"Boundaries, what are you 5 years old?" Anyone have some pointers on how to deal with this little nugget of nonsense? I feel the message is not getting across, in large part because the wife does not respect/value me in the first place. Divorce time, huh? Submitted April 13, 2019 at 02:55PM "Boundaries, what are you 5 years old?" Anyone have some pointers on how to deal with this little nugget of nonsense? I feel the message is not getting across, in large part because the wife does not respect/value me in the first place. Divorce time, huh?

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Hi guys, I'm looking for some advice here. The hubs and i have been married 6 years this year, together for 11. We've gone through lots of hardships together and I think overall we have a pretty strong marriage. But in the past we've gone to couple's therapy for "lack of intimacy" as in hubs was completely ignoring me and playing video games every chance he could, and i was naturally feeling very abandoned, etc. Things have gotten significantly better on that end, ever since therapist flat out confronted him saying "if you want to stay married you need to make spending time with your wife a priority." I think this similar sort of situation is playing out in other relationships now, and i think I'm realizing hubs doesn't "prioritize" relationships like i do. He doesn't have friends he hangs out with at all, and all family visits (his family) are coordinated by me. Now it's playing out like not visiting family members that ar...

My hudband smokes around 1/4 of his paycheck every month. We recently had a baby and I dont work. I never had a normal job but I did contribute to the budget and I take care of all cooking and cleaning and the baby. We have money problems and It came to the stage that we cant afford heating in our house even we have a baby. He always become severly iritated when I metion his smoking and he tells me to get a job. But even when I had a job I never spent that much money only on myself. Edit: I already talked to him on multiple ocasions and everytime I turned out to be controling wife. I just wanted to see If I am crazy for not understanding this behaviour. His father is drowbing in depts for years all because of smoking and he refuses to see It. Submitted April 13, 2019 at 09:32PM My hudband smokes around 1/4 of his paycheck every month. We recently had a baby and I dont work. I never had a normal job but I did contribute to the budget and I take care of all cooking and cleaning an...

have you ever been resentful/jealous over your spouses past and how did you deal with it? Submitted April 13, 2019 at 09:44PM have you ever been resentful/jealous over your spouses past and how did you deal with it?

Been married for a looong time and hubby keeps in contact with his ex gf. He hasn’t told me that he does....I always end up finding out. She’s married and her hubs is oblivious to it all. Yeah we’re married but still feel like she’s has control. They don’t see each other since they live far away. I want to tell her husband because I think he has the right to know. She knows we’re together and yet doesn’t care. My hubby is also to blame. Submitted April 14, 2019 at 12:04AM Been married for a looong time and hubby keeps in contact with his ex gf. He hasn’t told me that he does....I always end up finding out. She’s married and her hubs is oblivious to it all. Yeah we’re married but still feel like she’s has control. They don’t see each other since they live far away. I want to tell her husband because I think he has the right to know. She knows we’re together and yet doesn’t care. My hubby is also to blame.

My SO and I got married very recently (a little over 6 months ago) but we have been together for 5 years. Leading up to the wedding I felt myself really feeling serious doubts about our relationship but thought that it was due to planning stress. Ever since the wedding that feeling has grown and now I’m at the point where I feel completely done. It should be noted I have expressed these concerns and have asked him to help us get MC but nothings happening. Am I just being selfish or is there any chance of fixing this when I feel ready to be done with this relationship? Has anyone decided “I’m done” and and yet have come back from the brink? Here is some of the issues that we faced: -His commenting on my weight. When we met, we were both in our early 20s and I was very very thin. After about two years together, with his help, I finally found the courage to see a psychiatrist to treat my life long anxiety/depression. Well the meds worked but they fucked with my appetite and metabolism a...

