I’m originally from State A but moved to State B a year ago. Started dating a guy a few months ago from State A. I decided recently I want to move back to State A since my family/friends are there and I’m looking to transfer jobs. Coincidentally my bf’s roommate is moving out and so he’s offered for me to move in with him. We’ve spent maybe 2 weeks together in-person. Moving advantages include cost and location. Potential problems include introducing cats and simply not getting along well. Tl;dr Dating a guy for a few months long-distance, have spent 2 weeks together in person, and he’s offered me to move in with him in my home state. What should I consider before making a decision? Submitted August 07, 2020 at 11:54PM I’m originally from State A but moved to State B a year ago. Started dating a guy a few months ago from State A. I decided recently I want to move back to State A since my family/friends are there and I’m looking to transfer jobs. Coincidentally my bf’s roommate ...

So my gf (22F) broke up with me (21M) almost a month ago, the process of the breakup lasted about up until a few days ago. Officially over, she's not coming back. I treated her so well and always tried my best with her, i loved her so much. But she obviously didnt appreciate me. So after the breakup, she told me that she understands how i feel but wants to be left alone. I saie okay no problem, and left her alone....for 5 days. The no contact thing was killing me, it had been a whole month since id seen or heard her. I knew where she worked because she was my gf and we knew a lot about each other. So out of impulse, i called where she works just so i could hear her voice because i was so upset. I felt awful about it, and hung up immediately when she answered. She later found out it was me and called me a freak and a weirdo for calling her at work, and then she acted like i didnt know where she worked just to make me seem weirder when she literally told me one night. I told her i w...

I'm a 25 year old woman. I've never been in a relationship because most of teenage and adult years were occupied with extreme social anxiety, depression and very low self esteem. The low self esteem resulted because of my parents especially my mom, calling me fat and telling me that clothes for girls my age don't really look good on me. I spend my teenage years wearing clothes that were made for women in their 40s, I never knew how to take care of my appearance so I never bothered. I used to binge eat when stressed a lot or purge, my weight fluctuated between severely anorexic to really overweight so i never knew my own body. I thought that guys my own age would never be interested in me (and I was right) so I spent most of my time alone, and that hasn't really changed except the fact that now I'm getting treatment for my mental issues and I'm a little more confident with myself. Still though, my dating life is non existent and my mom is making my mental health...

Went to meet someone and we both agreed it was casual because she travels, but before hand we talked for like 4 hours on the phone and we had discussed what we wanted to do the night of. I had such good vibes and she even trusted me enough to book her hotel for us (IE give me the money before hand). During our convo she told me she enjoyed strawberries so I went out on got a box of chocolate covered strawberries as a gift. We had both discussed that we didn't want this to be a one night stand, more of a FWB I had mentioned that I thought she was a cool person and I felt like we both actually liked each other so I was curious if she was totally against any potential relationships and she said she wasn't sure and I was like no worries was just curious. Anyways show up at the hotel get the room for us, wait for her to arrive. She gets there everything seems great having good convo hugging, I give her the strawberries. I'm feeling really positive and then out of nowhere she sa...

So Im a little out of my comfort zone. Usually when Im talking to/dating someone in those initial few weeks/couple of months, I talk to them basically daily. I havent done -that- much dating though. Most of it has been long distance. Well, Ive been talking to someone new, who is actually semi nearby. I know him pretty well as a person. He sometimes pulls away a little bit. I think him and his ex's talked mostly every few days. Im pretty sure he likes me. I saw him last Friday, we talked for like 2 hrs on the phone Tuesday, we usually send a few msgs back and forth most days. But sometimes I hit a day (like today) where I just havent heard from him. We're friends on most social media and discord (we've been friends awhile first) and I know he's...around...just not initiating conversation? And I know if I said hi, he'd respond. But I want to make sure theres enough space that he also feels like initiating, etc. I sort of end up playing this mental game with myself...

