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My (22m) bipolar gf (21f) is pushing me away, what should I do?

Hello all, I love my girlfriend and we have been together for 4 months now. We are in a long distance relation for the time being, with a relatively sound plan to close the distance in a year. She said to me that she suffers from bipolar disorder 2 months ago, a day in which she was acting super distant and I asked her what’s wrong. Anyway, she is often really loving. But one time I went to her hometown to see her, I felt really unwelcomed after a few days. Especially this one day I was waiting for her to get back home, I tried to kiss her and she said she needs some space. I honestly felt she wasn’t in for it anymore, but things went back to normal after a while and we had some great moments after it. Additionally, sometimes I feel like I annoy her when I text her. I’m quite a cheesy person, so I just express my love and expect something in return, yet she just says that stuff like “yeah, I’m not super cheesy atm” or so. I tried to talk to her. But she says this is just how she ...

What

Hello, first time posting. I read the community rules, so please let me know if I broke them. I apologize for the lack of detail, as I'd rather not have this traced back. I ( 25M ) have been friends with ( 24F ) this woman for a while. I met her in post-graduate professional schooling. Our friend group is all professionals in the same school, same age group. Never thought about her in a romantic way, in fact she even started dating another guy in the group and when things went bad (on and off again) our group would do our best to give them space and be supportive. Fast forward our last year, the relationship is over. I got really close with her ex, and now we're great friends. He's moved on (I think, he still talks badly of her in conversations), and she's moved on also. She's dated other people and so has he. I have too, but I don't think that matters. They don't really hang out anymore and the group has pretty much splintered, with some of us trying to h...

How would you feel if your girlfriend told you she used to be a sugar baby?

I’m 25 years old and I am in a relationship of about 2 months, and I am coming here seeking others’ perspective on the matter. The man I am dating is truly a gem, and I am intent on keeping him. However, I feel as though I really need to tell him that I used to be a sugar baby, because in a relationship I really need to feel 100% accepted for the most important things about myself, and I know that there is a lot of stigma surrounding sugar dating, and I do not want to strip my boyfriend of his personal autonomy by not giving him the choice to choose whether to stay with me or not, given my past. I was a sugar baby from the time I was 18 to 24, and I do not regret it. My sugar daddy was 30 when I first met him, and we remain good friends. I kept a job as a waitress for the first year of sugaring because I didn’t want to rely entirely on sugaring, but I decided to quit not only because my sugar daddy wanted to see me more often, but because he was giving me so much money. He was givin...

Need help to leave a toxic relationship (29F) (32M)

Basically my boyfriend cheated on me. We’ve been going out since January 2019. I found out a few days after he met my family. I am in so much pain but at the same time I can’t seem to find the strength to leave him. I know I deserve better but I keep obsessing about him being with the other girl, and not me. My emotions are everywhere, I can’t sleep and eat. I feel like I’m falling apart. He wants to see me to talk but i don’t know if I should. TL;DR: I can’t seem to leave my cheating boyfriend. My life is in shambles. Submitted November 16, 2019 at 12:13AM Basically my boyfriend cheated on me. We’ve been going out since January 2019. I found out a few days after he met my family. I am in so much pain but at the same time I can’t seem to find the strength to leave him. I know I deserve better but I keep obsessing about him being with the other girl, and not me. My emotions are everywhere, I can’t sleep and eat. I feel like I’m falling apart. He wants to see me to talk but i don...

How can I reinvent myself (16M) so I can learn to socialise and build relationships with both myself, and others, despite the significant ball and chain of Aspergers?

Hello all! I'm making this post as a sort of self intervention of sorts as well as a question. I've spent two years realising after realising I don't like being anxious and feeling worried for what will come after school when I don't even know how to start a conversation with my current friends, through text especially and irl very often there's difficulty as well. I don't speak to anyone new because I have nothing to say and I never know if it's the right monent, which is the same for if I want to text someone someone, and I feel like crap when everyone can socialise at school or text each other happily knowing what to do. For exanpl, one of the schools nearby mine had a fire and pupils were moved to our school. Insert classes they were encouraged to socialise and speak with each other, and I just sat alone, everyone every on lse in the class happy, making friends and such, but I dont even know where to start. I feel like an idiot I consider group and clu...