Hi. I’m newly married - 5 months ago - and I am stuck, frustrated and angry over the subject of last names. So much so it is souring this first year of being newlyweds. Im looking for advice from other women who may have felt the same. I’ve changed my mind so many times about what to do. He isn’t putting any pressure on me to do anything in particular, but I can tell it bothers him and he interprets it as a lack of commitment. Discussions we’ve had About this in the past infuriated my feminist heart and I’m nursing some hurt feelings. For context: 1) I love my family. I have a unique last name, which most of my friends have used as my first name for the majority of my life. I’m proud of my name and background, and spent the last 12 years building my career with it. It is important to me. 2) Husband is equally proud. His family are lovely but also nuts, and some of the men carry strongly held, traditional, patriarchal views. Frankly, I dont respect them or like the idea of joining th...

I love my SO but as the years go on, I feel more distant and withdrawn. I'm emotional exhausted. I honestly don't have anymore care in me. Even though we do not have any major issues, I feel as though the emotional intimacy is gone. He would tell a stranger anything he'd tell me. He would never stand up for me. I can trust him romantically but I know he'd never have my back. I can't confide in him bc it would be fair game in any conversation he has. He wouldn't discuss our sex life but that's about it. And I wouldn't even care if he did. Before we got married I was really his first real gf. He's work oriented. He's always on a task. But our relationship just falls to the side. I feel as though he doesn't try. He doesn't put in an effort. I feel like I have the same relationship he does with one of his friends or his grandmother. I run myself crazy trying to find a way to be seen. Always looking for a gesture to be like omg he cares. H...

Tonight the sustained wind really kicked up at the new house. We noticed some tree branches grinding on the roof right above our son's second story bedroom and thought it would likely keep him awake. So I made a quick trip to Lowe's before they closed to get a telescoping tree pruner so the roof didn't get screwed up during the long night. When I got back, I also had the vine guide wire that my wife requested I get since I was going anyway. She came out, looked at it and fiddled a bit to get it ready. No problem. When I was finishing up attaching the pruning blade and tossing out the packaging etc., I asked my wife to grab my hands-free head lamp from inside (where she was already headed) and toss it out so I could see what I was doing in the dark and target the right branches etc. "I'm cold" she huffed as she walked in - irritated that I had the audacity to ask for her to help me a bit and allow me to speed up and parallelize the urgent task at hand. Suc...

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Obviously I can't speak for what was going through his head, but as a guy myself and knowing a little bit about how our minds work, I would bet that he didn't really understand what it is that you feel, and its likely he doesn't really understand what being ace means. It's also possible that he doesn't even want to try asking you out again and that was just word vomit that came out after his brain was trying to recover from what became an awkward situation. I think its wholly possible that he is able to still respect you as a friend, or at the very least remain professional, but I think you guys should definitely have a followup conversation that includes how you do not have a sexual or romantic attraction to him. April 14, 2019 at 05:46AM

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F(16) I have been having orgasms and masturbating as long as I remember and I used to be able to do it with just my hands and it was fantastic. My bf and I have always been sexually active for the passed three years but I feel as if I've lost the ability to achieve orgasm with just my hands ? I have a basic vibrator and stuff and I guess I've become accustomed to using them to the point where nothing feels natural anymore. I hope this is all making sence. I guess the point of this is I want to be able to cum with just my hands but I feel as if I have forgotten how. I've been trying but it takes so long so I just get too tired and grab a toy. Any suggestions ? Submitted April 14, 2019 at 01:41AM F(16) I have been having orgasms and masturbating as long as I remember and I used to be able to do it with just my hands and it was fantastic. My bf and I have always been sexually active for the passed three years but I feel as if I've lost the ability to achieve orgasm ...

I have been happily married for over 2 decades. My wife doesn't know how to be sexy. I am her first and only sexual partner according to her. Things are great except for the fact that she just doesn't know how to be sexy. Her attempts at trying to be sexy turn me off big time. I don't think she's doing it on purpose. When she's not trying and doing anything else I find her irresistible. Getting dressed to go to work. Cooking. Watching TV. Sleeping. Reading a book while laying on the bed. When she's on her computer. Twirling a pencil around her fingers. Talking on the phone. ​ Her attempts at being sexy are just disastrous and I do not want to get her mad by saying the wrong thing trying to let her know not to do some of the things shes doing. I have a little baggage on my part I've carried over from my previous relationship too. My ex was a professional manipulator and an expert at stroking a man's ego and libido. She was a savant when it came...

