I can’t forget my latest crush. I recently deleted her of IG since I kept obsessing and need to move on.... sent a Dm that I still think about her and deleted her, to take care and that no reply was needed. But she did reply extensive, which surprised me nicely. But She was like; what are you trying to say (with this) darling? . It was clear what I said in my message, but responded that I wanted her back in my life to get to know each other since the reason for the break was not accurate anymore. But after reading my dm, she went silence now for 3 days. Could she still be thinking what she wants or should I forget about it? Submitted November 01, 2020 at 12:09AM I can’t forget my latest crush. I recently deleted her of IG since I kept obsessing and need to move on.... sent a Dm that I still think about her and deleted her, to take care and that no reply was needed. But she did reply extensive, which surprised me nicely. But She was like; what are you trying to say (with this) da

It isn’t illegal per se like they won’t put you to jail for being gay(as far as I know), but they won’t recognise gay marriages and all that. I’ve heard of pride parades happing but I’ve never seen one myself. I had to purposely look it up to find out we had pride parades at all. Sh*ttyness asides, personally I’ve been seeing more and more lesbians around. Don’t know if I’m just more aware or they’re starting to come out, but I see a lot of women just being a couple in public. Also Hong Kong will be hosting the 2022 gay games (also had to look that up lol) I’m really excited to see it happen. TL;dr it’s pretty bad but there’s some good stuff happening. I’d say there’s not enough action from the government but that’s probably their last concern right now. November 01, 2020 at 12:05AM

I experience pretty bad sex repulsion and I haven't had sexual trauma either. But what I find odd is that I wasn't sex repulsed until I actually had sex. Up until then I was actually looking forward to having sexual relationships. I've been in two relationships and kept hoping in both that I would grow to enjoy it but I wasn't successful. I'm not sure where the repulsion comes from. I wonder if there's some deep subconscious shit going on where the repulsion is just another way to prevent close relationships (I also suffer from Avoidant Personality Disorder so I have a long history of pushing people away). I feel sad because I don't want to be like this. I tend to have a lot of FOMO. Sometimes I think about wanting to at least try for another relationship, but my brain goes immediately to how much it took to get into a place where I didn't gag during sex (or even kissing). I'm just gonna have to accept that I will forever find intimacy gross.

or the f word freedom November 01, 2020 at 12:00AM

You might be biromantic demisexual. October 31, 2020 at 11:51PM

you're right and I'd add that it comes from insecurity. Insecure people and insecure societies. October 31, 2020 at 11:51PM

And aphobic people generalize asexuals, there are some asexuals like me that would have sex only to have kids for example. October 31, 2020 at 11:47PM

Any specifics? October 31, 2020 at 11:43PM

More like not fucking proud hehe October 31, 2020 at 11:42PM

Not to my knowledge. If you masturbate, try doing it less often, as it can raise libido a bit. But don't decrease it so much that you get sexually frustrated, as that will only make things worse. There seems to be a lot less research out there on lowering libido than on raising it, presumably due to lack of interest, but I understand your frustration. While I don't hate having a libido, I sure wish it wasn't so damn high. October 31, 2020 at 11:41PM

I see what you did there 👀 October 31, 2020 at 11:38PM

Its so dumb. Especially when its entire strangers who act weird about it? Like ma’am I will literally never see you again why are you mad October 31, 2020 at 11:38PM

Alright! You never know! And happy Halloween! October 31, 2020 at 11:33PM

Ive been going through it often for a while now lol. Its hard to choose because of the lack of social interaction right now, but im fairly sure the answer is yes. Still thinking though! October 31, 2020 at 11:32PM

Congrats!! 😊 October 31, 2020 at 11:28PM

Holy shit. Same here. Like I no longer felt the need to be horny. That’s so weird lol October 31, 2020 at 11:28PM

Hey, I suffer very similar issues, I think it is best you seek professional help, therapist or psychiatrist.. It helped me a lot, although I still struggle. October 31, 2020 at 11:21PM

