Hello! I am 32F and have been single on and off for the past 2 years. In a recent conversation with a friend, she suggested that the reason I was single was the area in which I live now. On the one hand she maybe has a point, many of the men I match with work in the oil and gas field and I work in the furthest thing away from that!! Both my previous LTR were with men who work in the oil and gas field, never saw this as a problem before I have to admit! But I dunno... I feel her comment was perhaps a bit mean spirited? I refuse to believe that because I live in a certain area of Scotland I have cursed myself to remain single! I just want to know if any of you have been in a similar situation as me where friends or family advise you that your post code/address is holding you back from finding love? And if they did, did you go on to find love despite this? I feel hopeful that I will find my match and share my life with someone worthy of my time but it’s hard to remain optimistic when ...

Hi! 32F, and am doing the OLD thing for the first time in a while - last time I did it, it was in an unfocused manner - I didn’t know what I wanted/didn’t want much asides from finding “someone I like”. Now, I want that and more (marriage etc), and would like to be able to filter out unsuitable people - being more picky but more open-minded at the same time (for example, being open-minded about going beyond my usual type, which is artsy, intellectual and tall, but less accepting of people who aren’t ready for a relationship, give me bad vibes, making excuses for men etc), and I need some advice how to achieve that balance during the online portion: What to do with the taciturn men? Those with not much in their profile / or those that send “hey, how are you?” messages. I am between: a) giving them the benefit of the doubt - perhaps some people aren’t as expressive as others and aren’t as “marketable” (sorry, threw up in my mouth a little using that word here) or b) take them at fac...

I matched with a cute guy a couple days ago. Best conversation and connection I've ever had through an app. Very deep, honest, funny, etc. I was so excited to meet him. Then he said those words... "I'm not looking for a relationship. I'm just looking for friends." Follow up questions reveal that he isn't talking about FWB. Or casual. He's legit looking for regular friends. He's terrified of romantic relationships after his divorce and just wants deep connection with no romance. I'm proud of myself. I didn't schedule a date with him in hopes our in person chemistry would change his mind. I also didn't pretend like I wanted to hang out as friends when I'm looking for a relationship. I just thanked him for being honest and told him we shouldn't waste each others time. I know that seems like a no brainer, but my people pleasing and recovering codependent tendencies wanted me to tell him that we could be friends. But it's not wha...

Background story: End of August, I walked away from a situationship of 6 months. We met earlier this year and were quarantined separately during the summer. On the first date we both agreed that we take things slow and go take the short term first before entering into long term later on. The connection were really strong in the first 4 months or so and things started to cool down by May. He initiated 85% of all communications during the whole time. Now after quarantine...we touchbased again on both of our intentions and he wants to continue to casually date while I want something more exclusive. So I broke things off since our wants are different. I saw a recent pictures of him on social media and he looked really upset in there. Those were taken two weeks after our break up. I don't understand...why be so upset/mad when he wasn't ready to be exclusive? Would appreciate an your thoughts and stay safe out there!! xo Submitted October 13, 2020 at 11:39PM Background stor...

I see so many posts on reddit by 18 - 25 year olds asking serious life and relationships questions. I can’t help thinking WTF? This is the age where you discover yourself, pursue your goals, explore your curiosity. Be a fool and not have to greatly pay for it... depending on how foolish you chose to be. Yet, so many people are asking if they should be with their cheating boyfriend or girlfriend who keeps behaving like the young idiot that they rightfully should be. My youth was ... for a lack of better word, LIT! I loved every bit of it. Established myself. Yes, dating sucks when you are fully aware of who you are and what you want/need but I’d still not have it any other way. Submitted October 14, 2020 at 12:25AM I see so many posts on reddit by 18 - 25 year olds asking serious life and relationships questions. I can’t help thinking WTF? This is the age where you discover yourself, pursue your goals, explore your curiosity. Be a fool and not have to greatly pay for it... depen...

My bf yelled at me last night. I had a few friends over (safely! in my backyard!) and when they left, I was just so giddy from socializing, I think, that I turned on some silly music and sang along: Elton John, billy Joel, etc. honestly, it must have been pretty annoying. But then out of nowhere, my bf starts yelling at me about how he’s been so stressed out about work lately and he just “wants to be left the fuck alone.” He apologized this morning, and he’s texted me a couple times since, but I’m still pretty angry, and hurt. I know I must have been deeply annoying, but I don’t think I deserved to be yelled at...! I just told him I need some space. I don’t know what to think about it all and feel like I need some time apart to figure it out. Am I overreacting? It is such a stressful time for everyone... Submitted October 11, 2020 at 11:48PM My bf yelled at me last night. I had a few friends over (safely! in my backyard!) and when they left, I was just so giddy from socializ...

Tonight I reached out to my ex-friend who I thought had a crush on me earlier in the year. I'm asexual and despite that, I had a little crush, even though I wanted to be friends. I made a post here last week. Anyway, I decided to communicate with him, that it's done and why. I told him we are on two different pages and we're mismatched. This is what he sent: ​ That sucks. But to tell the truth, if you don't think opposite views cannot lead to continued friendship, then it's better we don't waste each others' time... ...J, I have so much love for you. You said what you said, blocked me for a bit, apologized, now not wanting to be friends. Let's chat tomorrow if you're up for it. Feel free to include me in your newsletter and feel free to send W a card. I'll always have love for you, J; differences or not. Good night. ​ I told him I was done. I feel bad, but I just can't right now. What is going on? Submitted October 11, 2020 at 11:5...