I hear that it's the holy grail of positions, but, ladies and gentlemen, can anyone speak from experience of this esoteric position? Submitted April 14, 2019 at 02:00AM I hear that it's the holy grail of positions, but, ladies and gentlemen, can anyone speak from experience of this esoteric position?

I (23F) had penetrative sex for the first time with my boyfriend (24F) in January, and the first few times I had some bleeding and I figured that was pretty normal. But now it's been about three months since then, and I'll still bleed infrequently, but I notice it's usually when I'm on my hands and knees or my stomach – so really any doggy style positions or prone, but not in any other positions. Anyone else have any experience with bleeding more often in this position? Does it tend to go away or get better? Submitted April 14, 2019 at 02:08AM I (23F) had penetrative sex for the first time with my boyfriend (24F) in January, and the first few times I had some bleeding and I figured that was pretty normal. But now it's been about three months since then, and I'll still bleed infrequently, but I notice it's usually when I'm on my hands and knees or my stomach – so really any doggy style positions or prone, but not in any other positions. Anyone else...

I’m trying to find some new positions to use on my wife with our six point under the bed restraints Submitted April 14, 2019 at 02:08AM I’m trying to find some new positions to use on my wife with our six point under the bed restraints

I’ve been seeing my girlfriend for about 4 and a half months now and she’s absolutely amazing. I’ve always had a lot of self esteem issues because of the amount of my body hair and weight but she’s always so reassuring. This is my first relationship and although we’ve had sex a few times I’ve never gotten undressed before. I’ve eaten her out a few times and she’s gotten me off under my pants but I’ve never taken anything off. She knows I’m still recovering from sexual abuse in the past so she’s hesitant when initiating things but she’s been talking about how she’d really like to eat me out if I’d be comfortable with that. I said yes because I really would but I also expressed some issue with my body. I have psoriasis that mainly affects my legs and stomach and it’s really heightened my self esteem issues I mentioned at the beginning. She assures me she’ll love me regardless but it’s just a really hard thing for me to get over. I can’t help but think she recognizes it’s gross but looks...

I have two problems with my penis -Glans Pretty Sensitive(I’ve been working on it, and it has gotten better) -Foreskin too tight(I cant retract it fully when erect, but I can retract it fully when I am soft) can you give me clear and thorough solutions for both of these issues as they have stressed me out a lot Submitted April 14, 2019 at 02:38AM I have two problems with my penis -Glans Pretty Sensitive(I’ve been working on it, and it has gotten better) -Foreskin too tight(I cant retract it fully when erect, but I can retract it fully when I am soft) can you give me clear and thorough solutions for both of these issues as they have stressed me out a lot

How do you differentiate that from just finding a man (or a woman) aesthetically pleasing and attractive? Submitted April 14, 2019 at 02:43AM How do you differentiate that from just finding a man (or a woman) aesthetically pleasing and attractive?

Throwaway here. I recently found out that my ex likely has a type of hpv that causes genital warts. Although I've never found warts on myself and we used protection I'm almost positive that I must be a carrier due to the amount of time we were intimate before I was told... Since I'm a male and there's no hpv test I've been urging her to go to the doctor but she has yet to do so. I want to date in the future but the idea of giving anyone I might care about warts is driving me crazy.... Is there a light at the end of the tunnel? I feel lost, angry, confused but most of all just depressed that I can't see myself dating ever again out of a fear of infecting someone and hurting them like I feel hurt. Submitted April 14, 2019 at 02:52AM Throwaway here.I recently found out that my ex likely has a type of hpv that causes genital warts. Although I've never found warts on myself and we used protection I'm almost positive that I must be a carrier due to the...

I'm buying a wand vibrator this week for his & her use. Is lube used with these vibrators? Submitted April 14, 2019 at 06:52AM I'm buying a wand vibrator this week for his & her use.Is lube used with these vibrators?