Fuck yeah! Heteromantic aces are queer as fuck and i love all of you as a non heteromantic ace! If someone won't make space for you i will shove them out of theirs :). October 31, 2020 at 11:19PM

I think the one of the first things that tipped me off was when my classmates, friends, and sister were having crushes left and right and I would wonder when was I going to like someone? Then I hit high school and the topic of who is or isn't hot would come up in conversations, and my response was always along the lines of, what is 'hot' and is there a universally hot person I can compare these people to? And I could never come up with any kind of answer for "what's your type?" As for things that could have helped: if someone had told me I might never like anyone and that's ok. And knowing what squishes (platonic crushes) were would have been VERY helpful. October 31, 2020 at 11:19PM

Take your time! This FAQ/about section is a good resource for education on asexuality and the spectrum. October 31, 2020 at 11:17PM

Ive been thinking about it more over it, but no verdict yet October 31, 2020 at 11:17PM

Ugh, yes. I'm at that age - and worse, I'm married - so I constantly get asked when I'm going to have kids. When I tell them I'm probably not, they get all shocked and upset, like I just told them I hate puppies or something October 31, 2020 at 11:12PM

Just noticed your reply. This US supreme court judge makes the Supreme Court very leaned to conservative with the new amount. She is very anti lgbt+ and is a catholic extremist (People of Prayer group). I am religious but she will take our rights away and she doesn't represent my faith at all! If you look into her story, it is wild. Edit: people of praise group October 31, 2020 at 11:08PM

Hello! I am 32F and have been single on and off for the past 2 years. In a recent conversation with a friend, she suggested that the reason I was single was the area in which I live now. On the one hand she maybe has a point, many of the men I match with work in the oil and gas field and I work in the furthest thing away from that!! Both my previous LTR were with men who work in the oil and gas field, never saw this as a problem before I have to admit! But I dunno... I feel her comment was perhaps a bit mean spirited? I refuse to believe that because I live in a certain area of Scotland I have cursed myself to remain single! I just want to know if any of you have been in a similar situation as me where friends or family advise you that your post code/address is holding you back from finding love? And if they did, did you go on to find love despite this? I feel hopeful that I will find my match and share my life with someone worthy of my time but it’s hard to remain optimistic when

Hi! 32F, and am doing the OLD thing for the first time in a while - last time I did it, it was in an unfocused manner - I didn’t know what I wanted/didn’t want much asides from finding “someone I like”. Now, I want that and more (marriage etc), and would like to be able to filter out unsuitable people - being more picky but more open-minded at the same time (for example, being open-minded about going beyond my usual type, which is artsy, intellectual and tall, but less accepting of people who aren’t ready for a relationship, give me bad vibes, making excuses for men etc), and I need some advice how to achieve that balance during the online portion: What to do with the taciturn men? Those with not much in their profile / or those that send “hey, how are you?” messages. I am between: a) giving them the benefit of the doubt - perhaps some people aren’t as expressive as others and aren’t as “marketable” (sorry, threw up in my mouth a little using that word here) or b) take them at fac

Hi im a 25 year old man and slowly starting to shed my tough shell that i built up after having had a realy realy bad relationship in the past that got me into al sorts of trouble at the age of 16. It has been a rough journey to finding out who i am and trying to be myself and confident i myself. Thing is ive always simply ben a nice kindhearted gentelmen and as such i feel like i should be playing the cute guy a bit more when i try to flirt. Btw im absolutely the worst at social interactions since i have autism yet i feel like if i know what game im playing i can kinda figure out the rules. I tried to put up the tough cool guy act for a while but i just feel like a dick every time i do. Even tho it does sortof get people there attention. Honestly i simply want companionship and someone i can trust im not looking to date. A model i just want someone to love me the same way i love and care for everyone else and as such i want to be atractive for others yet i dont know how. Im simply s

