The concept of being touch starved is much less a sexual thing and more of a social thing in general. A lot of asexual people would experience this too. June 10, 2020 at 11:50PM

It's so weird to me that they called it 'skin hunger.' It's usually called being 'touch starved.' Because we are a social species, we do a lot of close contact things, like how primates, birds, rats, etc. will groom or wrestle or cuddle. So people that are put in situations where they don't get stuff like this can be touch starved. I've a friend who considered herself touch starved because of being raised in a poor environment and not trusting people very well. She doesn't like physical contact, but also feels like she misses out on social stuff because of it. ​ I'm perfectly fine without contact with people, too, but I know that I do like to lean over the shoulders of my friends or family quite often. I think I'm pretty neutral on physical contact. Fine with it, fine without it. June 10, 2020 at 11:42PM

Also I forgot to add when I talked about rules surrounding and open relationship!! If that is something my partner wanted, one rule that I would have is that they can only hookup with a particular person once, which would rule out too much emotion and the possibility of falling in love, which is something I would be worried about like you!! June 10, 2020 at 11:39PM

Wait that's an actual thing? June 10, 2020 at 11:39PM

It's not even like I don't want kids. It's just something that I don't see happening anytime soon, and even if I do have them, adoption would probably be the way to go. I kind of doubt that my parents would fully back that. Also, they would probably think it's just a fancy way of saying that I don't want kids. June 10, 2020 at 11:38PM

I am pretty much in the same boat!! I actually am planning on bringing up a future open relationship with the guy I am seeing the next time I see him in order to see if that is something he would be interested in. It isn’t something I would love, and there definitely have to be rules set up because I have the same worries as you around this topic, but if it made him happy and helped him have his wants and needs satisfied, I would be open to it. I don’t really think it is something that he would be interested in, but I still want to check and be sure! There have been times where I have thought that maybe I would be comfortable having sex with him in the far future because I have felt more comfortable with him than anyone else, however I have no voiced this to him, so from what he knows, I am never having sex with him, and he is fine with it, so you may find someone out there who is fine with no sex!! I just think it’s something that you have to be open about in order to rule out people...

Yeah I am sexually repulsed. I feel like I would be fine if he had sex with someone else as long as he doesn't fall in love with her. But I feel like that could get complicated. Maybe if I loved the guy enough, I could possibly be open towards sex once in a while for him. June 10, 2020 at 11:30PM

You gotta point there June 10, 2020 at 11:30PM

I haven't seen Steven Universe but now I want to see that 😅 June 10, 2020 at 11:29PM

I feel like I’ve never met someone who isn’t panplatonic. I get your point though June 10, 2020 at 11:28PM

I have also learned about Demi a few days ago, so I'm conflict of thinking if im full Ace or if im Demi. Anyways, Thank you so much, your comment is really great help. :) June 10, 2020 at 11:28PM

I feel exactly the same. I always thought that how I 'think' is just normal to most people, and my friends are just more dirty minded sometimes and I'm just not. Or maybe this is just because how my conservative/over protective parents raised me. But the more I read about what being Ace (Demi) is I also started to think "Wait so all along the things I feel is not 'normal' to most people?" June 10, 2020 at 11:28PM

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sorry its taken me a while to respond. i dont know what to say. im really sorry you had to go through that. June 10, 2020 at 11:27PM

Thank you for posting this because as a long-time lurker I had no idea to what OP was referring as it was (in my browsing) the lack of toxicity and the support/positivity of the community that encouraged me to post in this sub and on this thread and it was my own fear/anxiety/heavy aversion to toxicity that kept me from weighing in during round 1. Particularly due to negative experiences I have had as someone who is aroace and whatever comes between sex-repulsed and sex-indifferent/neutral, the original post made me really uncomfortable at first because I thought wait this was supposed to be like exactly the place some of us can say silly things like haha so ew sex amirite without being ostracized or facing the acephobia/erasure we may experience elsewhere. Like so much of the world is sex-focused, come on. After thinking about it and taking some time, I think my experience of how supportive (I have seen) the community to be and its openness, willingness to educate and engage with e...

I do not mind questions at all! I enjoy the feeling of intimacy that comes with most types of sex (I do not have traditional penetrative sex though). With making out, I got more used to it over time with my partner (4 years together almost), but before him I did not like it at all. Still not a fan of the saliva. June 10, 2020 at 11:25PM

I used to feel the same way and sometimes I do still worry about it, however I do believe that things can work between an ace and an allo depending on the people and circumstances!! For example, I am currently seeing someone who is allo and knows about my asexuality (and sex repulsion) and is very accepting and accommodating to my boundaries!! This isn’t the case for everyone though!! I think communication is really important for any relationship, but with an ace and an allo, it may be even more important because of varying wants and needs!! I am not sure if you are sex repulsed/averse like I am, but if you are not, some aces do make compromises with allo partners and have sex occasionally, or there is the possibility of having an open relationship, if that is something both people are comfortable with and communicate about!! I hope this helps you feel better about things!! June 10, 2020 at 11:24PM

It’s weird cuz I don’t physically masturbate but I do look at drawn porn and read erotic fanfiction (and even write my own) I don’t like traditional porn because I find it disgusting June 10, 2020 at 11:24PM

You're totally valid. Im sorry your folks are being cold out of ignorance. June 10, 2020 at 11:21PM

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(F32) In a new relationship with a man (32) I’m crazy about and looking for ways to show him how much he means to me - outside of direct communication, which is definitely at the top of the list in our partnership. How does your SO foster feelings of connectedness + affection for you? Submitted June 10, 2020 at 11:45PM (F32) In a new relationship with a man (32) I’m crazy about and looking for ways to show him how much he means to me - outside of direct communication, which is definitely at the top of the list in our partnership. How does your SO foster feelings of connectedness + affection for you?