I feel asthetic attraction and I think people are cute, but I never think “damn she looks hot, I wanna fuck” or whatever people think May 15, 2021 at 11:55PM

Correction: you only have a couple out LGBTQ+ students May 15, 2021 at 11:53PM

Sometimes the answer is found in changing the stuff that you masturbate to. Sometimes it's just one of acceptance. It's different for everyone. Some people feel guilty about masturbating, or think that they "shouldn't have to". Some consider it demeaning, either to them or to the subject of their fantasies. Some feel guilt or shame because of it. Masturbation itself isn't a big deal, as long as it isn't obsessive and impeding your life. I'm going to assume that you've tried to stop masturbating and it didn't work, so my personal recommendation would be to spend some time finding the healthiest way to masturbate. See if you can find a different approach the deals with your libido and just accept that it's part of how your body functions. Sometimes looking at things from a different angle helps. Not always, but it's worth a try. May 15, 2021 at 11:53PM

how could they call me out like this May 15, 2021 at 11:51PM

I wish my school did that even though we only have a couple of LGBTQ+ students May 15, 2021 at 11:50PM

I just thought of this one today: Me, a girl person: I don’t have a heterosexual bone in my body. ... Literally. No boners shall ever enter me! May 15, 2021 at 11:49PM

Well, beyond sexual and romantic attraction, there are other kinds of attractions called tertiary attractions. Aesthetic attraction means being attracted to how a person looks, sensual attraction is thinking people are cuddly, etc. People can experience these attractions depending on the gender too, the same way with sexual and romantic attractions. An aroace could find guys cuddly or they might just like looking at guys in general. This is why some people identify (and possibly relevant to you) as bi aroace, where bi is a general term for a person's tertiary attractions. That being said, if you don't know whether you're aro or not, or even if a label is for you, this could not be what you're looking for. Still, I think it may be worth giving tertiary attractions a search to see what they are. I think there are a few more than what I mentioned here and it could be good for you to know more about them. May 15, 2021 at 11:49PM

SO TRUE May 15, 2021 at 11:48PM

Yeah basically May 15, 2021 at 11:48PM

I kinda hadn't thought of it like that, and that is exactly why I dont enjoy most of it, The whole sexuality-heavy part is just really unsettling to me. May 15, 2021 at 11:45PM

Woo! Proper, accurate representation that doesn’t just make him a sad loner. May 15, 2021 at 11:44PM

Different kinds of attraction: Aesthetic: They look beautiful. Romantic: They make my heart beat faster thinking about doing nice things for them to make them happy. Sensual: I want to touch and be touched by them. Sexual: I want to take off their clothes and... Libido isn't directed at someone. It's just an overall desire for sexual release of some kind. Some sex repulsed asexuals have high libido and it annoys them. Asexuality is very specifically about not experiencing sexual attraction towards others. That's the entire deal. If you don't experience sexual attraction towards others, you're asexual. It's not all that complicated, really. It doesn't matter why. Could be trauma, hormones, or you were just always that way. Cause is irrelevant to the label. Asexuality has nothing to do with: romantic attraction, kissing, cuddling, gender preferences, masturbation, porn, kinks, or actually having sex. It's just about sexual attraction towards othe

For sure, the story was pretty funny, fortunately there were no hurt feelings! I end up giving my I'll fitting rings to baby aces who may not have the ability to order online safely <3 May 15, 2021 at 11:44PM

I agree, far too often 😞 May 15, 2021 at 11:40PM

I was delighted to come across this beautiful description in “The Faceless Old Woman Who Secretly Lives in Your Home”, and I’m excited to see where the authors take this character! May 15, 2021 at 11:40PM

amazing!! This makes me so happy to see. We are left out of pride way too often. May 15, 2021 at 11:39PM

Asexuality is very specifically about not experiencing sexual attraction towards others. That's the entire deal. If you don't experience sexual attraction towards others, you're asexual. It's not all that complicated, really. It doesn't matter why. Could be trauma, hormones, or you were just always that way. Cause is irrelevant to the label. Asexuality has nothing to do with: romantic attraction, kissing, cuddling, gender preferences, masturbation, porn, kinks, or actually having sex. It's just about sexual attraction towards others. Some sex repulsed asexuals will use porn or masturbate even though they'd have no interest in the real thing, because with fantasy you can skip the stuff you wouldn't like in reality. The asexual spectrum basically sort of goes --- Sex Repulsed: Usually avoid sex --- #1: Repulsed by comments about sex or others having sex #2: Repulsed by the reality of having sex personally #3: Willing to have sex, but may be disguste

I like attending Pride as an ally because I love to see so many happy people comfortable being who they are. But I’ve never gone as one of the community because 1) I’m not comfortable with publicly expressing my sexuality and 2) Sometimes the acceptance of ace folks at some Pride events (especially those who may currently present cis-het) can be a little dicey. So yeah, it’s okay to not be into it. You’re not obligated to enjoy loud parades, rainbows, and half-naked (or totally naked, depending on the event!) people. Pride is an undeniably sexuality-heavy event, which can be especially uncomfortable for sex-wary aces. Just try to be sensitive when you express your opinions about it, because it’s a very special thing for a lot of folks who fought very hard to be seen and accepted. Telling people you don’t like Pride might be interpreted as “I don’t like what Pride stands for,” so be mindful when it comes up. May 15, 2021 at 11:38PM

No probs mate, practice makes perfect as they say and fake it til ya make it! May 15, 2021 at 11:37PM

Huh that's weird, usually Etsy creators wouldn't Photoshop their products and just... Show one lol? Link their Etsy? May 15, 2021 at 11:36PM

I'm too sex repulsed so I can make a light sex joke like once a year XD May 15, 2021 at 11:34PM

Shut the fuck up no one gives a shit May 15, 2021 at 11:32PM

I was looking up art and info about Queer Romantic relationships and this was in the mix. Just a happy little accident I suppose, but a good find nonetheless. May 15, 2021 at 11:31PM