That's interesting. How old are you? I'm 26 and at this point have not developed a libido but it is something I'm worried about. June 09, 2020 at 12:04AM

You just can't go wrong with garlic bread. lol June 08, 2020 at 11:58PM

Either or. How you choose to interpret or use it is the right way. June 08, 2020 at 11:57PM

I do have to ask for context. Are we talking “coming out” or are we talking in regards to having sex? (I ask because I’ve heard that phrase used in terms of having sex.) June 08, 2020 at 11:55PM

That's alright! :) That's just as valid. June 08, 2020 at 11:54PM

Back rubs are the best. June 08, 2020 at 11:47PM

Sex neutral ace here! I'm so glad to see more people posting about sex neutral and favorable aces recently, it's nice to feel validated by our community especially when not many people understand or accept asexuality outside of it. June 08, 2020 at 11:45PM

Bristol ftw June 08, 2020 at 11:42PM

It seems like you have a lot to sort through and figure out. I can see why you have so much confusion. I was lucky enough to grow up in a non-religious environment and with very understanding parents, so that helped. I'd say don't be scared to explore, try new things, see what works and what doesn't. I think there's a way to be clear about those things with a partner so you don't feel like you're leading them on or anything. Just take your time, there's no need to rush. June 08, 2020 at 11:41PM

I feel the same way June 08, 2020 at 11:40PM

Go to r/supportacevampires for more cake aces June 08, 2020 at 11:36PM

were they that sick of people stealing the signs they just put "DONT" on them? June 08, 2020 at 11:34PM

Yayy! June 08, 2020 at 11:29PM

We have a great community and shouldn't break it apart over such minor things. We have got to stick and support each as aces of all shades! June 08, 2020 at 11:27PM

Thanks! They keep popping up in my FB feed for some reason. June 08, 2020 at 11:26PM

Wow that's great! 😃 June 08, 2020 at 11:23PM

Thank you!! June 08, 2020 at 11:23PM

Not to mention that many sex neutral or sex favorable Aces can go many years without realizing that they're asexual. "I can enjoy sex well enough, I'm just not super interested in it" was my go-to descriptor for many year. I wanna say I had gone through half a dozen failed relationships before I realized it because apparently "I'm not super interested in sex" can be refreshing for an Allo woman to hear from a man but when they realize you meant, "I will literally never initiate because I just don't think about it" it understandably becomes an issue. June 08, 2020 at 11:21PM

Thank you! And I hope you always remember it. :D June 08, 2020 at 11:18PM

So my husband and I have been married for 5 months now. I have no issues that he watches porn and does his thing but now it’s making me feel some type of way. Honestly, I was fine with it up until he told me what was in his phone and why he had a pic of his ex. A little while back I asked to borrow his phone to make a call and mind you, at the time my phone had no service so it was pretty much useless. After I was done with the call, I jokingly told him that I was gonna check out his photo album. The day before, he had taken a photo of me and I just wanted to see the photo again. I also want to mention that he just got the phone so I know that there wasn’t a lot of photos. Anyways, when I told him that he quickly snatched his phone from my hand and that’s when I realized that something wasn’t right. I’ve always trusted my husband before all of this happened and I felt that we’ve honestly have been open with one another so that’s why I didn’t really think anything was wrong. I asked hi...

I want to preface this by saying I'm sorry that this is so long-- it's probably more of a validation-seeking rant, but I've brought this up a million times with my husband and it always falls on deaf ears (or rather "I'm sorry, I didn't realize I was doing it", and no conscious effort to make a change-- he is not big on "self-development" to the point where he doesn't see the value in a therapist or even an executive coach). I also want to be clear that I use all the "I feel" statements that my therapist recommends and that I read about in all the marriage/relationship books. Very often, I feel incredibly micromanaged and controlled and inadequate when my husband criticizes me, even if he thinks it's constructive. I always clean the kitchen and the dishes. He verrrry rarely cleans up after himself when he cooks, and yet, after I clean the dishes he'll come back and say they're not clean enough. Sometimes he's right...

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