Watch or Wait?

So me and this girl started talking about a week before thanksgiving last year in 2021. It started with me sending her a DM on Instagram and moving the conversation to text (during the day) and then FaceTime (during night) . Our relationship kinda moved naturally, we just started getting to know each other and showing that we obviously had some type of connection and feelings for each other. We said good morning to each other every day. So after a couple weeks of this, I asked her on a date. She agreed. So a week goes by, we go on the date. This was the first time we met up in person face to face and it went great. She sent me “good morning 😌” so I’m pretty sure her interest went up after the date. Here’s the kicker. The next day I kinda went ghost on her. And the reason I did that is because the date triggered some emotions from my ex. Suddenly, thoughts of me and my ex hanging out and going on dates came back out the blue. Me and my ex were only broken up for about 2 months. We dated for about a year. But basically I felt like I wasn’t completely healed. So I realized that and I didn’t wanna hurt the girl I just went on a date with (I really liked her and still do) so I kinda went silent for four days without saying anything . I did this to kinda get my head straight. After four days of this I texted her and explained everything and she wasn’t too forgiving. So basically after that we stopped talking all together. She unfollowed me on Instagram and I unfollowed her. We haven’t been in contact for about 3 months. I’ve been healing during this three months and no longer having thoughts about my ex. I’m thinking about making contact soon. Specifically FaceTiming her. I feel like since some time passed, she’ll give me another shot since besides the whole me going silent incident, everything else went almost perfect between us. Should I look at her story first on Instagram to kinda get myself back in her head since it’s been awhile. Or should I just FaceTime her out the blue without watching the story and catch her off guard? I’m pretty sure she’ll be open to rekindling what we had after this time of us not talking.



Submitted February 02, 2022 at 12:16AM

So me and this girl started talking about a week before thanksgiving last year in 2021. It started with me sending her a DM on Instagram and moving the conversation to text (during the day) and then FaceTime (during night) . Our relationship kinda moved naturally, we just started getting to know each other and showing that we obviously had some type of connection and feelings for each other. We said good morning to each other every day. So after a couple weeks of this, I asked her on a date. She agreed. So a week goes by, we go on the date. This was the first time we met up in person face to face and it went great. She sent me “good morning 😌” so I’m pretty sure her interest went up after the date. Here’s the kicker. The next day I kinda went ghost on her. And the reason I did that is because the date triggered some emotions from my ex. Suddenly, thoughts of me and my ex hanging out and going on dates came back out the blue. Me and my ex were only broken up for about 2 months. We dated for about a year. But basically I felt like I wasn’t completely healed. So I realized that and I didn’t wanna hurt the girl I just went on a date with (I really liked her and still do) so I kinda went silent for four days without saying anything . I did this to kinda get my head straight. After four days of this I texted her and explained everything and she wasn’t too forgiving. So basically after that we stopped talking all together. She unfollowed me on Instagram and I unfollowed her. We haven’t been in contact for about 3 months. I’ve been healing during this three months and no longer having thoughts about my ex. I’m thinking about making contact soon. Specifically FaceTiming her. I feel like since some time passed, she’ll give me another shot since besides the whole me going silent incident, everything else went almost perfect between us. Should I look at her story first on Instagram to kinda get myself back in her head since it’s been awhile. Or should I just FaceTime her out the blue without watching the story and catch her off guard? I’m pretty sure she’ll be open to rekindling what we had after this time of us not talking.
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