Hi, I (21m) recently broke up with my 2nd girlfriend and a while ago I got given a note from a girl who was a customer where I work, the note had her name number and asking for a coffee date, I know nothing about her apart from her name and looks so I'm not sure how to approach a date with her? My previous only other 2 relationships were from online dating apps so I knew more than I know about this girl, I'm unsure what I am going to say to her, should I just say the usual "what do you like to do?" "what's a day in the life of... like?" etc or do I go right into asking her age? How can I even start talking to her over text? I could message and say basically that I'm single now and I would be interested on meeting up for the coffee date but how can I follow that up rather than say" how are you" etc I am overthinking this alot as its a first to be asked out by someone I don't know but I'd like some input if possible please and than...

I've started using the app about 2-3 years ago. I was very reluctant because I believed that love happens when you least expect it and randomly (at least it did for me in the past) but with Covid and me also living in a new country with a limited number of acquaintances and outing possibilities, I was inclined to start. I was unsuccessful at first. Barely getting any matches and also, when I did and I did send the first message, they would often unmatch or simply did not respond. What is important is that I am also a scientist and believe in trial and error so I did reinstall the app a couple of times, refreshing my account, and attempting different things. Notable is also that I am a high functioning autist so I tend to overanalyze things and, according to my therapist, live in my head. And my looks have to be taken into account as well; I am bald, 29M, with an average body though decently tall (185 cm). All in all, an average looking dude. The only compliments I receive in reg...

I tolerated them for years to try and feel normal but I just hate it. Very slight tongue is okay if it’s someone I like and trust. I went on a date with a guy who used a LOT and it’s kind of what made me realise I’m ace lol October 14, 2022 at 12:07AM

I became a friend with a very good guy and we became close friends over the past few months. There’s a girl in our church girl I’m interested in and she seems interested in me too. I was taking it slowly and going to meetings and social events with the church group. My friend saw me how my relationship with his ex is developing so he told me that if I’m going to approach her then he will distance his self from me. I didn’t know they were dating and they broke up months before i met any of them. It was mutual decision and they are both good people and they are still friends. He seems that he still has feelings for her. I don’t want to lose his friendship over something might be uncertain ( she might not have feelings for me and she is just being nice). I feel the right thing to do is just stay friends with her and not approach her, even though we have a lot in common and I don’t want to jeopardize my relationship with my church group. Like ,out of the girls in the world, God has ...

Not sure what it is being of foreign descent I do feel like there’s stereotypes people have told me they assumed I was one way, but when they met me they were pleasantly surprised. I mean I was born in America With most dating being online what can I do. I feel like I would have to shoot some sort of talking video for them to know what I’m like. It feels so extra to do that. I don’t think anyone reads the bio anyways. I try to schedule a call or just call anyways and they decline or don’t respond. When I do manage to either meet them in person or talk to them their whole view changes, which is fine better that than the other way around. What can I do to make it less of an uphill battle to get to that point. Your energy and personality aren’t necessarily prioritized online. Submitted October 14, 2022 at 12:03AM Not sure what it is being of foreign descent I do feel like there’s stereotypes people have told me they assumed I was one way, but when they met me they were pleasantly...

As an asexual, I literally can't empathize with the sentiment that "sex before marriage ruins lives" 🤣 It just doesn't compute. The only emotion I have attached to sex is disgust. I suppose allos get emotionally linked with sexual partners, and that might be why it "ruins their lives?" 🤔 They can't move on like aces can, I guess. October 13, 2022 at 11:16PM