Hi! I started seeing someone and I feel really scared. He (30M) and I (32F) started talking via OLD a few weeks back. He asked me to a dinner date and we had an absolutely lovely time. It was so romantic and wow, he is amazing. He told me that he has been going through a divorce for almost two years but it is finalized in a few weeks. We continued to see one another and had amazing dates over the weeks. He always wants to see me, asks a lot of questions, seems invested, etc He is just incredible. Motivated, always very present in our conversations, caring, and very reliable. I'm not sure if it's just because I have been really busy with work and hobbies so he thinks I'm dating around and someone will scoop me up so he's bringing his A game or what... I haven't dated someone like this in a long time and I don't really know how to feel okay with "normal". I just have these jaded thoughts that he is going to end up being sketchy like so many men I ha...

60F. Have been having an electrifying conversation with a guy I met online two weeks ago. We are two hours apart, and it started as silly banter; we were too far apart to realistically have a relationship. We started out joking about OK Cupid matches and stuff, but we quickly connected mentally, and it became obvious after two weeks that we had to meet IRL. Today we finally met, and it was epic. Spent all day together, had amazing sex, and talked for hours. We are soulmates. My problem is how to let down the boring guy I had dinner with last night? I HATE this part! What the hell do I tell him?He is smitten, and I persuaded him to kiss me, because kissing is important! But with Covid I feel I pushed his boundaries, as one of the first things he told me is that he is a germaphobe. Kept his mask in a plastic bag in his pocket, and went to the bathroom twice over the course of a two-hour meal. Brought his own water to the restaurant. I paid for the meal, since I asked him out. I di...

Let’s say one on one you get along with them great and you really enjoy their personality, but when you see them interact with their friend group they turn into someone you don’t like, and you think very little of their friends? I know probably a lot of people will have validating responses to this question but I’m also curious about the reverse. Has anyone ever had a healthy relationship with someone whose friends seem to make them into a worse person? Submitted October 08, 2020 at 11:46PM Let’s say one on one you get along with them great and you really enjoy their personality, but when you see them interact with their friend group they turn into someone you don’t like, and you think very little of their friends?I know probably a lot of people will have validating responses to this question but I’m also curious about the reverse. Has anyone ever had a healthy relationship with someone whose friends seem to make them into a worse person?

Hey all, I have someone, I recently started seeing, coming over later tonight. I plan on putting a movie or tv show on but my question is, do I have to ask the person if I can have subtitles? Okay, should I just keep subtitles on or be polite and give them a choice even though I may potentially suffer. Submitted October 06, 2020 at 11:46PM Hey all,I have someone, I recently started seeing, coming over later tonight. I plan on putting a movie or tv show on but my question is, do I have to ask the person if I can have subtitles? Okay, should I just keep subtitles on or be polite and give them a choice even though I may potentially suffer.

Recently separated after 7 years of being with someone I 35F.this separation was coming for a long time I was emotionally detached from him for about 2 years before the separation and we are just waiting to sign the paperwork until the new year for tax purposes. Anyways- I am not really ready to date. I am however talking to another guy. He lives in another state 4 hours away and I’ve known him since I was 12. And we recently just re connected. I really like him. Problem is I can’t help but continue to talk to him even though I know it will never work out, it can never be more. We are planning on meeting up for a couple nights. Idk if I should because I don’t think I can handle knowing nothing more will ever come from this going forward and that hurts. Submitted October 05, 2020 at 11:13PM Recently separated after 7 years of being with someone I 35F.this separation was coming for a long time I was emotionally detached from him for about 2 years before the separation and we are...

So I (33F) match with a guy on Hinge (?M). We text in the app for about 24 hours - going well. He asks for my number - I give it (it's a Google Voice number). Then he texts me and asks to set up a phone / FaceTime date. I'm excited, getting ready to say yes. Then I go back into Hinge to look at his profile so I can remember his last name and save him in my phone and POOF, he's gone from the app. I think this is weird so I text him and ask. I say, I can't see your profile anymore, did you unmatch with me? He says "yeah because I got your number." I find his behavior to be highly weird. There are several reasons that I like to go back and look at a guy's profile and to our in-app chat history. 1 - refresh my memory on what we talked about so I'm not repeating myself. 2 - refresh my memory on exactly what he looks like when I'm trying to find him at designated public location for first date. 3 - looking back at what he put on his profile that I fra...

I (F33) am polyamorous and have been dating my boyfriend (43) for a few months now. We normally see each other once every 1-2 weeks, which suits us well as I am married to M42 (yes, he knows) and my BF has a super busy job and is a single parent with sole custody. My BF is fearful avoidant and has a tendency to engage in sabotaging behaviours, and he himself admits that he finds it difficult to get close to people. At the same time, he is deeply sensitive and afraid of rejection. I am a pretty patient and understanding person, and I am willing to put in some effort to help him become more secure in our relationship. His sabotaging behaviour tends to take the form of going silent for a few days. In the past he has always resurfaced and been remorseful about giving me the silent treatment. I accept that this is part of his attachment style, and I don’t take it personally. We had plans to meet tomorrow (his idea), and on Friday I messaged him on WhatsApp asking him to call me in the af...