/u/Stagnant_Heir on My coworkers just love to gossip and get me not outing myself as ace completely wrong

DnD Aces unite! Not pursuing or spending energy on sex = more game time with friends 😁 I'm running a session tomorrow and doing last minute prep. Do you DM or play primarily? November 16, 2019 at 12:10AM

/u/RandomNinja11 on Me and my pasta is all I need

Read this as I was in line to get pasta lmao November 16, 2019 at 12:07AM

clueless dude wishes to find clue

Hi. I'm an awkward software engineer and I am desperately seeking advice on how to talk to a girl. ​ Here's the situation. I started coworking at this new place in June, shortly after I noticed there is a girl there. There was this weird situation where I came in one day and I was looking around the room and noticed that she was looking at me. Thinking nothing of it I looked back and smiled. We ended up just kinda looking at each other for like 3 seconds. After this she was walking by my desk. When I noticed that she was walking by I looked in her direction, not really sure why...but she looked back at me, noticed I was also looking at her and quickly looked away. Sadface.jfp. Since then anytime I glance in her direction and she realizes my head is faced her way she looks in the other direction. Sometimes just briefly. ​ Anyway, before I start fantasizing about our honeymoon in Fuji together I'll have to figure out what the heck is going on. After this awkwardness I...

[F][27] Why do I feel like I will be forever lonely? Is it because of my country?

Do you ever feel like there is probably no match for you in your own country? I feel like in Turkey I will never be able to find someone who shares my vision of life or the way of living. I know somethings must come with the land but the tought of being lonely forever is very depressing to me cause I’m a total social bird. Any one out there who feels me? If there is how do you coup with these thoughts, at a dead end here. Submitted November 15, 2019 at 11:14PM Do you ever feel like there is probably no match for you in your own country?I feel like in Turkey I will never be able to find someone who shares my vision of life or the way of living. I know somethings must come with the land but the tought of being lonely forever is very depressing to me cause I’m a total social bird.Any one out there who feels me? If there is how do you coup with these thoughts, at a dead end here.

Is this age gap really bad at my age?

So basically is this gap (15M me and 17F her) to big at this age? I’m in Australia and I think the law says it’s fine if I’m 16 and she’s 18 but I was wanting to know if this would look weird in the street because I’m still growing and maturing. Thanks! Submitted November 15, 2019 at 11:16PM So basically is this gap (15M me and 17F her) to big at this age? I’m in Australia and I think the law says it’s fine if I’m 16 and she’s 18 but I was wanting to know if this would look weird in the street because I’m still growing and maturing. Thanks!

I (F28) started dating a guy (M26) who just got out of a LTR. He says he likes me but needs to get used to dating me. Should I give it a try..? Or run away?

I (F28) started dating this guy (M26), let’s call him Jon, who is the best friend of a friend of mine (M27): Mike. We got to know each other through my friend Mike a couple of months ago but last month during Mike’s birthday party, me and Jon really got along, we talked for the whole evening and it was very very nice. I felt sparks from the first moment I saw him but my friend Mike told me he was on and off with his girlfriend so I should probably not get any ideas. However, after that birthday party, Jon asked my number to Mike and invited me on a date. We went on a date, and it was very nice. We talk and laugh for hours, he’s a very nice guy, he’s kind, funny and shows a lot interest in what I do and what I like. I believe that’s just the way he is, he’s a good communicator, it’s not necessarily just with me. Nothing happened, no kissing, no flirting,just talking, but fine! After that we texted almost everyday and we went on 3 more dates. 2nd date after a full afternoon and eve...

I feel so embarrassed and defeated. Should have listened to my gut to not try dating again

A bit of a rant.. [M23] I was suppost to go on date #2 right now with a co worker [F20] I've been talking to lately. We clicked when we met and would hang out on our breaks and she's really really attractive, but honestly is a shit worker. Totally just wasted my Friday today by bailing on our evening date. I had a feeling she was going to flake.. but because we went on 1 really good date a few days ago, I thought she felt the same about me. Felt like we could be 100% myself talking and smoking with her. Went from constant fun texting to a total of 2 between yesterday and today. Decided to do the whole likely to get laid routine (shaving pubs, cleaning room, carefully picking today's outfit). Her last message was to confirm things. Decided to call after being 30 minutes late and she 100% pretended to wake up from a nap. Said "oh shit what time is it, sorry i don't want to keep you from doing other things today, and heard her laughing a little bit. I just said, ...