Throwaway account because he uses reddit. This is also my(22f) first reddit post ever so I’m sorry if I do anything incorrect. I’ve been on and off with my bf(27), who I will call Matt, for over a year now. It’s sometimes hard because it’s long distance, but we’ve made it work and it’s not too much of a problem for us. We broke up recently due to me not calling him often enough, but since then I have been steadily meeting his needs. So things now are fine, just working through it. But I’ll start by saying he’s honestly great all around. We’re compatible in many ways and overall we just enjoy each other a lot. Because of the distance, we video chat often. Last night, I was going out with my girlfriends and her bf and his friends and I called Matt before I went out and as I was getting ready. I showed him what I was wearing and he was a little taken aback. To be clear, I was wearing a body suit that is pretty low cut and some jeans. He asked if that was what I was wearing and I said y...

So me and this girl have been friends for a couple years and since the end of 2019 have gotten really close been on little dates but nothing ever official we spent a lot of time together and I learned a lot about her like her anxiety depression low self esteem verbally abusive father dying grandpa and sexual assault She has said that she loves me and that I always make her happy I also adore her shes amazing and everything I could ever want but since shes starting counseling and just got a social worker as well as the place she works is falling under new management so she doesn't know if she will have a job and her grandfather has 3 months left she says she is too stressed out right now which I understand completely The issue for me is since then she hasn't reached out to me much and when we do talk it's clear shes uncomfortable for some reason I wish I could help but I just dont understand what is all happening I just idk I'm completely lost in what I should do shou...

I've always been awkward around people, and this is the first time I've actually been interested in dating someone. So even though I don't know her very well, I feel good about giving it a shot. But after today, I just feel exhausted. I keep looking for an excuse to slip her my number, and my attempts to put myself out there resulted only in me humiliating myself. I had to talk to her about a customer, and I approached her confidently, but I'm just not good at talking to people, so it ended with me sort of rambling, her staring at me blankly, then me walking away abruptly out of embarrassment. I heard another coworker say something about not even understanding what I said lol. Part of the reason it was so awkward in the first place is because I didn't really need to talk to her about it, and because I knew I could come across the wrong way, and anyway... it was just a shitshow. So yeah, I have the confidence and desire to make this happen, but both my confidence ...

I’ve been as patient as I possibly could with this girl. She wanted time to get herself together and get it feels like an eternity, pretty sure I got stood up or I’m just impatient. Either way I think I’ll admit defeat, I’m cursed smh. Submitted August 08, 2020 at 12:10AM I’ve been as patient as I possibly could with this girl. She wanted time to get herself together and get it feels like an eternity, pretty sure I got stood up or I’m just impatient. Either way I think I’ll admit defeat, I’m cursed smh.

I had been talking to this girl for over a month (both 28) and we finally had our first date on Sunday afternoon which I thought went really well. We hugged at the end of the date and she said she’d love to meet up again sometime. I asked her to text me when she got home, which she did and I replied right away to her, essentially both saying we had a really fun time. But I stupidly didn’t mention anything about a second date. To not appear needy or anything, I decided to wait 48 hours to text again, so I texted her Tuesday night asking how her week was, the way we usually talk, and she didn’t text me back. Did I wait too long to ask her for a second date? Could she have assumed that I wasn’t interested enough? Submitted August 08, 2020 at 12:12AM I had been talking to this girl for over a month (both 28) and we finally had our first date on Sunday afternoon which I thought went really well. We hugged at the end of the date and she said she’d love to meet up again sometime. I ask...

Over the past year I’ve gained 30 lbs. Prior to gaining the weight, I had lost 30 lbs. so I just effectively gained all of the weight back. I think it was a combination of 1. Starting an SSRI 2. A bad break up 3. Starting and losing a few jobs 4. Starting university 5. And generally not making an effort to eat healthily. I’m not happy with my body and I’m not confident at all. I don’t think I’d feel comfortable dating at the size I am right now. But I also feel like if I don’t date, then I can just keep putting off losing weight. Almost as if I won’t really have a good enough reason to lose the weight. I also feel like I’m running out of time. So I’m stuck. Between attempting to start dating now, waiting until I reach my goal weight, or waiting until I’m far enough along that I’m confident in my weight loss. I just know that I’ll keep making excuses not to start or giving up if I don’t have a goal in mind. Is there anyone out there who is in or has been in my situation? Submitt...

