What’s up with this guy who claims to love me?

I’ve met a guy in November, immediately went out on a date. We clicked and started seeing each other almost every day - sleeping together, going on adventures, meeting his friends, celebrating his birthday and my personal anniversary.

He’s a digital nomad and told me that he is going to Asia for a couple of months - I knew it from the beginning. We’re both from different countries and flew home for Christmas. He had a flight to Asia for the end of December. Before Xmas, we said goodbye to each other and decided to continue chatting and getting to know each other even when he will be away. He drove me to the airport, crying (!) and told me that he loves me. I was afraid that it’s too soon but he convinced that this feeling is real. We labeled it a relationship.

A couple of days later he FaceTimes saying that he’s afraid it’s too soon to put labels on it as we don’t know each other that much. He said he’s not ready for commitment now but his feelings haven’t changed and he just needs more time. It did upset me a bit but I accepted it.

We kept in touch during Xmas and mutually decided to see each other again before his flight. I left my family during xmas and drove to his (neighboring) home country. We spent a day together and exchanged Xmas gifts - he gave me a necklace with two rings overlapping each other. I drove him to the airport and he left for Asia.

January. We keep in touch everyday - texts, memes, video calls etc. He invites me to Asia a couple of times and I start thinking about it seriously. As my birthday is coming, my friends want to pitch in for the flight tickets.

We talk about it many times and at the beginning of this week I'm finally ready to buy the tickets. So I message him, sending the exact dates, we both get super excited and happy, I cant even describe the feeling. And then out of nowhere he asks me if I found the accommodation for myself.

I was shocked. All the invitations, confessions, suddenly meant nothing. I told him that I was sure we would stay together. He said that he's not ready for me moving in (I would just come for around 20 days) and that he has deep feelings for me BUT he’s not ready for being exclusive. So basically I was planning to fly across the globe to see the guy who still claims to love me but doesn’t want me to stay with him.

I’m lost and confused. Decided not to go but don’t know what to do with all of this since deep feelings from both sides are involved.

Submitted February 04, 2023 at 12:03AM

I’ve met a guy in November, immediately went out on a date. We clicked and started seeing each other almost every day - sleeping together, going on adventures, meeting his friends, celebrating his birthday and my personal anniversary.He’s a digital nomad and told me that he is going to Asia for a couple of months - I knew it from the beginning. We’re both from different countries and flew home for Christmas. He had a flight to Asia for the end of December. Before Xmas, we said goodbye to each other and decided to continue chatting and getting to know each other even when he will be away. He drove me to the airport, crying (!) and told me that he loves me. I was afraid that it’s too soon but he convinced that this feeling is real. We labeled it a relationship.A couple of days later he FaceTimes saying that he’s afraid it’s too soon to put labels on it as we don’t know each other that much. He said he’s not ready for commitment now but his feelings haven’t changed and he just needs more time. It did upset me a bit but I accepted it.We kept in touch during Xmas and mutually decided to see each other again before his flight. I left my family during xmas and drove to his (neighboring) home country. We spent a day together and exchanged Xmas gifts - he gave me a necklace with two rings overlapping each other. I drove him to the airport and he left for Asia.January. We keep in touch everyday - texts, memes, video calls etc. He invites me to Asia a couple of times and I start thinking about it seriously. As my birthday is coming, my friends want to pitch in for the flight tickets.We talk about it many times and at the beginning of this week I'm finally ready to buy the tickets. So I message him, sending the exact dates, we both get super excited and happy, I cant even describe the feeling. And then out of nowhere he asks me if I found the accommodation for myself.I was shocked. All the invitations, confessions, suddenly meant nothing. I told him that I was sure we would stay together. He said that he's not ready for me moving in (I would just come for around 20 days) and that he has deep feelings for me BUT he’s not ready for being exclusive. So basically I was planning to fly across the globe to see the guy who still claims to love me but doesn’t want me to stay with him.I’m lost and confused. Decided not to go but don’t know what to do with all of this since deep feelings from both sides are involved.