Tips on how to be seen as a serious partner?

Hey guys, do you have any tips on how to be viewed as having serious dating potential? Im looking for ways to improve myself and the last few relationships have all ended with the exact same response. It seems like the dates go really well, sometimes we even get pretty physical, but somewhere inbetween dates they change their mind about what they want and tell me they are too busy for a relationship. What can i do differently because after so many times the error obviously is with me and i really want to be enough for someone. Submitted November 15, 2019 at 11:22PM Hey guys, do you have any tips on how to be viewed as having serious dating potential?Im looking for ways to improve myself and the last few relationships have all ended with the exact same response.It seems like the dates go really well, sometimes we even get pretty physical, but somewhere inbetween dates they change their mind about what they want and tell me they are too busy for a relationship.What can i do dif...

Guys, would you be put off going on a date with a woman coughing?

This is probably a stupid dilemma but here goes... I (28F) had been chatting to a guy (28M) on Tinder for 2 weeks. I had already put off the first date because of being busy. So finally went on the first date. The problem is that 2 weeks ago, I had a really awful cold, for which I had meds to recover. I'm fine now but stuck with an annoying lingering cough :( The first date went well but it was still quite embarrassing. He's asked me out on a 2nd date and my cough is no better. I guess I do want to move things further at some point... like get a goodbye kiss :P I'm going to see the doc to make sure everything is ok but I'm just wondering if: A. I should cancel the date until I'm healed. I feel completely fine otherwise. B. Just go with the flow. I do like him. TL;Dr guys, would you be put off on a date by a woman coughing? Submitted November 15, 2019 at 11:22PM This is probably a stupid dilemma but here goes...I (28F) had been chatting to a guy (28M) on ...

He never followed through. Should I still see him tomorrow?

I 25F was supposed to see a movie with a guy tonight. He asked me out. He told me he would be free after work. When I asked him what genre he likes, he never responded to that. But continued our texting conversation. Tonight, he texted me talking about how his day was so busy and how he is excited to play a new video game he got. No mention of the movie he asked me out to. So safe to say, I'm assuming it's not gonna happen. Tomorrow we were supposed to go to this park and hang out and maybe go to a cafe. But now I'm hesitant. If he forgot about a movie, I'm 100% sure he will forget about a day at the park with me. I'm a little hurt and don't want to talk to him right now because I know I'll just say something out of emotion. This morning he texted me "Good morning beautiful :)" so im assuming he hasn't lost all interest. But I obviously don't know for sure. Should I still see him tomorrow if he brings it up? Should I ask him in person w...

Time for me (24F) to end things with him (19M)?

My bf is pretty insecure about my exes He always brings up how when my last bf and I had a fight. I stormed off and slept with a fwb. Then made up with my then bf. It shouldn’t concern my current bf but it does. He then talks about how I was sexting a fwb a week before us and talked to the fwb after we confessed our feelings. He gets upset if I had a brief convo with my ex or his family. Cause my ex sent me flowers. Also I have to tell him whenever my old ex fwb comes to my house to see my family. Anyways recently we had a fight over me sexting a fwb before we dated. A week before. And in the fight he said “I know I was even texting a crush a month before we talked about dating. But she had someone so nothing happened. I still somewhat feel insecure about your fwb” I said “you tried to ask a girl out who was in a relationship?” He said “no she had broken up” I knew about that crush. Cause a month prior when we were friends he asked me advice on her. It still caused a big fig...

What would you want to see in a dating podcast?

I’m thinking about starting a podcast that focuses on dating generally from a male perspective. Are there any topics or ideas about dating you’ve always wanted to hear discussed or debated? I’d love any ideas! Submitted November 15, 2019 at 11:32PM I’m thinking about starting a podcast that focuses on dating generally from a male perspective. Are there any topics or ideas about dating you’ve always wanted to hear discussed or debated? I’d love any ideas!