(M18) my best friends sister told her mom and brother (who’s my bestfriend) that she likes me. I had no idea that she did. Everytime I would go over she would go out of her way to try talking to me. However the only problem is that she’s 16 and I just feel like that’s too young? if she was 17 or 18 I would consider dating her but she’s 16. And well today my bestfriend told me that if I could, to take her sister out on a date, I don’t want to be rude and say no since I’ve know him and his family for years but like I don’t really want to mislead her or anything. I already told him how I feel about the situation but he said his parents don’t mind. What should I do? Submitted October 30, 2020 at 11:29PM (M18) my best friends sister told her mom and brother (who’s my bestfriend) that she likes me. I had no idea that she did. Everytime I would go over she would go out of her way to try talking to me. However the only problem is that she’s 16 and I just feel like that’s too young? if

I'm M(16) and I'm talking this girl that I've know for a while F(17) I just want to get a general knowledge of the relationship site because I don't want to go in there blind and you know mess up the relationship I'm going to have. Any advice from any couple will be great. Also what type of stuff do people talk about before they even think of dating. Just general knowledge and deep knowledge if anybody can help. Submitted October 30, 2020 at 11:33PM I'm M(16) and I'm talking this girl that I've know for a while F(17) I just want to get a general knowledge of the relationship site because I don't want to go in there blind and you know mess up the relationship I'm going to have. Any advice from any couple will be great. Also what type of stuff do people talk about before they even think of dating. Just general knowledge and deep knowledge if anybody can help.

Stay away from dating sites until you get rid of your boring, old plain personality. It’s like some of these people grew up in a farm in the middle of nowhere or in a town of only 50 people. Submitted October 30, 2020 at 11:43PM Stay away from dating sites until you get rid of your boring, old plain personality. It’s like some of these people grew up in a farm in the middle of nowhere or in a town of only 50 people.

Sorry I'm under 6ft and skinny Sorry I am average looking at best Sorry I am poor and don't have anything Sorry I have depression and anxiety and will probably fail school as a result Sorry I don't go to the gym and drive a nice car Sorry I am shy and have low self esteem Sorry my humor is weird... ...Sorry I am not good enough in your eyes and I'll never be enough, it's okay though, just something I'll have to accept. Submitted October 31, 2020 at 12:12AM Sorry I'm under 6ft and skinnySorry I am average looking at bestSorry I am poor and don't have anythingSorry I have depression and anxiety and will probably fail school as a resultSorry I don't go to the gym and drive a nice carSorry I am shy and have low self esteemSorry my humor is weird......Sorry I am not good enough in your eyes and I'll never be enough, it's okay though, just something I'll have to accept.

So, I'm new here, hi! I'm a 28 year old guy (about to turn 29 in November- fuck ) who's kind of been out of the dating scene for a while. I've tried to dip my toes back in here and there, but haven't really taken it seriously. For context, I was dating someone that I worked with back in 2017, she was a mom, divorced, and had dated another guy I never knew about after she got out of her marriage. He was a drug addict and irresponsible from the sounds of it. They lived together for sometime and he helped with her kids (why she let someone actively abusing substances and not being in a stable state of mind around her kids is something that will always escape me). So, he got locked up before her and I started dating, she never mentioned him-not once until close to when he was getting out, and decided she needed to tell me about him in case she decided to let him be around her kids. I was respectful but very, very hesitant. I always knew the boundaries she has as a par

21F here, I was dating a 20M who i met through a mutual friend. we got on super well, the dates were good, we even spoke on the phone for hours some nights, and messaged throughout the days. the chemistry was great and we had so much fun on our dates. i really thought we would be together honestly, and after a lot of bad luck with men i thought that streak had finally ended. but i was wrong apparently! so it all went downhill after we slept together. yep! u can already guess. we had sex, all was well during and after, nothing felt different and i went on my merry way. but a couple days after, he basically stops messaging me, only replying once every 24 hours or so. his energy COMPLETELY changed, and i asked whats going on to which he said he's just busy and tired. it's been over a week of this now and we haven't spoken for 2 days, and i really fear the worst; that he just wanted to sleep with me. this brings me to my main point of this post: I want to address this somehow