Hellow there, throwaway account! Let’s get straight to the point , my girl [F17] is down for anything except losing her virginity, she wants to lose it on the wedding night and I totally support that! How do we make fingering/foreplay so hot? We have our own place so we’re free to do whatsoever! I’m [M19] by the way. Submitted April 14, 2019 at 06:56AM Hellow there, throwaway account!Let’s get straight to the point , my girl [F17] is down for anything except losing her virginity, she wants to lose it on the wedding night and I totally support that!How do we make fingering/foreplay so hot? We have our own place so we’re free to do whatsoever! I’m [M19] by the way.

Anyone got suggestions on ways for giving head a bit easier? Laying down doesn’t really work that great for me. Submitted April 14, 2019 at 06:56AM Anyone got suggestions on ways for giving head a bit easier? Laying down doesn’t really work that great for me.

I just sorta had sex about two hours ago. When I put the condom on it made me go kinda soft and we couldn’t really get it in. Eventually we got just barely the tip in so I don’t know if that counts as losing virginity. I kept getting hard again after taking it off but as soon as it came back on I would be back to square one. How can I stay hard when putting a condom on? Submitted April 14, 2019 at 06:57AM I just sorta had sex about two hours ago. When I put the condom on it made me go kinda soft and we couldn’t really get it in. Eventually we got just barely the tip in so I don’t know if that counts as losing virginity. I kept getting hard again after taking it off but as soon as it came back on I would be back to square one. How can I stay hard when putting a condom on?

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Honestly I’m just wondering what the hype is about. I’ve never done it so I have a hard time imagining why everyone enjoys it so much. What are your thoughts on the act? Physical, emotional, mental - any details would help. Do you have any fun or interesting sexual experiences that would help me understand? Submitted April 14, 2019 at 07:02AM Honestly I’m just wondering what the hype is about. I’ve never done it so I have a hard time imagining why everyone enjoys it so much.What are your thoughts on the act? Physical, emotional, mental - any details would help.Do you have any fun or interesting sexual experiences that would help me understand?

Is there anything bad that can happen if you swallow lots of edible water-based lubricant or other types? Submitted April 14, 2019 at 07:10AM Is there anything bad that can happen if you swallow lots of edible water-based lubricant or other types?

My bf(20) is putting pressure on me(19) to have anal sex. Even though we tried many times i don't seem to enjoy it AT ALL. It's super painful and uncomfortable. The problem is that he insists. He talks about it literally every day and he makes me feel so uncomfortable. I think it's the only thing in his mind. I tried to talk to him about it, tell him that isn't necessary for a couple to have anal sex regularly and that he doesn't show respect for me if he asks for it every single fucking day. He doesn't understand!! I'm so angry. I literally feel that every time he mentions that I am so much less in love with him. What should i do? Submitted April 14, 2019 at 07:20AM My bf(20) is putting pressure on me(19) to have anal sex. Even though we tried many times i don't seem to enjoy it AT ALL. It's super painful and uncomfortable. The problem is that he insists. He talks about it literally every day and he makes me feel so uncomfortable. I think it...

My girlfriend (F21) and I (M20) have been together for over 2 years and have done quite a bit of fun stuff, from both of us enjoying both sides of anal to semi-public voyeurism. Our sex life is a blast and we just have so much fun together. But we never really touched BDSM. I remember my mom reading Fifty Shades of Grey when I was growing up, so when my girlfriend suggested we watch the movies together, I had this weird aversion to it. She finally convinced me, however, and we binged the first 2 tonight. Some takeaways: -Sub/Dom is not for us. We are both switches and while it's fun to RP in the bedroom, we want to maintain a relationship centered on equality. -Bondage is hot as fuck. We were both aching and squirming through the movies. Unfortunately, one of our mutual friends was watching with us, so we were unable to let loose. -We don't have enough sex toys. So my question is this: where should we go to find higher-quality equipment and toys for decent prices? We shoppe...

