I dont feel like ppl will get this, but all I want is a soulmate best friend who will move to Norway with me and travel around the world and cuddle under blankets when we watch movies and defend me against all haters. No sex necessary; and it can be a woman or man (trans included) or non-binary. I dont care about that. August 06, 2021 at 12:01AM

I’m ace with maladaptive daydreaming disorder, so no aphantasia for me. My visualizing and daydreams are so vivid to the point of where it almost feels real. August 06, 2021 at 12:01AM

Oh that’s need. I can relate. I only recently started taking the time to read this subreddit and commenting since I wanted to see what is discussed. This Reddit has been comforting to me since it makes me feel less alone and less like a glitch in the system haha August 05, 2021 at 11:58PM

Card suits were def a thing during 2012?—2014 era ace community on Tumblr, but as far as I remember, it generally referred to romantic attraction (since the "ace" was stand-in for the entire ace community). Spade for aroaces, hearts for alloroaces, diamonds for demiroaces, and clubs for greyroaces. I don't know when/if that changed (ie referring to different levels of sexual attraction) but since Tumblr ran the ace community off I haven't really seen much mention of this sort of thing anymore. August 05, 2021 at 11:52PM

👍👍 August 05, 2021 at 11:51PM

We do use the other suits, just not as commonly. Hearts are for romantic aces, diamonds for demis, and clubs I don't quite remember but I think it was grays or questioning. August 05, 2021 at 11:47PM

Just noticed his controller is ace colours (look at 1:00) August 05, 2021 at 11:46PM

This right here. That’s exactly it August 05, 2021 at 11:46PM

Awh tysm <3 August 05, 2021 at 11:45PM

There’s diamonds, clubs, and hearts. I don’t remember what each represent, I think hearts is for demisexuals, clubs for greysexuals, I don’t remember the other one. I think this is what you’re asking? I don’t know, correct me if I’m wrong August 05, 2021 at 11:44PM

thanks for your input! that was quite helpful :) August 05, 2021 at 11:42PM

Here are even more hugs! I hope someday soon you will be able to be free and live your best live as the beautiful person you are August 05, 2021 at 11:42PM

You’re similar to me, except I’ve never tried sex or a relationship, so I can’t really test the theory. You have tested the theory and the results seem to be ace-spec. Maybe aego. August 05, 2021 at 11:41PM

Yes please 😞 August 05, 2021 at 11:38PM

I'm not really sure it's my place to give advice about anxiety since I'm not a therapist and I don't really know you, but I can give more of my own experience in a way that will hopefully be helpful. No, I was never anxious. After our first date I knew he was "the one." I don't know how to explain it - I think "the one" narratives are often super toxic, but that's just how I felt. I knew I was don't dating and I'd found a person for me. Haven't felt different at all since, even when things have been difficult. When we started our relationship, my partner didn't know he was ace. He is pretty ambivalent about identifying as "ace" at all - he recognizes that his experience matches asexuality almost to a T, but he honestly just thinks he's normal and everyone else is weird haha. But when we started dating, he was very sexually inexperienced. He was open to trying because he liked me and had FOMO and it was new, bu...

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thanks! i wasn't familiar with the term aegosexual, i'm gonna look into that. also thanks for reading my weirdly tmi text and helping me out! August 05, 2021 at 11:27PM

I am so sorry you have to go through this, I’m sending some love and hugs (if you want them) August 05, 2021 at 11:26PM

People can have sex without having sexual attraction, action doesn’t equal attraction. There are a number of reasons why am asexual would have sex, such as pleasing their partner, wanting to have kids, doing it because it feels good, etc. August 05, 2021 at 11:25PM

Well whether you enjoy sex and desire sex as you said is entirely irrelevant. You would be what I describe as a sex favourable ace. I would call you aegosexual (a form of asexuality where one enjoys sexual fantasies but not interested in doing it IRL) but you don't exactly fit the latter part. But I would definitely categorise you as asexual or at least somewhere in the spectrum. August 05, 2021 at 11:25PM

Ooh a whole final paper on asexuality sounds like a good way to prepare for lots of debate-ish situations I bet your professor learnedsomething from it. Also, good for him for acknowledging he didn't know instead of making assumptions and giving misinformation to the class. August 05, 2021 at 11:25PM