Hi all, 29 y/o M here. Recently I've been trying online dating due to circumstances outside of my control (COVID making it hard to meet new people and work moving me every few months). I've had more than one occasion where a girl that I'm seeing happens to flake out on a date a few hours before it happens. In one situation I had arranged a phone date with a girl I met on Tinder early in the week. Picked a time and date on Friday and she gave me her number. We kept texting daily over the course of the week like normal. Then on Friday afternoon a few hours prior to our phone date I asked if we were still on. Apparently she made other plans because she didn't hear from me regarding the date again and assumed it wasn't happening. Should I be confirming dates with girls frequently? It feels really bizarre to me that people would assume a date isn't happening because they haven't heard it brought up again instead of just asking the other person. Submitt

He canceled within hours after receiving nudes from me. I’ve been used sexually in the past, so I do not take that feeling lightly. When he canceled, he said it had to do with his emotions and made no means of rescheduling, so it made me feel like he was lying. I tried to play it cool, until he asked me if I was sure that I was ok. I decided to be straight up about it and tell him how I was feeling, but I’m afraid that I may of overreacted in the process. I attempted to drop it soon on to avoid an overreaction, so I left him on read in order to process it first. He sent a double message to ask if I was mad, so I responded to tell him that I wasn’t mad, just embarrassed. After a few message exchanges, I started to feel silly, so I apologized. I’m usually capable of controlling my emotions, but I couldn’t ignore the gut feeling that I had. I personally never cancel on people, but I know that not everyone is like me. If he had canceled under different pretenses, I would’ve been ok with i

I’ve been seeing this guy for a month now, we don’t see each other often (just once a week) but we enjoy a lot spending time together and he invites me to work from home at his place, we have dinner, cuddle, watch movies so it’s not just sex. We had the “talk” and we don’t want anything serious, so I know he’s not seeing me to pursue a long term relationship in that sense Last time I saw him was Monday and I really want to spend time with him, even just to be together and not have sex, since I’m on my period. Would it be strange for him? Do I have to tell him before hand? I don’t fear he’s appalled by the idea of women menstruating ahah but rather because he might be disappointed that we won’t have sex that day, since we’re on something casual Submitted October 30, 2020 at 11:24PM I’ve been seeing this guy for a month now, we don’t see each other often (just once a week) but we enjoy a lot spending time together and he invites me to work from home at his place, we have dinner,

I'm a 26 year-old guy who recently just got out of the relationship I had been in since I was 18. Basically I'm looking for general dating advice / how to meet women before I get back out there, as I've never really dated outside of that one relationship. For reference I'm decent-looking, more of an introvert than extrovert, and work as a resident doctor (which unfortunately means I have less free time than the average person). Seems like dating apps are the way to go now. Any suggestions on one over the other? Submitted October 30, 2020 at 11:29PM I'm a 26 year-old guy who recently just got out of the relationship I had been in since I was 18. Basically I'm looking for general dating advice / how to meet women before I get back out there, as I've never really dated outside of that one relationship.For reference I'm decent-looking, more of an introvert than extrovert, and work as a resident doctor (which unfortunately means I have less free time

So thats thestory (24M). I love(d) a girl (23F), which I met about 1.5yrs ago. We instantly connected and spend a lot of time together. Basically, I was extremely happy, looked forward to see her and to do stuff together, which is otherwise unlikely for me, because even though I would say that it is rather easy for me to connect with people, I also get easily bored, need plenty time for myself alone, and struggle to keep platonic relationships up for a long time. So I have a lot of vague friends, but basically no really close ones I would trust or open myself to. To continue the story I confessed my feelings to her after a few weeks and got "soft-rejected" the first time -speaking she said she is still into her ex. So we first stayed friends and after I felt she was open to something I tried again, but got actually real rejected - as she said we can still be "good friends", but we never recovered. It was akward for a bit, but as I see her at work the relationship