Title pretty much explains it, basically we were getting frisky while he was giving me a massage, i feel oil dropped onto my nether Regions and it’s baby oil. Now normally i would’ve said something before he got there but i swear I heard him grab our actual oil based lube bottle from the drawer. He didn’t know that baby oil can’t be use as sexual lube smh. Should i be worried? Submitted April 14, 2019 at 07:28AM Title pretty much explains it, basically we were getting frisky while he was giving me a massage, i feel oil dropped onto my nether Regions and it’s baby oil. Now normally i would’ve said something before he got there but i swear I heard him grab our actual oil based lube bottle from the drawer. He didn’t know that baby oil can’t be use as sexual lube smh. Should i be worried?

I am 18 and my fuckbuddy is 43. I’ve been seeing her for months now since I turned 18 and I’ve had so much fun with her. She always wants to pay me or treat me to things for sex but I just do it because I like it and I don’t care if she pays me or not since she’s attractive and she does so much for me during sex. I see her on weekdays during the day andI stay at her place usually on the weekends and we hang around her house and eat food or just watch movies. I’ve only ever been with her and not with any other women. She wants to have a threesome with me and one of her close friends who is also in her 40s. I met her and she’s also a nice woman. They both really want to do it and I do too but I am nervous and have no clue how I would be able to please 2 very experienced women at once. We all are clean of std’s and we went over ground rules and everything and they want to do it next weekend. I guess I just need some pointers and advice about threesome since I never in my life had more t...

How long did you date before telling someone that you loved them? Submitted April 13, 2019 at 02:41PM How long did you date before telling someone that you loved them?

30F: 31M Person I’ve been talking to quite regularly and it was going very well. They went on a work trip and said would keep in touch. It’s been a week and I haven’t heard a word. I txt them something casual three days in, like hey I ran into this today, pretty light stuff, and no response. We talked about how they’d be busy and they wouldn’t have time to engage. They went on a work trip before and didn’t talk much but would send me updates about what they were doing throughout the trip. They were also somewhat responsive. I know it doesn’t bode well, but I’m fairly certain they’ll contact me to reconnect when they get home. I still want to be friends, but how do I go about this without seeming like a needy person? Thanks Edit: I have a crazy schedule and sometimes they’ll call me and I can’t get back right away. So ignoring phone calls won’t really help the issue. I feel like if I bring up the subject I’ll seem needy. They are a really good friend. But I guess I’m having issues wit...

To give a bit of background. This guy (I’ll call him Kevin) was always a nice and pleasant person when we were students. We had mutual friends and occasionally ran into one another on campus, but we never became actual friends or close. About 4 years ago at a 5 year alumni reunion, we chatted and he told me I looked great. Since then, we’ve periodically spoken via comments/posts on social media. Nothing flirtatious or anything, just genuinely friendly. Two weeks ago, just before I flew to Beijing to visit with family for 2 weeks, Kevin reached out to me. He offered to help with anything should I need it as he’s pretty fluent in Mandarin and travels to China multiple times a year for work (business owner, recently sold a restaurant he started from scratch in DC, savvy hustler in general and works with Chinese manufacturers and distributors). Little did I know, but a few days into my trip, I became sick with a legit cold and needed to reach my travel insurance agency. Awesome surprise?...

I’ve always thought and told people the best time to find love is when your not looking for love but this is somewhat different. I guess due to being separated since last August and finally divorced last month, recently I’ve found myself reflecting on how nice the freedom of singleness is. Want to leave work early to go mountain biking? Fuck it, I’m doing it. Jaunt to Mexico with a bud that we decided upon after day drinking a couple weeks ago? Fuck it, it’s booked. Maybe these kinda things will eventually get old but it doesn’t seem that way now. Ironically, this is also when feel it’s time to date. Queue the cognitive dissonance. I’ve had friends tell me in the past that they know someone that expressed interest in me but I’ve turned it down citing “bad idea for them as I’m not in a healthy dating state of mind” which was true. So now that I’m enjoying my bachelordom for a couple months, I now feel comfortable dating. I jump on the OLD thing last week and now I have a date set up f...