Backstory: Moved to a new city pre-covid, wasn't able to meet new friends prior to the pandemic, broke up with my long-term girlfriend, super cautious about the virus, so had no local friends and limited hobbies, then finally got back into dating. OLD: A few months back, I made a connection with through OLD. It felt like we immediately hit things off and met up shortly after. We went on 3 great dates over the course of a week and had some amazing chemistry. It felt like we had a lot in common and could talk about anything. We had planned a forth date, but she ended up cancelling, saying that as much as she wished she was into me, she just wasn't feeling it. My gut feeling is I came off too available (having no friends and limited hobbies in my new city) and that's why she ended things. We exchanged a few really nice/meaningful goodbye texts and haven't been in contact since. Fast forward to now, I've put a lot of effort into expanding my network in my new city, h...

Hi all, I'm just in my early 30s and came to Tulsa, Oklahoma this year. I wanna date some decent desirable guys bc I believe I am too(😂) but couldn't really date one so far!!! Realized it's tough to meet someone and socialize not living in a big city. Tried to use some dating apps a few times but deleted bc it didn't really work and guys didn't seem forward and interested. There were some approaches offline all of a sudden but they weren't my types. Just started working out at a gym just to make more chances of 'seeing' guys.🤣 My work is 99% woman. Any suggestions? It's close to 1yr w/o dating!! Submitted October 04, 2020 at 10:26PM Hi all, I'm just in my early 30s and came to Tulsa, Oklahoma this year. I wanna date some decent desirable guys bc I believe I am too(😂) but couldn't really date one so far!!! Realized it's tough to meet someone and socialize not living in a big city. Tried to use some dating apps a few times but del...

F(35) and BF (38) started dating about 6 months ago. I asked him if he had any social media and he said no. Since I do my due diligence when start dating someone I googled him and his social media popped up. I confronted him about it and said ohh but that I e doesn’t have my picture, then he said that account is for him to sign up for stuff online. Then blocked me. We are still dating and this still bothers me. First the fact that he lied at first saying no then blocking me. Had anyone gone though this? Submitted October 04, 2020 at 11:46PM F(35) and BF (38) started dating about 6 months ago. I asked him if he had any social media and he said no. Since I do my due diligence when start dating someone I googled him and his social media popped up. I confronted him about it and said ohh but that I e doesn’t have my picture, then he said that account is for him to sign up for stuff online. Then blocked me. We are still dating and this still bothers me. First the fact that he lied at ...

I rejected him 10 years ago because of age difference, I was 19 and he was 25. A year ago we reconnected after meeting on a night out. (36M) (31F). He lives in another state due to work but visits my state every 3 weeks. He would always meet up with me and we would hang out for 7-8hours on a Friday or Saturday night. We would speak on the phone every 2weeks for 1-2hours. That’s been our dynamic for a year. Given that he never came out and asked for anything more I’m thinking that he is just seeking emotional validation as we’ve never been intimate. Our chemistry is off the charts though- both of us kept it at first base (make-out). I don’t know if I’m wasting my time or what is his deal. He invited me to come over to his state and spend the weekend with him but due to the pandemic I couldn’t. I started back school and I’m now busy with work and studying. I don’t want to be wasting my precious time on a dead end. Can someone help me out. Idk what to think. Submitted October 04, ...

Let’s say you’ve met someone online, how many dates do you go on before one of you sees each other’s home? Do you just assume that they want to hook up? It seems like every guy I meet, they want to come over (or me go over there) after the first or second date. Idk if their intention is to hook up or just hang out. I feel like it’s too soon but it’s as if that’s the norm nowadays. Submitted October 02, 2020 at 11:50PM Let’s say you’ve met someone online, how many dates do you go on before one of you sees each other’s home? Do you just assume that they want to hook up?It seems like every guy I meet, they want to come over (or me go over there) after the first or second date. Idk if their intention is to hook up or just hang out. I feel like it’s too soon but it’s as if that’s the norm nowadays.

I’ve been seeing this guy for two months and I think things are going well. We see each other 1-2 times a week in person. We don’t really text much in between but that’s been the norm the whole time. While I don’t need the bf/gf label, I would like to know how he is feeling about “us” and if he sees this developing into a relationship. I’m looking for advice on two things: Is it too early? Should I wait until the 3 month mark (ugh... October seems so long to wait)? Help me with wording?! How do I bring it up without scaring him away? Submitted September 30, 2020 at 11:43PM I’ve been seeing this guy for two months and I think things are going well. We see each other 1-2 times a week in person. We don’t really text much in between but that’s been the norm the whole time. While I don’t need the bf/gf label, I would like to know how he is feeling about “us” and if he sees this developing into a relationship. I’m looking for advice on two things:Is it too early? Should I wait...