You should have this conversation with him. But generally speaking, it’s up to you. If he says he doesn’t want to have sex with you ever again, then it’s up to you to see if that’s where the your line is drawn. February 22, 2021 at 12:02AM

Thanks for your help. The biggest surprise I got from this was that couples who break up don't talk any more. I really thought he was just acting strangely and my behavior was normal, but I guess it was the other way around? I actually got pretty worried for him in those first few weeks when we broke up because I thought he was going through stuff. And I guess he was, but not what I thought it would be. I kind of feel bad now that I realize the break up must have hurt for him. I'll be honest, whenever I see breakups in media, I always thought maybe they were exaggerated for the sake of laughs or sympathy? Or that there was a deeper reason for the hurt, like being cheated on? But the idea that a breakup itself could hurt is news to me. It must sound crazy but that's unfortunately just how I feel. When I broke up with him all I felt was relief that it went well, and happiness that I was living true to myself. Thank you again! I'm sorry to hear about your own experience

No, I didn't think it was passive aggressive. I was gonna delete it anyways once I knew one way or another. February 21, 2021 at 11:56PM

Yes!! It’s such a new relationship feeling February 21, 2021 at 11:53PM

I get reallly strong romantic attraction but no sexual whatsoever. Can confirm I’ve had butterflies so strong before that I felt sick. February 21, 2021 at 11:53PM

Asexuality comes with grieving the allosexual you tried to be for too long. I was much better taking on my asexuality than my aromantcism. I'm not... I am not at peace with that. I guess it took all the time that I had to dismantle my programming and cut out the bits of code which I installed in imitate sexual attraction and realise that without it I was still me, I was more me, and I was functional. Lots of introspection and gentleness with myself. But I think you can't be gentle with yourself because your boyfriend won't let you. He may not mean to but he is pressuring you. Why on God's green earth can't he just accept the way YOU want to have sex? You want to do stuff to him to make him happy, cool, he should let you and not reciprocate since you don't want to and it makes you feel bad about yourself. Sex should have ENTHUSIASTIC consent and you are just not enthusiastic. You should talk to him and tell him about what you're comfortable with and not. I

Sex is often a kind of puritan/moral issue. A lot of people are shamed for having sexual wants and needs -several of the biggest religions consider it a Bad outside of very specifically delineated circumstances. And they tell people to Feel Bad for wanting sex - They punish people (generally women) for having sex. But we're over here, just vibin. It's like if you wanted to punch people in the face, at least once every week. And you felt guilty about it for a while, but accepted that it's a normal, healthy part of your life to want to punch someone in the face every so often. And here comes someone saying "ya, I never feel the need to punch someone in the face. No judgement that you do feel that way, I just don't feel it." even if they're not saying you're bad for wanting to, there's a voice in your head saying punching people is bad. Even if you haven't ever punched someone who didn't agree to it beforehand, (like in a martial arts spar) y

By their own twisted logic they also inferred that other lesbians should be her only support... guess people can be homophobic forever against her then because f community. -_- February 21, 2021 at 11:45PM

oh, I didn't realize what you were saying. Didn't mean for that to sound passive aggressive if it did. February 21, 2021 at 11:44PM

Yeah, though sometimes the sequel isn't as good or as fun or just doesn't bring the same feeling by the end. February 21, 2021 at 11:44PM

Being asexual is only about not feeling sexual attraction. You can still be sex repulsed and feel attraction. Or maybe you are mistaking your attraction for being sexual when it's not? There are a lot of people in couple who end up not enjoying sex with their partner and it makes them think they are asexual when really they just aren't attracted to them anymore. February 21, 2021 at 11:43PM

Fair. I'm gonna delete that comment due to spoiler content. February 21, 2021 at 11:42PM

I really liked one comment that someone made to me recently, "Demisexuals are the bridges for asexuals, because demis experience both sides." February 21, 2021 at 11:41PM

Completely fine and not comprehending, split about 50/50 i would say. Mostly older family members that seem to have trouble understanding. February 21, 2021 at 11:41PM

Yeah, a lot of people say it. But were you ever ready for a test, really ready? Because personally, there's nothing I've ever been ready for. I told myself, I told everyone else I was ready, but I never felt ready. How do they say? The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago; the second best time is today. Sometimes you know something, but you need someone else to point out to you that you know - after all, it's not about knowing the things, it's about the feeling. Hearing that your feeling is what the difference consists off; I think that can go a long way. (btw, I don't feel like I actually said anything right now, but in my experience, people occasionally still find me helpful. I don't know why, but I'll take it. You know?) February 21, 2021 at 11:40PM

I'm demisexual, which is in the asexual spectrum but different. My brother and mother had the same reaction, "But isn't everyone is like that?" It's not as bad as it sounds, because frankly I'm fairly certain that both of them are demisexual. Neither of them can understand why anyone would ever cheat or be sexually attracted to anyone other than their partners. They don't understand how anyone could be anything other than demisexual. They were supportive of it, just didn't see how it was an issue. I did have one friend who kept trying to convince me over and over that she read that "demisexuals are all pansexual, because gender isn't the point". I eventually got frustrated with that response, considering I'm hetero and demisexual. It comes to a point where they are negating your specific experience with stuff written by someone who didn't know the full picture. (The blogger was probably pan and demi and figured every demi must

No, it's tilvald (?) the wanderer. I wouldn't want to ruin the game for someone! February 21, 2021 at 11:31PM

Mom: You're already 21, when are you going to start dating? Me: Mom I'm just really not into men. Or women. Or anyone really. Mom: Oh well that's because you haven't found the right person yet. This is literally all the conversation I've had with my mom regarding this. It was the first time she asked me about dating and we've never talked about it since. February 21, 2021 at 11:31PM

Asexuality is specifically about a lack of sexual attraction for others. That's it. If right now, you lack sexual attraction for others, then you are asexual in this moment. If right now, you are repulsed by sex, then you are sex repulsed in this moment. That's fairly simple. Right now you are a sex repulsed asexual. Done! But a better question is "Why are you sex repulsed and asexual? How long has this been? How long will it be?" Many sex repulsed asexuals have forced themselves to have sex because "that's what people do", or "it's expected", or other reasons. Sometimes they start off mildly sex repulsed and it gets more intense as they try to force themselves to act against their nature. Asexuality is based on sexual attraction for others. "Cause" is irrelevant. There are a number of different things that can "cause" asexuality, including drugs, hormones, trauma, and/or simply always having been that way. The same

Depends of the song, but it does bother me to an extent. I prefer music without lyrics, and mostly listen to niche genres instead of mainstream stuff. I might listen to mainstream stuff mors if 90% of wasn't about sex, but you can't really beat video game OSTs imo, so... Mother 3 soundtrack for the 100th time it is! February 21, 2021 at 11:24PM

99% sure the emails are from a bot, I refuse to believe an actual person types like that lol February 21, 2021 at 11:18PM

If you don't mind. February 21, 2021 at 11:18PM

It's a Skyrim thing. The only video I could find that showed their singing skills had one dying so... https://youtu.be/DSiBAuIIxIk February 21, 2021 at 11:18PM