I don’t know that many people who’s been single as long as I have been (3 years - sort of). The first year, I wasn’t trying. I was just happy doing me. I started to try in my second year, found a guy I fell for hard but we only dated exclusively for a few months (we were a couple and very serious about each other but because of how short it was, it didn’t feel like a relationship). Another year gone by, I met someone I fell hard for again, but I met him at the wrong time (he just broke off an engagement. He just wanted to travel the world and didn’t want another relationship). I know the feeling of working towards something and achieving it but a relationship is different. It takes two to tango. I felt that I spent such a long time bettering myself and trying to find myself again, and I’m really ready for a healthy relationship, it just didn’t happen. So now I have this mentality of “what’s gonna be different the next time?” I don’t even think theres anything I could do differently....

Am I wrong for not wanting to hook up with married men? I mean, some guys have it on their profile. The guy from last night did not. Today, we hit it off and were texting a LOT... he tries to meet tonight, but I already have plans for tonight. He then tells me he is going on holiday for a week... I ask with whom he’s going. “My mom, Lady, and friends” I immediately asked him if he was married. He admitted he’s married. I ask: ‘Poly?’ He says ‘No’... I ask ‘Swingers?’ He says ‘No’.... WTF? I ask if his wife is aware “she lets me step out some”... I NOPED ON OUTTA THERE. ABORT. BLOCK. But, why, guys?? And should I have handled this differently?? EDIT: I just realized I forgot an important detail... as I’m trying to nail down what his ‘status’ is, he asks me for my last name... I refuse. He says, in ALL CAPS, that he’s just trying to save my number. I live in a suburb and have a professional life that puts me in the community spotlight... FUCK NO, I have never met you!! What if he ...

I have a first date tomorrow with someone from OLD who is my age and lives one mile from me. Yesterday we had a phone conversation. Today he is trying to chit chat with me over text throughout the day. We’re having dinner tomorrow (!) so I just don’t see the point of cultivating all this emotional connection before we find out if there’s any REAL chemistry in person.... Should I tell him to save it for tomorrow night? Or just pretend to be too busy to talk? Submitted April 13, 2019 at 08:39PM I have a first date tomorrow with someone from OLD who is my age and lives one mile from me.Yesterday we had a phone conversation. Today he is trying to chit chat with me over text throughout the day.We’re having dinner tomorrow (!) so I just don’t see the point of cultivating all this emotional connection before we find out if there’s any REAL chemistry in person.... Should I tell him to save it for tomorrow night? Or just pretend to be too busy to talk?

In the past I have been asked if I'd like to meet a guy for a walk, go to a park and feed ducks, outdoor non-committal activities. While it's better than asking if they can come over to my place for the first meet, I do have to admit I was a little put off by this and did not go on any of these "dates". I'm not on OLD now (let's face it, I'll be back), however I'm starting to understand why people might suggest this as a way of meeting/vetting the person before committing to a more typical date over drinks or coffee. I have a feeling it's probably suggested by people who feel they've wasted too much of their time or money on dates in the past. I think I'll be more open to it the next go around, but if an actual date isn't suggested for our 2nd meet I'd move on. Curious to hear your thoughts/experiences on this. Submitted April 13, 2019 at 09:31PM In the past I have been asked if I'd like to meet a guy for a walk, go to ...

So I (30/F) have been single for a year after being in a relationship for 8. I think i'm ready to start dating again, but after so long, it's just weird for me. I used to be very confident and outgoing which made it incredibly easy to meet people, but i've changed a lot since then, I am now shy and reserved. Life happened and wasn't always nice to me, my energy and physical appearance changed a lot. Aside from accepting what I can't change, i'm working on what I can, but it still a struggle to accept myself as I am now even though I hide it pretty well. Now, my friends are all married, stay at home moms with at least 3 kids each. I love them and their family, but I'm the complet opposite, being a single, childless, professional woman. When I offer to go out for a drink, they can't afford it, when I offer to pay, they can't afford the babysitter, so I usually join them at their place with a few bottles of wine, which is perfectly fine, but I real...