I need some advice!!

For the last month, I have been seeing this guy in a class (university). He started to tell me hello and goodbye, and I think that beyond his friends I must be the only person that he does that. I have a huge crush on him... First of all, is he just being nice? What can I do to try to understand if he likes me? Do you think I should make a move? Submitted November 15, 2019 at 11:33PM For the last month, I have been seeing this guy in a class (university). He started to tell me hello and goodbye, and I think that beyond his friends I must be the only person that he does that. I have a huge crush on him...First of all, is he just being nice? What can I do to try to understand if he likes me? Do you think I should make a move?

Etiquette for staying over at a date’s house for the first time? Toothbrush/makeup etc? Help!

Ok so for context, I’m 25F and have been on 3 dates with 27M. He’s invited me to his place next week to make dinner and watch a movie - I can guess where this will lead and I am assuming I will be staying the night... I have never done this type of dating before so I don’t know how to handle it. For example, is it weird to bring a toothbrush? Like will he think I was presumptuous? I don’t wanna have gross breath in the morning but also can’t exactly ask to use his cos people are weird with stuff like that. Also in terms of makeup... I don’t think I’m ready for him to see me completely bare (don’t want him to chicken out when he sees me au natural lol) - so ladies, when you hook up with someone for the first time what do you do about your makeup? Take makeup wipes with then wipe it off in the morning and just be happy with no makeup or only take off part of it so you don’t look a mess/reapply a little? I have no idea. I don’t want to take too much stuff in case he thinks I’m going ove...

I can't see myself with her

I (M20) am into a girl. However, i can't imagine kissing or cuddling with her, because it just seems so far away for me. Not that i wouldn't want it of course but if i think about it i just can't imagine and i think thats kinda weird because it is like one of the only things i would want right now... Does anyone of you feel the same or similar? Or is this normal? Cause i don't know. Submitted November 15, 2019 at 11:45PM I (M20) am into a girl. However, i can't imagine kissing or cuddling with her, because it just seems so far away for me. Not that i wouldn't want it of course but if i think about it i just can't imagine and i think thats kinda weird because it is like one of the only things i would want right now... Does anyone of you feel the same or similar? Or is this normal? Cause i don't know.

Girls, do men you’re dating/ getting to know call you dude?

Not a boyfriend because duh. But I mean men you’re casually dating (1 or 2 dates, haven’t known each other for more than a few weeks) Submitted November 15, 2019 at 11:50PM Not a boyfriend because duh. But I mean men you’re casually dating (1 or 2 dates, haven’t known each other for more than a few weeks)

Insecurity

I went on a date with a girl I met on tinder today. She's honestly the prettiest girl I've ever seen, while I'm pretty average looking (I am also female). The date went really well I feel; we went to a bar for a couple of hours and then went to mcdonalds, she's sweet and cute and funny, and she seemed to be having fun too. We laughed a lot and there were no awkward silences, but I'm so insecure; I can't help but feel anxious and I'm trying not to let myself get my hopes up at all for anything but it's so difficult. I'm not sure why she agreed to go on a date with me and my brain is convincing me that she doesn't like me because I'm not pretty like her. How do I get over my insecurity?? I hate this. She seems too good to be true for me. Submitted November 15, 2019 at 11:56PM I went on a date with a girl I met on tinder today. She's honestly the prettiest girl I've ever seen, while I'm pretty average looking (I am also fema...

Does she actually LIKE-like me?

So I started talking to this girl on Snapchat last week. We’ve been kinda getting to know each other. We have a class together and she sits behind me. I try to talk to her instead of other people I know if I “need help on a question”. When we’re texting though she is always sending lots of acronyms (lol, hahah, lmao, smh, fml, etc). She’s always really excited about anything I ask her about her day/life and really excited about things I tell her about my day/what I’m doing. She normally sends long texts and while they’re sometimes hard to branch a conversation off of I normally do. She also will take a few minutes to respond and leaves me on open for 2-3 mins after I ask her a question but always has a long responsive that looks like took some effort. I looked at her snap score and it also seems like she only snaps me and one other person. In most cases I would be 100% sure she likes me back but she is always really giggly, excitable, happy, etc. is it possible she’s just being friend...