So I've been seeing this girl for a bit now. We've known each other for a while and were friends before, but now that it's tirned romantic and we've been talking more she will sometimes say really vagie or weird things that make me feel like she's hiding something. For instance, today I had invited her to come with my friends and I to a bar that I go to with friends every Tuesday. (We had talked about it the past couple weeks too, and I would invite her and she'd say that she would come next time.) She was being sort of iffy about it and qouldn't really give me a reason. Like, I didn't think much of it at first, but when I said she didn't have to come if she didn't want to she was like, "no that's not it, let me think about it" and when I asked if she was uncomfortable being around people she didn't really know she said that wasn't it either. We talked a bit throughout the day, and when I got off work I told her we were g...

I'm heteromantic looking for a guy to share my life with, but all the male ace's I've met so far were only interested in a platonic only friendship. February 02, 2022 at 12:33AM

Hi y’all, first time here, so sorry if I’m missing any format in this post. I’m (24) currently living in the US, and she (26) lives in Korea (South of course :) ) I met her while visiting my parents 3 years ago, and we have seen each other ever since, often during my academic breaks(I’m an undergraduate student), mostly me coming to Korea. In times we don’t see each other, we text, call, and facetime regularly. Fast forward to about couple months ago, when my depression was at peak due to other reasons(boundary-nonrespecting parents forcing my career pathway, resulting in taking a semester off until this Fall), she told me that she felt burnt out since I kept relying on her for my depression. I realized that, and did my best to start working out, drinking lots of water, you know, the basics of keeping a stable mind. Our relationship improved as a result, and she began to noticably laugh more in our conversations. Fast forward to about a month ago, she reveals that she had sex once w...

So me and this girl started talking about a week before thanksgiving last year in 2021. It started with me sending her a DM on Instagram and moving the conversation to text (during the day) and then FaceTime (during night) . Our relationship kinda moved naturally, we just started getting to know each other and showing that we obviously had some type of connection and feelings for each other. We said good morning to each other every day. So after a couple weeks of this, I asked her on a date. She agreed. So a week goes by, we go on the date. This was the first time we met up in person face to face and it went great. She sent me “good morning 😌” so I’m pretty sure her interest went up after the date. Here’s the kicker. The next day I kinda went ghost on her. And the reason I did that is because the date triggered some emotions from my ex. Suddenly, thoughts of me and my ex hanging out and going on dates came back out the blue. Me and my ex were only broken up for about 2 months. We dat...

Well, describing a feeling can be pretty difficult. Especially if it's something that usually is a little bit more subtle than a regular emotion and completely integrated in the way someone sees the world and behaves. And besides many people not really knowing that there is a difference between romantic and sexual attraction, it simply isn't something they think about so it's going to take some thought to properly express things. February 01, 2022 at 11:12PM

First of all, don’t fight the feeling or see it as bad. Your instincts are trying to protect you from future trauma. Love them for what they’re trying to do for you. Secondly, start small. I would start online. Then approach someone with similar identities to you, trying to be a friend. Then slowly keep doing it until you feel more comfortable. Then get closer and closer to allo straight man. (You can’t fully tell what people identify as just by looking at them ofc but estimate) The trick to getting over your fears is not fighting them but experiencing them and continuing to walkthrough them (but it’s a process and if you ever back out, it’s ok. It’s not like that’s the only chance you will get) February 01, 2022 at 11:12PM