Yeah my response is "I'll need a college fund set up and a check for how much it's going to cost to raise them till their 18 including inflation if you want me to have a kid. Otherwise forget about it." Even then, it's not enough money or worth it. September 08, 2020 at 11:48PM

This is way too sexually charged for a school textbook. September 08, 2020 at 11:47PM

It's up to me to carry on my fiance's last name. But he has two sisters that will carry on the genes. I've only had my dad mention me having kids a few times, but my brother already has 2 so we're basically covered. Still super annoying that it's expected of their kids to just have more kids. But that's what we're designed to do, procreate. September 08, 2020 at 11:46PM

Interesting twist on that. One of the sisters married an awful, mentally abusive guy (still is married to him). She still has her husband's name, but her two daughters (my cousins) disowned him by taking their mother's maiden name. ...until they got married, then it got swallowed up again as is the patriarchal tradition. Luckily, my brother is passing on the family name with two sons. Although, if the tend continues, maybe not. September 08, 2020 at 11:46PM

Same September 08, 2020 at 11:45PM

Yep September 08, 2020 at 11:42PM

i would never take away their memes September 08, 2020 at 11:41PM

No no, let them keep their memes. September 08, 2020 at 11:41PM

You lucky duck. I have 4 siblings to carry it out sadly. September 08, 2020 at 11:40PM

the girls might want to keep their memes d: edit:names* September 08, 2020 at 11:39PM

Don’t worri I’ll just tell them I am leaving and sneak back in. September 08, 2020 at 11:37PM

Ooh it got deleted. Do you know what was going on? Why would someone send links of random famous songs? September 08, 2020 at 11:37PM

I’m sorry you feel similarly, but there is comfort in knowing that I’m not alone. September 08, 2020 at 11:36PM

I'll fight them September 08, 2020 at 11:36PM

Well, they can have some grand furchildren or plantchildren September 08, 2020 at 11:35PM

Also, I like asexual Squidward headcanon (his name is so complex tho? In French he's just called Carlo) September 08, 2020 at 11:35PM

I'm not sure i have anything helpful to say, but thank you for expressing this. I'm very unhappy with being asexual as well, for many of the same reasons. While I understand the importance of showing pride, it can feel very lonely when you just can't manage to, and everyone around you just seems to love it. September 08, 2020 at 11:33PM

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So to explain  my situation, I need to tell you the backstory. I was in a physical and emotionally abusive marriage for 7 years. I finally got out February of 2014 and met my most recent ex (We will call him Robert) in April at a bar. It was more of an attraction than love at first sight (he is ridiculously good looking). We made out and kept seeing each other for a few weeks, but he was never the "madly in love" type or at least never showed me that side. He never really asked me questions about me - he was usually either telling jokes or talking about himself. A few months later he agreed to be in a serious relationship but decided to move back to his hometown, about 2 hours away, and I stupidly offered to follow him here. So by November I was living with him at his moms, while he had a job that kept him away 5 days a week, even though I was here on my own with no friends or family - but he wanted that job to reconnect with his brother.. From the beginning I was unhappy ...

So i have been taking to this guy since June. We have hung out a couple times and we had sex. He has told me so many times he really likes me. He has a job where he travels and so he was suppose to come back next week but he is on contract for another month. I feel like thats a long time and I dont really know where we stand since it has been long distance. I was hoping to have this conversation in person but I think since he has gone another month I will have it on the phone. I am not asking for exclusivity just yet. But I want to make sure we are more so on the same page in what we want. How do I bring up what he is looking for without me seeming like I am pressuring him. I think I am wanting more than casual and I feel if that not his case why even continue to talk another month. What would you suggest I say? Submitted September 08, 2020 at 11:27PM So i have been taking to this guy since June. We have hung out a couple times and we had sex. He has told me so many times he rea...

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