So a little back story and I’ll try to keep it short: Earlier in the month I(F23) reached out to someone(M27), someone I dated for 3 years in a pretty wonderful relationship but because of “wrong place, wrong time” sort of reasons near the end, I had to break it off, which was really hard. And a couple months later we sort of had a thing for a few months, but it was really emotionally unhealthy for the both of us, he just wanted to be friends and really unsure what he wanted I think but I was really immature and pushing that I wanted to get back with him. Overall, regardless of anything I think the both of us just weren’t ready to date anyone yet and still healing from the first breakup. So, we decided it was best if we stopped talking just to give ourselves time to heal. And it had been well over a year when I contacted him again for the first time, because I was in a much better place and I genuinely wanted to have him back in my life as a friend. It’s not often you find people w

This question probably gets asked a lot, but I’ve [21M] been on 2-3 dates a week with this girl [21F] for over a month. We’ve taken things pretty slow because we are both introverted, but the past week every time we see each other has ended up with a lot of kissing/making out. (Tbh I’m surprised we started making out this fast bc it took me 3 weeks to even hold her hand lol) last night she told me she really liked me. I feel the same way, so the next time I see her would it be appropriate to ask about putting a title on it? And if so, how would I go about doing it? (Also as an FYI I’ve seen a lot of people say after you’ve had sex and been together for months etc is the time to make it official but we both believe in abstinence so making out is probably the furthest we’ll take it) Submitted October 30, 2020 at 11:31PM This question probably gets asked a lot, but I’ve [21M] been on 2-3 dates a week with this girl [21F] for over a month. We’ve taken things pretty slow because we a

Hey guys so I [M 19] have feelings for a friend [F 19] and long story she doesn’t know how she feels about me and just wanted to be friends and see where things go, while I wanted something less platonic. This led us to having a long talk about our feelings and how we care about each other but me saying we can’t be friends so i can get over her. However we have mutual friends so I saw her often and she texted me every other day at least. I also found out through a mutual friend of ours that she talks about me and asks her friend what we did when I hang out with the friend. She also said to her that there’s a chance we could be something in the future. We also watch a show at there house weekly and when we go we sit together on the couch pretty close, and yesterday she was leaning in to me while my arm was around the couch (sorta around her). As well as little things like her looking at my lips when we talk, body language, flirty talking, her trying to hangout with me / set things up,

For a while I have foolishly dismissed other people's idea on online dating. My own experience clouded my judgement. My own ability to break up with someone three weeks ago and find a nice guy the next made me ignorant to many people's disadvantages. Psssh well I can find someone why can't you, it must be you. Foolishly I dismiss the majorities experience believing that my outlier experience is what will happen to everyone sooner or later. That is not true. I finally get it, online dating doesn't work for many. And it isn't because everyone sucks, or everyone is doing it wrong. It is because it is designed to help the few. For many (majority actually) it is an endless cesspool of incompatibility, no reactions, and people too rude to properly tell you what they want. I will say this I don't think this is how humans were meant to connect, interact, or fall in love. It is robotic, based on shallow things, and puts the already disadvantaged at a even more of a di

I don't know how much of backstory is relevant but I'm deep in my own head and could use a fresh POV. In June I ended an unhealthy 10 year relationship with someone I loved, my only ever relationship. I moved to England and unexpectedly met this girl on a dating app. Wasn't expecting anything, but we clicked immediately. Had hours-long phone calls and texted frequently leading up to our first date, where we made out a bit and made future plans. 2 months and several dates later, that has been our only physical interaction. She stopped texting nearly as much, except to arrange meet-ups. I tried to kiss her again on date 5-ish but was rejected, saying she was in a weird place. Radio silence for 10 days, I was thinking we were done and started to move on. And she hits me up for another meet-up, which goes amazing again, but I was embarrassed after the previous rejection and didn't try anything. After another good date, I left town for a few weeks. We were texting more wh

