged by future partners.

I'm a 27 year old guy and I haven't had sex or a girlfriend in 9 years. I still consider myself inexperienced because I only had sex with my girlfriend about 5 times. I went through a lot of emotional turmoil due to the break up and it made me not want to bother with girls for a long time. I've realized that I've wasted some of the best years of my life and want to start dating again but I feel my situation is abnormal and I'm worried that I will be judged as being both weird and inexperienced because of it. Submitted May 14, 2019 at 02:53AM I'm a 27 year old guy and I haven't had sex or a girlfriend in 9 years. I still consider myself inexperienced because I only had sex with my girlfriend about 5 times. I went through a lot of emotional turmoil due to the break up and it made me not want to bother with girls for a long time. I've realized that I've wasted some of the best years of my life and want to start dating again but I feel my situatio

friends after breakup? is it possible? should i try?

i (19f) and a friend (19m) were a 'thing' i guess for a month or so. originally i was hesitant to actually start anything as we were good friends beforehand and i didn't want to ruin everything.. but at some point i couldn't do it anymore, i guess it was just all stressing me out or i just didn't feel ready (all some shit i still need to figure out myself) and when i ended things, i think i hurt him a lot..and in the moment he said he didn't care if we stayed friends but a bit later he said he's willing to stay friends. except... we haven't really talked since. and maybe part of it is that i feel guilty for hurting him, but i also just miss him and having him as a part of my life. this whole thing has just been really messing with me.. i don't know what to do.. i guess i just need some advice on whether it's wrong to want to reach out to him and see if we can actually be friends? Submitted May 14, 2019 at 03:13AM i (19f) and a friend (19m

Good Online Dating Apps

Just wanna talk and meet people 🤷‍♂️ I currently use HUD and most people I’ve messaged just are not active anymore... trying to avoid Tinder so anything else helps! Submitted May 14, 2019 at 03:38AM Just wanna talk and meet people 🤷‍♂️ I currently use HUD and most people I’ve messaged just are not active anymore... trying to avoid Tinder so anything else helps!

Getting over first date jitters?

I have pretty bad anxiety to a point before I go on first dates I’ll throw up a couple times. This is awful and sucks because once I get there the nerves are all gone. Any suggestions that helps ease the nerves? Submitted May 14, 2019 at 03:40AM I have pretty bad anxiety to a point before I go on first dates I’ll throw up a couple times. This is awful and sucks because once I get there the nerves are all gone. Any suggestions that helps ease the nerves?

Plenty of fish pop up...

Why does POF tell me only upgraded member can messages her? Why only on certain people? Submitted May 14, 2019 at 04:24AM Why does POF tell me only upgraded member can messages her?Why only on certain people?

Phone call for first time

This is kind of weird for me. I'm ashamed to admit I've been out of the game for going on 4 years now. Busy with college and work - trying to keep my debt low. I have a lot more free time now since I graduated, and am pursuing another girlfriend. I met a girl on Tinder (please leave your reservations about this app aside lol) and she seemed really nice and liked my pickup lines. She gave me her snapchat almost instantly and today we had a phone call. I never really was much of a phone caller with the whopping 2 girlfriends I've even had in my life (22) so my question is in regards to your thoughts on how you think it went. Obviously based off the details below. So she called me and we said hi and what not then got into talking about her job, then my job, and what be basically enjoy doing. You know, average chatty stuff. She seemed pretty chuckly but Idk if this was just reactionary, resultant of the (at least my perspective) very subtle backdrop of awkwardness on the conv

Conflicted and unsure of what I've done

Hello everyone. As the title suggests, I am conflicted about a situation I have put myself into. I have a crush on this guy (let's call him Steve) ive been working with since February. He is the sweetest person ever. To me he is perfect: accomplished, lovely, encouraging, supportive, and protective. He's a goofball and funny and... the list would go on forever. If you'd like please read through my other post where I talk about interactions I have had with him. Everyone in my office thinks something is happening between us. I'm falling for him for all the reasons. I light up when I get messages from him. I look forward to seeing him at work. And we have great chemistry and relationship together. We havent been on a date together yet. Sometimes when we plan, things happen and it's become an inside joke. Sometimes things happen with me, other times with him. He asked me out for coffee in a few weeks time because of finals and because the country I live in participate

How does everyone else avoid spiraling/ circling the drain?

Currently 28. I don't tend to date with all that much frequency; first serious boyfriend at age 18, dated 1.5 years. Next (serious) guy at age 25, slightly less than a year. Minor things in between. Overall though I usually find that dating gets in the way of my studies-- I'm currently in a PhD program-- so I tend to focus my efforts elsewhere. I'm generally happy being on my own, but every so often I'll get a twinge of loneliness. Usually it's brought on by meeting an interesting guy; as they tend to be few and far between I start to daydream/ fixate a bit, which probably isn't super healthy. ​ For instance, I was at a conference last week. Met a lot of great people, namely grad students from programs in Europe (I'm in the US). One guy was funny, kind, highly intelligent and awkward, and started to stand out to me after a couple days. There was just one moment where everything... clicked... for some reason and I started focusing on how close he was stand

I've got a host of bad dating stories I want to vent about

Me and dating aren't friends. My first date at University went tremendously well, ended up back at her place, she stripped for me, but I chose not to sleep with her because I just don't have sex on first dates. Over the next week, she got weirder and weirder until she asked for a break. I said cool, waited a week, asked her to lunch to talk about it, and she reported me for sexual harassment. Turned out she had a boyfriend she tried to cheat on, then felt guilty about it. I had texts and backup from friends, so nothing happened to me. In my second year, I got stalked by a super creepy girl, while I was flirting with another girl. The second frenched me, fucked my buddy, then tried to get money out of me. Next date, we went to coffee and on a walk, I asked to kiss her, she said yes, then got a flashback to her sexual assault, so I spent four hours talking her through that, telling her it was okay, she didn't ruin the night, it wasn't her fault. The next day, she star