I've got a host of bad dating stories I want to vent about

Me and dating aren't friends.

My first date at University went tremendously well, ended up back at her place, she stripped for me, but I chose not to sleep with her because I just don't have sex on first dates. Over the next week, she got weirder and weirder until she asked for a break. I said cool, waited a week, asked her to lunch to talk about it, and she reported me for sexual harassment. Turned out she had a boyfriend she tried to cheat on, then felt guilty about it. I had texts and backup from friends, so nothing happened to me.

In my second year, I got stalked by a super creepy girl, while I was flirting with another girl. The second frenched me, fucked my buddy, then tried to get money out of me.

Next date, we went to coffee and on a walk, I asked to kiss her, she said yes, then got a flashback to her sexual assault, so I spent four hours talking her through that, telling her it was okay, she didn't ruin the night, it wasn't her fault. The next day, she started talking about how she loved me, so I said it was too much and let's go.

In my third year, I went on an okay date that went way too fast, we were both horny and it got to 3rd base. After we finished, I felt violated and nauseous for some reason, despite us both getting consent every step of the way. I felt this huge combination of anxiety and guilt. I was super anxious she would report me, even though I logically knew she absolutely wouldn't. It wasn't going anywhere, but she was cool. The guilt I felt stemmed from this thought that because I was sexual with her, I must have hurt her in some way. That I did something wrong, despite the fact that she really enjoyed it and gave consent multiple times.

I finally met a girl who was attractive to me and liked me, so we went out for a month. But over the weeks, she just couldn't communicate her feelings like I needed her to in a relationship, so I broke it off.

And of course I've skipped over a ton of just boring or bad but mundane dates, getting stood up, catfished once, etc.

I had one relationship when I was 16, for 4 months. She was great, moved away.

I am so sick and tired of dating, I feel damaged and fragile, and I feel like I just have really bad luck. All of my female friends tell me, without me asking, that I'm a great dude. It's hard for that to feel true when this is my dating history, and when I haven't really been in a relationship.

Submitted May 14, 2019 at 05:39AM

Me and dating aren't friends.My first date at University went tremendously well, ended up back at her place, she stripped for me, but I chose not to sleep with her because I just don't have sex on first dates. Over the next week, she got weirder and weirder until she asked for a break. I said cool, waited a week, asked her to lunch to talk about it, and she reported me for sexual harassment. Turned out she had a boyfriend she tried to cheat on, then felt guilty about it. I had texts and backup from friends, so nothing happened to me.In my second year, I got stalked by a super creepy girl, while I was flirting with another girl. The second frenched me, fucked my buddy, then tried to get money out of me.Next date, we went to coffee and on a walk, I asked to kiss her, she said yes, then got a flashback to her sexual assault, so I spent four hours talking her through that, telling her it was okay, she didn't ruin the night, it wasn't her fault. The next day, she started talking about how she loved me, so I said it was too much and let's go.In my third year, I went on an okay date that went way too fast, we were both horny and it got to 3rd base. After we finished, I felt violated and nauseous for some reason, despite us both getting consent every step of the way. I felt this huge combination of anxiety and guilt. I was super anxious she would report me, even though I logically knew she absolutely wouldn't. It wasn't going anywhere, but she was cool. The guilt I felt stemmed from this thought that because I was sexual with her, I must have hurt her in some way. That I did something wrong, despite the fact that she really enjoyed it and gave consent multiple times.I finally met a girl who was attractive to me and liked me, so we went out for a month. But over the weeks, she just couldn't communicate her feelings like I needed her to in a relationship, so I broke it off.And of course I've skipped over a ton of just boring or bad but mundane dates, getting stood up, catfished once, etc.I had one relationship when I was 16, for 4 months. She was great, moved away.I am so sick and tired of dating, I feel damaged and fragile, and I feel like I just have really bad luck. All of my female friends tell me, without me asking, that I'm a great dude. It's hard for that to feel true when this is my dating history, and when I haven't really been in a relationship.