guys and girls (including the ones using online dating) i need your attention! recently i have being sooo many posts with relation to people giving up on dating (be it online or the other way) and honestly i have no one to blame but you people out there who literally just disappear out of these people's life! honestly get a grip of yourself people! why tf would you swipe right on these people in the first place? to give them false hopes? why would you lead them on initially? to make them feel soo low abt themselves when they get rejected? like can this just stop for once? you guys have just spoilt the main concept of online dating in total! i do know that dating apps consist of a lot of people who are looking for either hookups and a few people who r looking for a serious relationship, but people this doesn't mean you play around with the app. don't agree to making plans if you really don't like the person! rather what you guys actually do is end up ghosting these lov

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So basically I like this guy and I sort of met him through joining a poker society but now I’m not sure how to initiate a conversation because of how the poker nights go. For context, it’s kind of a hit or miss situation when going to these poker nights because I could end up on the same table as the guy, or on a completely different table with other people. I do see him sometimes when I’m walking somewhere because I live on campus, but it’s kind of awkward because I don’t know him well enough to say hi. That and I am quite shy with new people so it’s kind of a tricky situation. So, I’m not sure if I have a chance to be able to talk to this guy. Submitted October 31, 2020 at 12:15AM So basically I like this guy and I sort of met him through joining a poker society but now I’m not sure how to initiate a conversation because of how the poker nights go.For context, it’s kind of a hit or miss situation when going to these poker nights because I could end up on the same table as th

A friend and I hung out. We joke around a lot. This is a convo that happened when we were sitting very close alone on a small bench. Me: Sorry! apologizing for touching him after he told me not do touch him (I sincerely wasn’t trying to push him to do anything he was uncomfortable with. I was just very attracted to him that day. My subconscious kept insisting I touch him while in conversation. I apologized every time I touched him.) Him: One of these times, I’m just gonna leave go off, yell and leave! Me: in a sarcastic and funny tone If you did that, I’d cry. I’m cryinnnnnggg. Him: said in a light hearted way If you keep touching me, I’m gonna make you cry. Me: starts blushing It got quiet between the both of us. Then we moved onto something else. Was he flirting with me? Submitted October 31, 2020 at 12:16AM A friend and I hung out. We joke around a lot. This is a convo that happened when we were sitting very close alone on a small bench.Me: Sorry! apologizing for touc

Ooh, I should try that. Imagine having an ace flag for a curtain! October 29, 2020 at 11:58PM

Thank you for making this - this is really, really good. I wish someone showed me 15-20 years ago. October 29, 2020 at 11:58PM

Thanks <3 it's hard when no one gets it October 29, 2020 at 11:52PM

i get it. it’s your choice, but if you feel unhappy you should follow what makes you feel appreciated and happy and accepted. either way if you ever need to vent my dms r open October 29, 2020 at 11:50PM

Aye! Np. Glad I can help October 29, 2020 at 11:48PM

I've made it clear that continuing this way isn't sustainable, and he agrees. Neither of us are ready to call it quits, but I'm also really fucking tired of sitting by myself. I also had (minor, planned, outpatient) surgery last week, so I'm grumpy and sore and home all the time, and the kids are up my ass, and the fall weather is hitting, and I'm just in a pissy mood. He really is a good guy, but if this is our future were going to have to find another route. October 29, 2020 at 11:48PM

Reporting it to the administration doesn't mean that the person needs to be fired. It can also be used as a way to tell the administration that they need to train all of the teachers on the subject. October 29, 2020 at 11:47PM

