To me, the thought of having sex always felt, for lack of a better word, unnatural. I couldn’t imagine myself trying it, much less enjoying it. When I was asked to go to an end-of-school dance by a girl I didn’t dislike (but with whom my relationship I considered strictly platonic), I sort of just changed the subject, because I didn’t want to have a relationship that anything more than a friendship. That was when I was 15. I’m 23 now and I consider that to be the first sign of my asexuality that I can at least remember, as that feeling never left. I could never get into porn, either. I’ve tried watching videos in the past, searching for things I figured I would have a chance of enjoying, but it always felt weird that people could actually like what I was seeing. I ended skipping through most of it and looking at random details to scrutinise out of either distraction or boredom. Whenever anyone talks about finding someone sexy, or about anticipating/wanting to have sex with someone, ...

Pretty much the title, I’m being dumb and can’t tell. I’m 24F, she’s 30F. It was intense while it lasted but we are not close friends and have kept in touch since last year, but at a polite distance and only once in a blue moon/over text. Submitted December 01, 2022 at 02:14AM Pretty much the title, I’m being dumb and can’t tell. I’m 24F, she’s 30F.It was intense while it lasted but we are not close friends and have kept in touch since last year, but at a polite distance and only once in a blue moon/over text.

I've been seeing this girl long distance for half a year now. I'm 31, she's 26. She told me quite early on that she had two serious relationships before. One when she was a teenager, and one only a few years ago. This last boyfriend, she was together with for 2-3 years or something. Last time i visited her, around a month ago, we talked about exclusivity, and at that point she told me that she had some issues with trusting guys, and it had mainly to do with the fact that her previous boyfriend cheated on her. She said that he had cheated very early on in the relationship and lied to her about it for probably almost two years or something (don't know the exact details). She said she gave him several chances of coming clean, but he didn't until she finally confronted him. She told me about how angry it made her (she's a very calm and shy person). She told me that she wanted me to be completely honest with her, and that i had to tell her if i was hiding something...

Well respected sex-researcher has an ama - check out her top comment (and no, don't look at the downvoted comments) December 01, 2022 at 12:40AM

I’ve been talking to this girl for three months and we’ve gone on a handful of dates. I really enjoy her company and I could see myself in a relationship with her. However, she’s recently started to become less engaged and less responsive (it feels like she’s olaying games). I don’t want to appear needy or smother her. So would it be wrong for me leave her on read when I have nothing to say? Could that inadvertently spike her interest level? Submitted December 01, 2022 at 12:10AM I’ve been talking to this girl for three months and we’ve gone on a handful of dates. I really enjoy her company and I could see myself in a relationship with her. However, she’s recently started to become less engaged and less responsive (it feels like she’s olaying games). I don’t want to appear needy or smother her. So would it be wrong for me leave her on read when I have nothing to say? Could that inadvertently spike her interest level?