Hi all, I’ve (F37) been dating a guy (M36) since January. I’m mostly happy with how it’s going, but there are a couple things that have aroused my suspicions about whether he might have a girlfriend/wife/something else. When we are together he very often turns his phone to airplane mode for the whole night, there are times when we’re not together that he goes off the grid for a day/night with no contact, and he has more than one Facebook page. I know they are not major things, and I know I should ask him directly but right now I’m not going to for reasons! My question is, for those who have found out they are the ‘other’ woman/man (or one of many); in hindsight what are the reddish flags that you should have picked up on or trusted your gut about? Submitted April 14, 2019 at 12:07AM Hi all, I’ve (F37) been dating a guy (M36) since January. I’m mostly happy with how it’s going, but there are a couple things that have aroused my suspicions about whether he might have a girlfriend/...

The majority of guys I talk to on dating apps and such either directly or indirectly try to move the conversation towards sexual talk or ask for snapchat which I rarely use but whenever I have added guys it’s mostly topless pics of themselves, I guess because they want something back. I didn’t think I was a prude but I find it a little low class to sext with a man you’ve never met. Thoughts? Is it my age (32)? Is this what the younger ones are doing now!? Edit: by younger ones I meant younger than me and I just haven’t caught up with the trends yet, I’m aware I’m no longer a younger one ;-) Submitted April 14, 2019 at 01:14AM The majority of guys I talk to on dating apps and such either directly or indirectly try to move the conversation towards sexual talk or ask for snapchat which I rarely use but whenever I have added guys it’s mostly topless pics of themselves, I guess because they want something back.I didn’t think I was a prude but I find it a little low class to sext w...

For about three weeks I had been seeing this person with whom I match very well. We dated, had sex a few times, and enjoyed each other's company. But she called it off tonight. I asked her for feedback so that I can better my future approach to relationships. See, I have never been in a relationship before, and I am thirty-eight. She told me that I didn't make it obvious to her that I wanted to be in a committed relationship. She told me that after the first date I should decide if I want to be in a committed relationship with someone. That thing about the first date sounds like BS to me. Is it? Submitted April 14, 2019 at 01:40AM For about three weeks I had been seeing this person with whom I match very well. We dated, had sex a few times, and enjoyed each other's company. But she called it off tonight. I asked her for feedback so that I can better my future approach to relationships. See, I have never been in a relationship before, and I am thirty-eight. She told m...

My one colleague likes to point out that I'm still single and will often ask about my sex life or say that I need to get laid or whatever. IDK why but when she does it I get really uncomfortable and feel like she's picking on me. It happens more often when she's been drinking so I feel like I should just chalk it up to just being a rude drunk. But most of the people I know are married or in a relationship and I feel like being the single lonely girl has made me a target for jokes or pity. Submitted April 14, 2019 at 02:11AM My one colleague likes to point out that I'm still single and will often ask about my sex life or say that I need to get laid or whatever. IDK why but when she does it I get really uncomfortable and feel like she's picking on me. It happens more often when she's been drinking so I feel like I should just chalk it up to just being a rude drunk. But most of the people I know are married or in a relationship and I feel like being the sing...

I'm dating a woman that I met from an app and it's going well so far. We've been seeing each other since mid February and it's progressing - we hang out weekly and she's stayed over a few times. I'm not going to rush it, because we only see each other weekly right now it's still too early I feel to define the relationship, however if it's still going well in a month I'll bring it up I think. In the meantime I'm trying to subtly move things along and get closer to her. I want to see her more regularly and talk more. However she works several jobs and is a genuinely busy person - working 6 out of 7 days a week. I recently brought up in conversation that I respect how much she works but wondered if we could see each other at least twice a week. She replied that she hardly has time for herself as it is with her work, so that idea was kind of shut down. I don't want to scare her off being too full on too early, so I guess I'll see if there...

How many dates or how much time since meeting, if you are into someone, until daily or multiple texts per day are normal? Submitted April 14, 2019 at 03:26AM How many dates or how much time since meeting, if you are into someone, until daily or multiple texts per day are normal?

