This is why you watch film noir. Movies where sex and sexuality are everywhere except actually onscreen. There's plenty of implied stuff happening, and it deeply informs the characters' motivations and actions, but it's the Hays Code era so you won't ever see it. Real talk though, I love Hays Code era films because a lot of filmmakers had to be creative in managing to include themes that the code wouldn't allow, but not violate the letter of the code. Incoming discussion of the history sexuality in film for those squeamish about such things. The code, for example, had (Shocker) some real sexist undertones where women had to be portrayed as virtuous and morally upright and those that weren't had to be morally punished by the end. A lot of filmmakers did have films where more morally grey women were presented and punished, but they made those characters much more sympathetic than the code's framers probably intended. I don't know as much about it, but I...

My gf and i have had a “different” relationship so far, this is my first relationship which is why i need help. She also has lower experience too and i can tell we both grew up with trauma. people tell me we are co- dependant which scares me but at first she was the only one acting that way. recently i can’t tell if i love her or getting too attached. i went from barely wanting to hang out to doing everything together. every time i leave her place tho i instantly get anxious that it’s the last time imma see her. this feeling switches between us; one of us only focusing on the other instead of personal life. Submitted February 04, 2023 at 01:15AM My gf and i have had a “different” relationship so far, this is my first relationship which is why i need help. She also has lower experience too and i can tell we both grew up with trauma. people tell me we are co- dependant which scares me but at first she was the only one acting that way. recently i can’t tell if i love her or getting...

Sure is something to think about. Thanks for the talk February 04, 2023 at 12:05AM

Sorry, I'm trying to understand the logic here. Maybe I'm missing something and if so, that's on me. I'm going to lay out where I stand and why I'm not optimistic. Right wingers are engaged in a decades long gerrymandering project to make sure they keep getting elected even though their ideas are unpopular. Right wingers have escalated that into a 6-3 SCOTUS majority (despite most of them being appointed by a president who didn't win the popular vote and represent a minority of the country thanks to Senate bullshit). Right wingers are stirring up their base into an anti-queer panic, despite the fact that this is unpopular, because gerrymandering, Senate, and electoral college overwhelmingly benefit them. Republicans reliably will vote for Republicans even if the candidate they're voting for is openly campaigning on making other people's lives worse even if they're ostensibly "supportive" of those people. The base they're making an...

I’ve met a guy in November, immediately went out on a date. We clicked and started seeing each other almost every day - sleeping together, going on adventures, meeting his friends, celebrating his birthday and my personal anniversary. He’s a digital nomad and told me that he is going to Asia for a couple of months - I knew it from the beginning. We’re both from different countries and flew home for Christmas. He had a flight to Asia for the end of December. Before Xmas, we said goodbye to each other and decided to continue chatting and getting to know each other even when he will be away. He drove me to the airport, crying (!) and told me that he loves me. I was afraid that it’s too soon but he convinced that this feeling is real. We labeled it a relationship. A couple of days later he FaceTimes saying that he’s afraid it’s too soon to put labels on it as we don’t know each other that much. He said he’s not ready for commitment now but his feelings haven’t changed and he just needs ...

So, half a year ago, I used to exchange the looks with a cute girl from my town from time to time. I suspected that she liked me, but at the time she had a bf, so I didn't want to make any steps. Then recently, our mutual friend told me that she asked about me (after her breakup) and told him that I'm cute, if I could consider her as a gf, do I find her cute etc... He told her that he'll ask me and let her know. Of course I wanted to meet, so I sent her an instagram follow request. Then she called my friend and told him "no you shouldn't tell him that" with laughing, so I meant everything was cool. She accepted, followed me and then I sent her a DM, but I didn't get any response, not even seen. I know for sure that she was active and saw it. What happened here? Submitted February 04, 2023 at 12:03AM So, half a year ago, I used to exchange the looks with a cute girl from my town from time to time. I suspected that she liked me, but at the time sh...