I have been on almost 400 dates. With no luck...

Honestly, I don’t know what to do anymore. I am so tired of this feeling. The feeling of giving it my all and coming up short. Every. Fucking. Time.

Backstory: I am a 32-year-old male who in the past three years has gone on probably 300-400 first dates. Almost all of these dates have come via dating apps (I live in a major city, so finding dates via an app is never tough), and for the most part they have been unsuccessful, obviously. Given the amount of dates that I have gone on, I guess it would be fair to classify me as a “serial dater,” although I have no idea what that actually means. I am not an asshole, or a “fuckboy,” or someone who is interested in something casual. I am just a guy who knows what he wants and is interested in finding love. Yet it seems impossible to find.

It is no surprise that dating has become completely played out for me. I have been on dates with every type of girl you can imagine. Some good, some average, and some so bad/twisted that you couldn’t believe even if I provided evidence. At the end of it all, I always seem to find myself on the losing side of things. I seem to be the one who catches feelings when the other was just “not sure what they want,” or the one who catches the person who is just out of a relationship, or maybe the one who I believe is genuine when in fact they are sleeping with seven other guys behind my back, and perhaps most importantly - the one who ends up broke because the majority of new age women in the dating world have never reached for a check in their lives (Thank you, dating apps).

To be fair, out of these dates there have been some girls that wanted to date me, and others I wanted to date but they don’t end up wanting to date me. I get it. It happens. What I can’t get over is this feeling that my luck will never change. I have been emotionally invested so many times, and every single time I have been burned. I try my best to remain positive. However, I am at a wits end. I feel like giving up on dating apps, but dating apps seem to be the only way for me to meet women these days, and truth be told I find it a little easier to find out some general information from people through a dating app….but then again, it obviously has not panned out for me.

Does anyone else feel hopeless when it comes to dating?



Submitted May 13, 2019 at 08:57PM

Honestly, I don’t know what to do anymore. I am so tired of this feeling. The feeling of giving it my all and coming up short. Every. Fucking. Time.Backstory: I am a 32-year-old male who in the past three years has gone on probably 300-400 first dates. Almost all of these dates have come via dating apps (I live in a major city, so finding dates via an app is never tough), and for the most part they have been unsuccessful, obviously. Given the amount of dates that I have gone on, I guess it would be fair to classify me as a “serial dater,” although I have no idea what that actually means. I am not an asshole, or a “fuckboy,” or someone who is interested in something casual. I am just a guy who knows what he wants and is interested in finding love. Yet it seems impossible to find.It is no surprise that dating has become completely played out for me. I have been on dates with every type of girl you can imagine. Some good, some average, and some so bad/twisted that you couldn’t believe even if I provided evidence. At the end of it all, I always seem to find myself on the losing side of things. I seem to be the one who catches feelings when the other was just “not sure what they want,” or the one who catches the person who is just out of a relationship, or maybe the one who I believe is genuine when in fact they are sleeping with seven other guys behind my back, and perhaps most importantly - the one who ends up broke because the majority of new age women in the dating world have never reached for a check in their lives (Thank you, dating apps).To be fair, out of these dates there have been some girls that wanted to date me, and others I wanted to date but they don’t end up wanting to date me. I get it. It happens. What I can’t get over is this feeling that my luck will never change. I have been emotionally invested so many times, and every single time I have been burned. I try my best to remain positive. However, I am at a wits end. I feel like giving up on dating apps, but dating apps seem to be the only way for me to meet women these days, and truth be told I find it a little easier to find out some general information from people through a dating app….but then again, it obviously has not panned out for me.Does anyone else feel hopeless when it comes to dating?
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