Okay, thanks! October 29, 2020 at 11:47PM

Its the Demi Romantic flag October 29, 2020 at 11:47PM

Also this is really personal but I need to know exactly haha I never ever have felt horny I guess you could say, I dont find the need to masturbate or the want. (Sorry if that's too TMI haha) And with previous boyfriends I have done sexual type things, but only for their enjoyment Of course it feels good! And I like it but for the life of me i cannot explain this. I'm not disgusted by sexual activity but i just dont feel the attraction for it, it feels good like I said but i dont necessarily need or want, or ever feel like having it When my friends talk about stuff like this i dont understand it at all, and i really wish I did October 29, 2020 at 11:40PM

Loki is just an icon, for everything, he's that good. October 29, 2020 at 11:40PM

All my friends told me in highschool that they thought I was ace. When I came out like a year after graduation they were not shocked lol October 29, 2020 at 11:34PM

you know him best, i hope this works out for the both of you. it’s time for him to develop as a person too. at the end of the day it seems like he’s seeing this more of a “it was more convenient before” deal than “you were literally lying to him and yourself before” October 29, 2020 at 11:28PM

Yes!!! Grow the pigtails!!! Also color your beard like this next time you dye it October 29, 2020 at 11:28PM

THIS HAPPENED TO ME WITH A FANFIC October 29, 2020 at 11:28PM

Your beard looks legendary bruv October 29, 2020 at 11:27PM

He's very honest and up front. He's usually pretty receptive if I tell him he's being an asshole. He knows he gets caught up in his own head and forgets other people. Usually I let him mope in the basement for a few weeks and he bounces back. Honestly, I probably need to ovary up and tell him to reel it in. October 29, 2020 at 11:26PM

What does the second flag mean??? Sry for my lack of knowledge October 29, 2020 at 11:25PM

Thanks mate :3 it really is a great beard and a great story. I hope it made you happy October 29, 2020 at 11:22PM

Loki being an ace icon too October 29, 2020 at 11:20PM

to be fair, your avy is classy and so is your beard October 29, 2020 at 11:18PM

Thanks, really helps to understand! October 29, 2020 at 11:13PM

sighs i’m sorry you gotta deal with this. he’s making this about himself and completley ignoring your place in it. have you guys at all considered couples therapy? it sounds like you need a space to be able to say your piece and have it heard with someone there to stop him and say “this ain’t about you”. i obviously don’t know you but i’m like, secondhand proud of you for going through with this. recognizing who you are and living by it can be hard sometimes (especially in such a hypersexualized world) n you’re doing your thing. im really happy for you October 29, 2020 at 11:12PM

I (19m) have been seeing a girl (21f) for almost 2 months. We clicked on our dates and have been falling for each other but... she does an extremely demanding university degree, and it takes up a lot of her time. This leaves her little opportunity to see her friends, let alone for us to spend time together. Our country has just entered another lockdown and I realistically won’t be able to see her because she lives across the city (about 50 minutes from my house). I do a pretty relaxed degree in university, so I have a lot of free time. One of her family members has also recently had some health problems so that has her stressed. Once the lockdown is over she has exams and won’t have much time either. We both are really into each other but the circumstances are difficult. Both of us are torn whether to end it now to prevent hurt feelings or to see where it goes. Can anyone provide some advice for this situation? Submitted October 29, 2020 at 12:08AM I (19m) have been seeing a g

I need some help with some things I've been overthinking. I've recently seen this guy and I like him alot he seems pretty chill and we went skating when we first met up it was super fun. I want to hang out with him again so I asked if he wanted to smoke this weekend he said he was busy with work and stuff like that. For a bit of a background my past relationships haven't worked out because I can't see hints when someone wants to drop me (I don't pick up on social cues and have a hard time thinking people want to be around me) so I usually come off as clingy when I ask if they want to hang out and they are sitting there like "I've sent this bitch three dry snaps why can't she take a hint" when in actual fact I'm not clingy I just can't pick up hints, anyways back to the main point he said he was busy with work and I completely understand and should I text him next week to see if he wants to smoke? I know this is gonna look stupid and childi