Maybe I'm just burnt out but since I broke up with my ex I dated for two years I'm getting the sense that it's just a clusterf*** out there. I had two short term things that seemed promising at first. The latest lasted 2 1/2 months and then he basically ghosted me after (what I thought) was an awesome overnight trip for my birthday. He even drew me a bath with bubbles and a pillow of towels for my head and it was one of the most romantic things someone had done for me. He brought me roses regularly.. cooked for me.. was affectionate.. and then bam nothing. Flabbergasting. But it is what it is. I tried to get back out there and it just feels so different from the last time I was single a couple years ago. I realized today I'm not in the right place mentally to even try.. I'm still hurt and confused. So I deleted my profiles. But now I wonder if there's any point in going back. Do people commit anymore or at least respect each other enough to be honest? Maybe I...

I've tried to put a profile on dating apps like tinder and plenty of fish ... and well I'm not getting much luck on either site .. I'd post the profiles here but I'm not sure how ... But I could post some of the text from the profiles if that would help .. I'm a 43 yr old white Male .. with two teenagers and live apart from them ... What I have on my profile on plenty of fish... Well I am tired of doing things alone, I am looking for someone to do things with, goto the movies, walks on the beach, going to the drive-in, spending time at home playing games, entertaining, watching movies. I spent way too much time in the past couple years on my own and it is time for a change. I do like photography and love to go on adventures to abandon places or ghosts town to see what is left. I do love camping, romantic getaways and spending time in a hottub. I am looking for someone who knows what she likes and loves to laugh. Who likes to swim, go on adventures and spend ti...

I am struggling with this. I have my profile up online and may be talking/dating a few matches and get other matches making an initial 'hello' type of contact. Has I am busy with life or other dates it may be days before I can get back to people. I have had several men in the past few weeks unmatch if I have no spoken to them in 24 hours or less. Is this too sensitive? Or I am just rude? It doesn't bother me if I get no immediate reply - I get around to unmatching months later, if at all. Submitted April 14, 2019 at 04:33AM I am struggling with this. I have my profile up online and may be talking/dating a few matches and get other matches making an initial 'hello' type of contact. Has I am busy with life or other dates it may be days before I can get back to people. I have had several men in the past few weeks unmatch if I have no spoken to them in 24 hours or less. Is this too sensitive? Or I am just rude? It doesn't bother me if I get no immediate reply...

I'd just like to hear some experiences of how and where you met the person you're dating now, thanks 🙂 Submitted April 14, 2019 at 04:39AM I'd just like to hear some experiences of how and where you met the person you're dating now, thanks 🙂

I split with my partner of 4 years, living together over 2 years about 7 months ago. I thought we were in it for the long term. He came home one day and broke up with me out of the blue, so very not mutual. I saw him out tonight and we spoke for a few minutes for the first time in 6 months. It felt ok, but I realized that I still really miss him and love him. I wish the breakup hadn't happened, but now that I've had some space I don't want us to get back together. I didn't like who I was with him and he didn't consider us partners. I was more like a sidekick. How long does it take to get over this feeling? I have been on one date (OLD) a couple months ago and decided I wasn't ready. Should I go on a bunch of dates? Sleep around? I desperately just want to hang out with him and talk to him and tell him everything about my life. So now what? I feel like it's so much harder at this age because I thought I was done. I wasn't dating just for fun. I wanted ...

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There is a guy I like who is hesitant to date someone with young children because his kids are already grown. My kids live with me part time (50/50) and have a involved dad. As far as I’m concerned, he can just see me when I don’t have my children and never needs to interact with them. How do I reassure this guy that I don’t expect him to be a dad to my children? Submitted April 14, 2019 at 06:39AM There is a guy I like who is hesitant to date someone with young children because his kids are already grown. My kids live with me part time (50/50) and have a involved dad. As far as I’m concerned, he can just see me when I don’t have my children and never needs to interact with them. How do I reassure this guy that I don’t expect him to be a dad to my children?

I (19m) want to try deepthroating but when the dick goes past my front teeth I gag. I have a couple dildos, will that help? Does anyone know how to reduce a gag reflex? Submitted April 14, 2019 at 03:27AM I (19m) want to try deepthroating but when the dick goes past my front teeth I gag. I have a couple dildos, will that help? Does anyone know how to reduce a gag reflex?