How can I reinvent myself (16M) so I can learn to socialise and build relationships with both myself, and others, despite the significant ball and chain of Aspergers?

Hello all! I'm making this post as a sort of self intervention of sorts as well as a question. I've spent two years realising after realising I don't like being anxious and feeling worried for what will come after school when I don't even know how to start a conversation with my current friends, through text especially and irl very often there's difficulty as well.

I don't speak to anyone new because I have nothing to say and I never know if it's the right monent, which is the same for if I want to text someone someone, and I feel like crap when everyone can socialise at school or text each other happily knowing what to do. For exanpl, one of the schools nearby mine had a fire and pupils were moved to our school. Insert classes they were encouraged to socialise and speak with each other, and I just sat alone, everyone every on lse in the class happy, making friends and such, but I dont even know where to start. I feel like an idiot I consider group and clubs, but I went to two before and felt like I stuck out in the six altogether sessions each I went to them. I never got it right. I feel like I'm never going to learn or get better at this, and even my therapist can't help, and I feel really bad sating it because it's their job, but they always say I'm too hard on myself and that I can socialise. They never explain how or why, but I feel they're just trying tobolster my confidence because I'm a lost cause. I don't know, I feel so stupid for realising that I need to learn how to socialise so late one, and the fact I'm stuck either the, honestly put, curse that's aspergers leaves me with no idea what o to do and no confidence s all. What can I do so I don't continue living a life this isolating?? All posts are appreciated!

TL;DR Have asked gels, in idea his to socialise, start a conversation, always get ignored by strangers even old things like discord when I do try, feel like I've started too late and im hopeless. What can I do?

I consider groups, but



Submitted November 16, 2019 at 12:17AM

Hello all! I'm making this post as a sort of self intervention of sorts as well as a question. I've spent two years realising after realising I don't like being anxious and feeling worried for what will come after school when I don't even know how to start a conversation with my current friends, through text especially and irl very often there's difficulty as well.I don't speak to anyone new because I have nothing to say and I never know if it's the right monent, which is the same for if I want to text someone someone, and I feel like crap when everyone can socialise at school or text each other happily knowing what to do. For exanpl, one of the schools nearby mine had a fire and pupils were moved to our school. Insert classes they were encouraged to socialise and speak with each other, and I just sat alone, everyone every on lse in the class happy, making friends and such, but I dont even know where to start. I feel like an idiot I consider group and clubs, but I went to two before and felt like I stuck out in the six altogether sessions each I went to them. I never got it right. I feel like I'm never going to learn or get better at this, and even my therapist can't help, and I feel really bad sating it because it's their job, but they always say I'm too hard on myself and that I can socialise. They never explain how or why, but I feel they're just trying tobolster my confidence because I'm a lost cause. I don't know, I feel so stupid for realising that I need to learn how to socialise so late one, and the fact I'm stuck either the, honestly put, curse that's aspergers leaves me with no idea what o to do and no confidence s all. What can I do so I don't continue living a life this isolating?? All posts are appreciated!TL;DR Have asked gels, in idea his to socialise, start a conversation, always get ignored by strangers even old things like discord when I do try, feel like I've started too late and im hopeless. What can I do?I consider groups, but
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