The guy I’ve been seeing for almost two months suggested a casual night in (we’ve slept together already) to watch movies and get delivery and called it “hanging out”. At what point into a relationship should you stop being concerned about whether spending time together is a date or hanging out? We have lots of fun date-dates like dinner, activities, etc, but it’s getting cold and covid is bad again where we are. Everything online says “hanging out” is not a “date”. Is that still valid after 8 dates? Am I being crazy? Submitted October 29, 2020 at 12:12AM The guy I’ve been seeing for almost two months suggested a casual night in (we’ve slept together already) to watch movies and get delivery and called it “hanging out”. At what point into a relationship should you stop being concerned about whether spending time together is a date or hanging out? We have lots of fun date-dates like dinner, activities, etc, but it’s getting cold and covid is bad again where we are.Everything onl

Women are not complex We are humans and the exact same as men. If you like a women and she clearly doesn't hate you then all you do is ask her out. If she says no then you leave her alone, don't harass her, don't "chase" her. She's not trying to play hard to get, she's not unsure. She doesn't like you so leave her alone. Just because a girl is friendly to you doesn't mean she likes you. Just because she text you, views ur story, hugs you, touches ur arm it doesn't mean anything. The amount of men on this subreddit that assume a women can't even look at a man without liking him is crazy and ridiculous. Just cause someone is friendly and playful doesn't man anything. Sure over touching can ve seen as a sign of someone liking you but her tapping your arm from time to time doesn't mean shit. If you like a girl, just ask her out. Don't try and investigate, don't try and read her body language cause no one knows how to. Ask

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Thank you! That is helpful. I'm not sure which one I am.. but I'm working to figure it out. October 28, 2020 at 11:52PM

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While everyone else is finding to be accepted by society itself, we're still fighting to be accepted by our own community. October 28, 2020 at 11:48PM

honestly idk if theres much she can help with since sexual attraction is really dependent on how you feel. Im 16 and never brought it up to my mom just because i knew shed be biased against it. i spent a long time just keeping it in mind, thinking about what i feel towards crushes and what id catagorize it as. honestly its pretty hard for us to be sure because how can we know that we dont feel something we've never felt? its hard but asking someone else wont make it much easier. thats just my take of course, i could be wrong and it could be different for you. October 28, 2020 at 11:43PM

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I'm friends with a lot of queer people, and that's not my experience (some of my friends are gay, lesbian, and trans, I am nb and ace myself), and was involved in my alma mater's LGBTQ+ club without issue. It's important to recognize that just because some people are assholes, they don't represent the entire community. Vilifying an entire group for the actions of a few exclus toes the line with bigotry. Aphobia won't be solved by responding with homophobia. October 28, 2020 at 11:29PM

I'm a kinky ace, we exist :) October 28, 2020 at 11:23PM

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Pardon my ignorance, but I thought ace people can have fetishes - I could be mixing it up with kink ig but I know there are a good deal of aces who enjoy sex and have those sort of preferences, but still don't experience any sexual attraction. October 28, 2020 at 11:13PM

That's valid too October 28, 2020 at 11:11PM

Feelings are overall complicated. And being bi seems to be complicated for me as I like toxic men and women intimidate me haha eventually you find where you settle with yourself October 28, 2020 at 11:09PM

So sex is important for them because they've been persecuted for years for their desire to have sex with the "wrong" gender. It shouldn't be taken this way but a lot of people might take it in the same sort of way someone responding to a trans person that they don't feel gender at all. Trans people feel gender quite strongly and are horribly treated and have had to fight to validate their own existence on the basis of that. An agender person coming along and stating that gender is a thing they've never felt and they feel like gender isn't necessary isn't explicitly invalidating trans and gender queer people but it gets awfully close to feeling like that. It sucks and is unfortunately not an abnormal human response. Some people see lesbians as a statement that men aren't needed in the world that they think themselves above needing men. Some people think that ace people are a statement about their morality. Straight or not some people have built a