The girl (21) in my (23) friend group that I have been hooking up with and like is leaving for school in four days. We both seem to like each other, but I personally won't confess my feelings for obvious reasons. She's told our friend that she "vibes with me well" so I'll take it as she feels the same way about me. We are planning on tripping on LSD in my backyard (camping in a tent) before she goes, but I don't know if I should hit her up first about it. I set up a collaborative playlist on Spotify for us to make, and though she saw it and seemed pretty excited that I added some songs already, she hasn't added any herself. I've always been the one to initiate contact with her, and it makes me feel like I'm the only one who cares about hanging out. It's weird, because 1/2 of the times that we plan on hanging outside of the group she flakes last second. When we do hang out alone, we connect very well and have a great time together. It leaves ...

So my boyfriend (28M) and I (26F) are on a long distance relationship and will see each other in Paris in a couple days, for a couple days. I was just thinking it would be nice to surprise him in a sexy way (such as telling him I'm not wearing underwear?) but I'm not willing to go commando on a plane, especially considering what we're going through with this freaking pandemic. Any hot/romantic ideas I could come up with that are not as tacky/irresponsible? PS: We'll meet at the airport and then check in to our hotel. Submitted August 08, 2020 at 12:17AM So my boyfriend (28M) and I (26F) are on a long distance relationship and will see each other in Paris in a couple days, for a couple days. I was just thinking it would be nice to surprise him in a sexy way (such as telling him I'm not wearing underwear?) but I'm not willing to go commando on a plane, especially considering what we're going through with this freaking pandemic.Any hot/romantic ideas I...

I've been speaking to a guy for about a week and we've really hit it off. The first 3 days were via a dating app where we met, followed by 4 days via text after he asked for my number. We'll speak to the phone tomorrow after a week of texting. I did think this was slow progress but thought maybe he's shy. Here's the confusing thing - he sent me a screenshot of his homepage so I could see a notification, I was surprised to see a man in the center of his wall paper. I asked who it was and he said it was his friend who he took a week road trip with last year. Setup = some mountains and a lake and the friend walking out of the water looking down and with sun silhouetted (fully clothed, but with trousers rolled to the knees). It's quite a close up photo, not like he's a dot in the distance, but the main focus of the picture. This came up as a huge red flag to me or am I overthinking this? Tldr: why does the guy I'm speaking to (30F, 29M) has his male frie...

I really dont understand why people dont accept ace/aro folx into grsm groups such as lgbt+. The whole point of the lgbt+ community is to be there for people who arent as cis/het/allo. I havent personally struggled because im ace/arospec, but im not staight or cis either. But ive seen plenty of hate twords ace/aro folx. Either people telling us sex makes us whole, or telling us we have to marry to be happy. Insults of immaturity, or saying we just need a good fucking to fix us. Western society deems monogamous sexfilled marriages to produce babies make us human, make us whole, make us good people. And anyone who disagrees on that is wrong, will never find love, shouldn't be accepted in any society or community. We have our own struggles. We are a romantic and/or sexual minority. We belong in GRSM communities. August 08, 2020 at 12:05AM

First of all, I'm sorry this happened to you. I hope you're in a safer and happier place. I can't tell you what you are for sure, bit you said in your post you have never felt sexual attraction, and that's all it means to be asexual. Some asexual people have and enjoy sex, some are sex repulsed, some enjoy masturbating some don't. It sounds to me that you are aseuxal and sex repulsed. Trauma may affect your views in it now, but maybe you also always were, many people who have gone through trauma use the term and that's completely fine. If someday you work through it and get a different view on it, it's fine to change labels, and it's also fine to use it forever if you feel like it fits you. Welcome. Also, I hope you're getting help to work through the trauma, op, you don't have to hurt forever. Wishing you the best. August 07, 2020 at 11:43PM

except when it's my bitch 😏 August 07, 2020 at 11:38PM

Its a real shame. Despite all his brilliance they could only see one thing about him. August 07, 2020 at 11:26PM

You're saying 'I'd tap that' in OP's context isn't a joke? In both cases they're jokes. August 07, 2020 at 11:19PM

This explains it perfectly for me!! August 07, 2020 at 11:17PM

They hear lgbt terms and I guess they just come up with wild assumptions August 07, 2020 at 11:14PM

Oh my god lol August 07, 2020 at 11:13PM